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We are adopting a little boy from Guatemala and right now he is 4 months old and 19 pounds! He won't be home for several months, so he will likely be even heavier by the time he comes home. I have wanted to wear him a lot, like you would any other baby at that age, but am I crazy to think that I won't hurt myself? I really want to wear my baby!
 

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you're not crazy! i still sometimes wear my 2.5 year old, 30 + lbs! of course, not for periods as long as a baby needs, but it's still quite do-able! and it will be a great way to bond too!
 

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Most slings are rated to at least 35 pounds. Some of the more structered systems and wraps can go further than that. And congrats on the new baby
 

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My baby was a similar weight and I always wore her. We never used the stroller. I still wear her in a mei tai and she is two and I am pregnant.
 

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I do suggest that you purchase a stroller as well as some sort of babywearing device (or several!) You don't know how your back is going to hold up- it's not like you've been able to wear him daily since birth and slowly get used to his weight. You might need to wear him only a little bit each day while building up back strength and a stroller might come in handy in the meantime.
 

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I appreciate the feedback. I do know that I will need to work up to carrying him more since he will be so big when he comes home. I'm also planning on lifting weights and practicing with something heavy in my MT to help me get used to the weight. Thanks for the encouragement that it can be done!!!
 

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I was wearing my DS ALL DAY when he was 25lbs at 8 months -- comfortably so in my wraps.<br><br>
However, I do agree you may want to buy a stroller as well, even if you find yourself wearing your baby all day <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Strollers are always good to have anyways (when you go to the mall, super long walks, if you have to haul a lot of stuff...)<br><br>
Oh - and congrats on your new baby!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">:
 

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I can wear my 40 lb almost 4 year old when I need to. I can even wear my 18 month old at the same time on rare occasions. (I usually just wear the little one...)<br><br>
You'll do brilliantly. I hope he is home with you soon.
 

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My one year old surpassed 20 pounds a long time ago and I still wear her. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I just got an Ergo and walk about 1.5 miles a day with my 27 pound 2 year old. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I sling my 4 month old for most of the day. He is big-close to 20 lbs. Here is what helps: dh taking turns when he is home, weight training (bent over rows, any exercises for lats, don't forget the abs & core body), and getting a massage every few weeks!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
Congratulations on your adoption. Your baby will really be blessed by all the time in arms.
 

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I wear my 2.5yo and almost 4yo all the time still <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> We use a mei tai and ergo.<br><br><br>
Good luck, and Congrats!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I love to wear ds who is 7 mos. and 23/24 lbs. but it is murder on my waist and on my back. I tried an Ergo and it did not work well for me maybe because I am rather large chested. I didn't fit comfortably at all. I wear ds on my back in teh traditional Nigerian way. DS loathes his stroller but I must use it at times when I am in pain. I think with younger babies, where they are shorter and the weight is more concentrated, wearing them is harder. I wore my nephew who's almost two and weight 28 lbs. and long on my back and it felt much lighter than wearing ds who is stout and stocky. I know for a fact that I was only able to use my sling for a very short period of time before I couldn't bear the uneven distribution of weight and the pain. Anyway . . .it's definitely possible to carry your "huge" baby but it definitely takes some planning/finding the right carrier and some patience/strength. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I wear my almost 3yo, 30 lb. dd in a mai tai. Good luck, I agree with pp don't plan to wear your babe for a long period at first! Good luck with your adoption!!!!!
 

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Just think... If you didn't wear your Dc, you'd have to carry them in your arms anyways.<br><br>
Better that the weight be distributed amongst many muscles rather than just your arm muscles.
 

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My baby is 15 weeks old and 18 lbs. I wear him everywhere! I find wraps (like a Moby) more comfortable for wearing him because it distributes his weight across both shoulders. I love my maya ring sling (so beautiful!) but it gets really uncomfortable after about 20 minutes because it puts all the weight on one shoulder.<br><br>
Enjoy your baby and WTG on adopting internationally! *applauds* God bless your family!!
 

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Congrats on the adoption! You can definitely wear a 17-20lb baby comfortably with a little practice. My 5 1/2 year old is about 39lbs right now and last week while we were out she got a bad tummyache so I put her sister in the shopping cart and put her in the sling and carried her around Wal-Mart for about 45minutes. I have to honestly say that after about 20 minutes I was really feeling it but she was really whiny so i couldn't put her down. But I think that was more her LONG legs and tall body poking out everywhere and making it sorta gangly to wear her, more than her actual weight that was bothering me. So it totally can be done. My 15 month old is about 21lbs right now and she is SO easy to sling. I wear her for up to 3 or 4 hours at a time without any problems. She usually wants to get down before I get tired of carrying her. I actually moved about a month ago with her in the sling, BY MYSELF! A 3 bedroom house, completely by myself, with Sara on my back in the maya wrap. That was 2 full days of packing, moving, throwing stuff out, and cleaning. wooo baby was I feeling it on the 3rd day!<br><br><br>
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