[ellemnop]

Man, I just went back to work after 11 months of maternity leave and my coworkers are driving me crazy. If I have to hear another story of someone forcing a placenta out of someone by putting all of their weight on a new Mama's stomach, how children who cry because their Mama or Daddy isn't there should just be left, about how medically necessary inductions and epidurals are, etc. I'm going to go insane.

I had a male coworker tell me he had no idea why his cousin would labour at home before going to the hospital when she could just go and get an epidural as soon as she goes into labour. And my manager said that she had her epidural because she knew that it was going to start hurting eventually.

Blah. Just venting. I don't even consider myself *super* crunchy by any means, but I feel like I'm from another planet.

Take care,
El

 

[thefragile7393]

I can empathize...and congrats on 11 MONTHS for maternity leave! This time, I didn't get those comments, and I work with two ladies who birthed where my son was born and were happy with their natural births. The first time though...ugh. The comments were insane. I'm so sorry.

 

[kirstenb]

Makes me glad that 99% of my coworkers don't have kids! At least I don't have to listen to comments like that...

 

[ellemnop]

Yes, I'm incredibly grateful for the 11 months of maternity leave (although I was entitled to 12 but had to find a new job so had to look early). I just can't believe the stuff I am listening to.

 

[Mama2Bug]

The placenta thing...

I don't know how they can be so flippant about it! That was done to me (very much without my consent) and IT HURT SO MUCH.

 

[ellemnop]

Oh Mama, *hugs*, I can't even imagine. I thought that MY placenta was not handled properly because it was actively managed instead of passively managed. To have someone try to push it out from the outside, wow. They totally were flippant, though. "My placenta wasn't coming out, so this is what they did"... I was baffled.

Take care,
El

 

[cotopaxi]

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Originally Posted by kirstenb Makes me glad that 99% of my coworkers don't have kids! At least I don't have to listen to comments like that...

But I've found that those are the worst ones, lol. One in particular (doesn't work there anymore) was quite the "expert" in what I should be doing (CIO, putting my 12-month-old in timeout...) despite having no kids herself.

 

[azmomtoone]

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Originally Posted by cotopaxi But I've found that those are the worst ones, lol. One in particular (doesn't work there anymore) was quite the "expert" in what I should be doing (CIO, putting my 12-month-old in timeout...) despite having no kids herself.

LOL, well, I was an 'expert' too until DS was born, esp while I was pregnant.

She'll learn.

 

[Deer Hunter]

It woudl drive me batty, too, especially the part about the crying children being left. I' not sure if it is just me, but it seems that mainstream parents don't care too much about the feelings of their children, making them CIO when they are scared, anxious, or many other things, leaving them when they are not comfortable being away with you and just letting them scream, and their punishing styles. That is my opinion. I'm just ranting, too, because everyday, people like this drive me batty.

And all that other stuff about labor, wow! I'd prefer a home birth anyday over a hospital birth. At least I'm in my own home, I don't have strange people all over my private parts, and I don't have to hear about stupid policies about not being allowed to sleep with my baby in the bed. Heck! I'd just disobey it anyhow due to my beliefs in attachment parenting. And the epidural, I'm scared to death of those things, and it is for the better. I have always jumped when getting kneedles, and if I were to jump when getting an epidural, I'd be crippled. So to eliminate that risk, I'll NEVER have one. I don't care if I'm dying in pain. It just isn't natural. Women did not have it for thousands of years, so why now? All this stupid crap! Gosh! Sorry for my bluntness, I always tell it like it is. That's me.

Hold your head up, stay strong, and take your stand. I would be standing up for everything. Or, you could just ignore them if you are not the confrontational or extravert type by changing the subject or just letting them talk. If it gets too bad, just say that you don't want to talk about it because you'll never agree. I have a very strong personality, and I'll tell my beliefs with no hesitation at all. I will debate with no issues. Not negatively, of course, as my hope would be to change their way of thinking, I'd engage in the conversation taking my stand and explaining why I do. I hope I've helped.

 

[Deer Hunter]

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Originally Posted by cotopaxi But I've found that those are the worst ones, lol. One in particular (doesn't work there anymore) was quite the "expert" in what I should be doing (CIO, putting my 12-month-old in timeout...) despite having no kids herself.

Seriously!? I'm so sorry you received such horrible advice!

Yeah, a twelve month old will REALLY learn a valuable lesson about the time out! Ha ha! Sometimes, I have to laugh at people's stupidity. Just in case you did not notice, I do not have much patience for ignorance, lack of common sense, and stupidity. Gosh!