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I am a very active member on here but since I am dealing with a sensitive subject I need to protect my identity.... even still I am in desperate need of guidance and support.<br><br>
My ex has caused a great deal of emotionally abusive in my life for years. He has a history of being both emotionally and physically abusive with his estranged wife. He has been mostly MIA for three years seeing dd about 48 hours each year.... but he was at the birth and did sign the declaration of paternity. In the past his reasoning for being an absent father is because he had to make <i>his other child with special needs his priority</i>. Well now he is emailing me claiming <i><span style="text-decoration:underline;">parental alienation</span></i>, saying horrible things like I am <i><span style="text-decoration:underline;">withholding</span></i> dd, he is concerned about her welfare and my ability to parent and said I was kidnapping because he does not know where dd lives (yet he drove us here himself three years ago when we were released from the hospital and we have never moved since then). For the record all his claims are untrue!<br><br>
He is asking for tons of information I am not comfortable giving like the name address and phone numbers of the two college girls who babysit on occasion for me (whom he does not know even though he had the opportunity to interview them with me two years ago). And he wants a break down including name, address and phone numbers of all the places dd is on a consistent basis and wants her full scheduled outlined for him. He wants the names, addresses and phone numbers of anyone I have ever put on an emergency form for dd..... Does this not seem like a crazy request? Am I just resisting my solo parent life? I have filed for custody but he is avoiding service so does he have rights to any of this information? Honestly it seems he could use the information and attempt to take dd......... all while there is no court order in place. I feel he is absolutely crazy.<br><br>
His re-entrance in contact (after I was just beginning to self-heal) is breaking me down I feel myself shutting down due to the emotional abuse which is not good for dd since I am a solo mama. I am going to start seeing my DV councilor again (have a meeting scheduled for the end of next week) I stopped seeing her in the past due to a lack of childcare..... but it feels so overwealming.<br><br>
What am I to do?
My ex has caused a great deal of emotionally abusive in my life for years. He has a history of being both emotionally and physically abusive with his estranged wife. He has been mostly MIA for three years seeing dd about 48 hours each year.... but he was at the birth and did sign the declaration of paternity. In the past his reasoning for being an absent father is because he had to make <i>his other child with special needs his priority</i>. Well now he is emailing me claiming <i><span style="text-decoration:underline;">parental alienation</span></i>, saying horrible things like I am <i><span style="text-decoration:underline;">withholding</span></i> dd, he is concerned about her welfare and my ability to parent and said I was kidnapping because he does not know where dd lives (yet he drove us here himself three years ago when we were released from the hospital and we have never moved since then). For the record all his claims are untrue!<br><br>
He is asking for tons of information I am not comfortable giving like the name address and phone numbers of the two college girls who babysit on occasion for me (whom he does not know even though he had the opportunity to interview them with me two years ago). And he wants a break down including name, address and phone numbers of all the places dd is on a consistent basis and wants her full scheduled outlined for him. He wants the names, addresses and phone numbers of anyone I have ever put on an emergency form for dd..... Does this not seem like a crazy request? Am I just resisting my solo parent life? I have filed for custody but he is avoiding service so does he have rights to any of this information? Honestly it seems he could use the information and attempt to take dd......... all while there is no court order in place. I feel he is absolutely crazy.<br><br>
His re-entrance in contact (after I was just beginning to self-heal) is breaking me down I feel myself shutting down due to the emotional abuse which is not good for dd since I am a solo mama. I am going to start seeing my DV councilor again (have a meeting scheduled for the end of next week) I stopped seeing her in the past due to a lack of childcare..... but it feels so overwealming.<br><br>
What am I to do?