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Hi all <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I'm new to this board.<br><br>
For two years, I have worked primarily from home. I meet with families at their home when DH is home in the evenings or on the weekends. About once or twice a month, DS is with a babysitter for 3 hours total. Then I do all the rest of my work from home, usually in the evenings.<br><br>
DS is more active now, and my workload has increased some. I found a part time program for him to go to, two mornings per week. He seems to be loving it. Today is his fourth day, no tears, he marched right in (he'll be two this weekend).<br><br>
The teacher is giving me the option of going two full days, as she had a kid leave in the afternoons. This is a certified, in home Montessori school, but she is very flexible with her parents and has mostly two and three year olds.<br><br>
Anyway. If I go to the two full days, the amount of work I could get done would be HUGE. Also, we are about to lose our babysitter (graduating from college), but I really wouldn't need one anymore with this arrangement. I could schedule all my out of home time on the two days DS is at school. Typically, I work in the late afternoons, into the evenings, so even if I had to work into the evening, DH could pick DS up from school (thats when I usually get a babysitter- to cover the overlap from when I leave to when DH gets home from work). Not to mention all the documenting I could get done, and could then completely focus on DS when I'm not working (b/c now, I field phone calls and sometimes cram work in, which isn't fair to him). I wouldn't have to stay up until midnight regularly anymore...<br><br>
But I'm very apprehensive about the two full days. DS is only in his third week of school, and seems to love it. BUT he is used to being away from me for 3ish hours (he's usually with dad during those times) and I wonder if 8 hours is just too much for him. We are making things work now, but it sure would be easier. I feel guilty for putting ds into school, but also know that I gave him two years as practically a SAHM, and that was great.<br><br>
This is really long- I'll be amazed if anyone made it this long. Anyway, any input? I'm not sure what to do.
 

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I work from home as well, and we just hired a nanny over the summer, as it was too hard to work without one once dd got more active.<br><br>
Anyway, long story short, we went through several, and the one we have now was only available two full days per week - I had been having them come several afternoons per week. I was a little nervous about the change as well, but dd1 seems to be doing great with it. And I have found I really like the schedule because 1) I am not trying to fit things in in odd moments and can focus on my dds exclusively when I am not working, and 2) I am not up until midnight every night (just some!) working. It does feel like a more cohesive life and a much better balance for us. It did take some getting used to on all our parts. The first few full days with the nanny were tiring for us all, but they have a routine now, and so do I.<br><br>
That said, my dd is a little older than your ds, and it is not an out of home care situation, so our circumstances are slightly different. But, if he seems to love school, why not give it a try for a full day, and see how he does? Would you still have the option of going back to half days? I think the only way you might know if it works is if you try it, and just stay flexible. I have discovered that having both a career and a family is a never ending quest for balance that changes sometimes daily as everyone's needs evolve.<br><br>
And please try not to feel guilty for having him in school a couple of days a week. I have tried to work with a little one around, and I finally came to the conclusion that it is just not fair to them to have a mommy who is so divided. Next to having me home and not working at all, which would be bad for our family on so many levels, dd1 seems much happier with the arrangement we have now than she did when I was trying to multitask.
 

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We are contemplating moving to 3 full day hours as well for all the reasons Dena mentioned. I am feeling guilty about it but right now I don't feel like a very good mom because I am so stretched. We are planning on trying the new arrangement next week to see how it works. I would say give it a try for a couple of days and if it doesn't work, you can go back to 1/2 days.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">...and could then completely focus on DS when I'm not working (b/c now, I field phone calls and sometimes cram work in, which isn't fair to him). I wouldn't have to stay up until midnight regularly anymore...</div>
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That sounds very positive, and good for you. I also WAH, and have done the midnight routine and it is just awful.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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You can try it and see how it goes. Do you have to commit to this? Can it be a trial? Maybe the school will have another opening later on for something like 3 days/week at shorter hours per day.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">...I feel guilty for putting ds into school, but also know that I gave him two years as practically a SAHM, and that was great.</div>
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Don't feel guilty. You are considering everyone's needs here and that is a good thing. You will not stop being his Mom if he goes to this program two days a week, KWIM?
 

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Can you work your way up to eight hours to help both of you adjust? I think it sounds like a no-brainer - he enjoys it there, and you can get your work done so you can concentrate on him when he is home. Also - sleep is important for mamas, too!!!
 

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I would do it. In fact, if I could find something like that for my kiddos, I'd do it in a second. As it is now, we have 4 half-days, which is a bit frustrating. I lose a lot of the precious work time I have driving to get them and pick them up.
 
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