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I was referred to this board after asking a question about my oldest starting kindergarten, however after reading the posts and articles here, I now have more questions about my youngest dd.<br><br>
She has always puzzled me. She has never slept much. Not as a 21 month old and certainly not as an infant. People used to asked me what time she went down for a nap and I'd say "She doesn't". The daycare center that cares for her would comment that she would maybe sleep for 30 minutes a day if they were lucky, but mostly she'd just sit back and watch everyone else. She rarely cried for them. At home she was fussy as an infant but as long as she was held and talked to she was fine. When I was nursing her she was distracted by EVERYTHING. As a toddler she is into everything. She also shares a room with her sister (the only way I could get her to stay quiet so we could get some sleep) and many nights keeps her 4 year old sister up for a while. The toddler is smart enough that when the older one complained and she heard our footsteps coming down the hall she'd lay down and pretend to sleep. When we walked out of the room she'd get back up and start making noise again. We caught her a few times when she wasn't quick enough.<br><br>
When she was just a couple of months old she was make these noises as if she was shaking a finger at us when I handed her to dh (she made it clear that she preferred to be near her food). When she got older she'd still do the same when she got mad. I can't remember how old she was when I thought I heard her say "bye bye" but I just thought....well she'll say it again (my oldest was such a show off). it was months later (I'm thinking she was 10 months) when I was standing at the park talking to another mom that we didn't really know. The other mom started to leave and plain as day waving her hand dd says "bye". She would say a lot of words one time and we'd never hear it again. Most of the time we were left wondering if we'd even heard what we thought we heard but it happened so many times that I'm sure we did hear them. All of the sudden around 15 months old or so, I was holding her sisters snack and she says "I want that" as she pointed to the snack. It was plain as could be. Ofcourse we never hear the sentence again so fast forward a few months and she is fussing for something to drink at dinner (I forot to give her a cup). Dh asked her where her cup is (not expecting her to answer) and she replies "I don't have one." Again plain as can be. At 20 months, we were traveling and I got out of the car with our oldest dd. While we were gone she told dh "I want to go get Mommy now." For the most part we hardly ever hear her say anything. She points and gets what she wants. She fusses when she can't point to what she wants. She has recently started repeating everything our other dd says. Mostly she just doesn't say much. Ok well tonight she told me "I walk" but that's unusual.<br><br>
She has never been one to show off or speak on command. She is fasinated by coloring right now (not that it's important but just so you get a picture of who she is). She never colors on anything but paper as if it's never crossed her mind to color on the walls.<br><br>
Can anyone else identify with this? Especially the selective talking? It's like she could completely carry on a conversation if she really wanted to. So funny it was probably a month or two ago I was wondering if there was something really wrong with her because of her selective talking.
 

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A lot of that sounds just like my daughter, including the not sleeping. She is 4 now and still doesn't sleep through the night.<br><br>
The talking is interesting as mine did something similar. Ours wasn't selective so much though. Mine wouldn't speak at all until she had it just right. We didn't get much baby babble or anything. It was like she just suddenly decided, at the age of 2, that she could talk and out came sentences. Before that it had only been the occassional single word.<br>
In fact almost every milestone that my daughter reached was the same way, she wouldn't even attempt things until she could just do it.<br><br>
I don't know if it's relevant but mine is an obsessive drawer as well. She draws for at least a couple of hours a day, it's really her escape.<br><br>
Your little girl sounds fascinating and I am looking forward to hearing more about her!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">She would say a lot of words one time and we'd never hear it again. Most of the time we were left wondering if we'd even heard what we thought we heard but it happened so many times that I'm sure we did hear them. All of the sudden around 15 months old or so, I was holding her sisters snack and she says "I want that" as she pointed to the snack. It was plain as could be.<br><br>
Can anyone else identify with this? Especially the selective talking? It's like she could completely carry on a conversation if she really wanted to. So funny it was probably a month or two ago I was wondering if there was something really wrong with her because of her selective talking.</div>
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I cannot identify this but dd2 does this as well. I wonder about it all the time..a few months ago I heard words like apple, diaper, up then they went away. She's 16 months now, and yesterday I heard " I got you" (a game we play), clear as a bell. Her first sentence but I don't think I am going to hear it again. She also points to everything to let us know what she wants. I was thinking that maybe she is waiting 'till she has it all perfect but I have no idea. I have no experience to go on, my oldest didn't start talking until she was 2.5!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">A lot of that sounds just like my daughter, including the not sleeping. She is 4 now and still doesn't sleep through the night.<br><br>
The talking is interesting as mine did something similar. Ours wasn't selective so much though. Mine wouldn't speak at all until she had it just right. We didn't get much baby babble or anything. It was like she just suddenly decided, at the age of 2, that she could talk and out came sentences. Before that it had only been the occassional single word.<br>
In fact almost every milestone that my daughter reached was the same way, she wouldn't even attempt things until she could just do it.</div>
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Ditto my dd. On both the not sleeping and the not talking or babbling and few or no single words.
 
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