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I was curious how much your babies actually slept in their cribs (vice a moses basket or something else) for the first 6 months. I'm just thinking about how to set things up in the house and any input would be appreciated.
 

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Mine slept in the co-sleeper a bit, but she always was happier in my bed so that's where she usually was. My second child had medical issues so didn't co-sleep with us at all. My firstborn stayed in my bed until he was almost 5.<br><br>
DD (baby #3) refused to co-sleep after 11 mos. She would stay awake nursing all night long, kicking, climbing on my head... it was awful, and I was exhausted. One night I decided to give her crib a try, and she slept almost all night. She just was ready, I guess <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> She stayed with me until then though.
 

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never... but we didn't buy a crib until dd was 13 months old. We had planned on cosleeping and were so happy with it that when our bed started feeling cramped, we bought a crib so that we could side-car it to the bed to allow us more space but continued cosleeping. If we'd had the space, we would have been happy to add a twin bed instead, but we had just barely enough room to put a crib next to the bed.<br><br>
DD spent most of her naps in our bed upstairs actually, except for the ones she'd catch in the swing in the first couple months. I always thought I'd just put her on a little mat on the floor in the living room, but we always found that the naptime routine in bed worked best for her. I'm sure we'll keep the same pattern with the new baby, because I know a mat on the floor for the baby won't work with a toddler running everywhere.
 

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We are not a co-sleeping family (I even have a hard time sleeping with my husband) so the baby definitely has it's own space. I usually keep the baby in a pack n play in our room for 4 months. My 2nd stayed in the pack n play for almost the first year due to $$ issues (and her brother was still in the crib)
 

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My first pretty much never used the crib. She napped in my arms, on the couch, on a blanket on the floor, etc. and coslept with me. The younger two used the crib a bit more for naps, but I might have used a pack & play or moses basket or something like that for naps if I had owned such things.<br><br>
Now that I'm expecting my fourth, I'm thinking about buying my first pack &play and replacing the crib I gave away a couple of years ago. We have a dog that jumps on furniture and three active, loud kids. Baby will need a safe place to nap even if he always sleeps with us at night. What's more, *I* need him to nap somewhere that isn't on top of me, as my life is busier and more complicated these days. I may even put a play gym or other toys in a pack and play to keep him safe instead of having tummy time on the floor. I never thought I'd want to put my child in a "cage" but suddenly it seems appealing.<br><br>
My kids all sat up well quite early -- 4.5 months. When they can sit and roll, bassinets and the bassinet attachments on pack & plays become unsafe. My thought is to use a pack and play with its changing table and bassinet attachments for the first four or five months (assuming this guy follows the same developmental patterns as his older sisters) and then to see about purchasing a crib. I'm not keen on using the pack & play as a napping place once we have to stop using the bassinet insert. Leaning all the way over to put baby down so low is, in my experience, a surefire way to wake a contentedly sleeping baby.
 

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Two children and no cribs. We cosleeping when they are little,they nurse many times at night. I don't have to get up and they love to cuddle with mommy or daddy.
 

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Dd refused to be in the crib or bassinet. I have one picture of her sleeping in her crib when she was about 6 months old and I think she was only in there for like 15 minutes, but I have photographic evidence! Ds loved sleeping in the bassinet and crib and he would also play in the crib for a good 20 minutes while I took a shower. We stopped using the bassinet at 3 months because he could freakin crawl (NOT NORMAL) and the crib at 10 months because he was climbing out. At that point he went to his own big boy bed and loves it!
 

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We bought a crib as a "just in case" deal and we made sure to buy a converter so it wouldn't be a total waste. We have it side barred with our bed so DD can go back in forth as she pleases. She's 14 months and spends her mornings in her bed ... Standing up to watch out the window. She does not sleep in there. I used to be able to move her into it when we ended up going to bed, but now she wakes up and insists on sleeping in the middle of the bed.<br><br>
Honestly, if you aren't being a converter crib, it's a complete waste of money.<br><br>
I am glad we have it though. I'm hoping the new baby will sleep in there when it's born. It will still be side barred so night nursing should still work out, but it's nice just to have that extra width added to the bed.
 

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We actually did use our crib. We had a bassinett and she maybe slept oh 10 times there but the crib was used much more. We did a few naps a day in there pretty much from the start partly because she had a bibi blanket for jaundice and the crib provided the room we needed. She also slept part of the night in it then came into our bed after we want to sleep and she woke to be fed.. At sme point I know we started side carring the crib but I really can't remember when maybe around 4 months?? We co slept a ton as well but deffiently used the crib. Unfortually it didn't make a move it was destroyed by the movers but I actually am getting another. I'll also have a pack N play we got a lot of mulit use from that as well.<br><br>
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We never used ours. My mom bought it for us after I told her we wouldn't need one (she insisted everyone needs one), and the only time DD ever went in it was when my mom was visiting and would put her in it. (And DD would rarely lay content in it for longer than 30 seconds or a minute.) She napped in our bed or the futon downstairs and we cosleep. We'll likely do the same with this baby. The crib did make a great clean clothes hamper though when I didn't want to fold them right away. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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My DS wouldn't tolerate being laid down alone at all. I had a pack-n-play but never used it for sleeping. My plan was to buy a crib later but I never bothered. He has always coslept.
 

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Never? Maybe for part of a nap once or twice?<br><br>
We had a nursery set up w/ a crib. DS was born at a hospital (with midwives) and even in his bassinet there, he'd just stare and me and grunt even when he was fed, dry, etc. He really didn't like being alone in there and made it very clear. He was much happier being held or snuggling with us, so he ended up mostly cosleeping even in the hospital (fortunately no one said boo about it there).<br><br>
When we came home, we had a bassinet set up right next to the bed. He didn't really like it in there...was squirmy and seemed unhappy. In bed sleeping on us or next to us, he was a happy camper <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I also honestly found lifting him in/out of the bassinet in the middle of the night to be a PITA. We had a very tall bed and so the bassinet was much lower and it just wasn't fun (sounds minor but honestly, it was so much better to have him with us). We did briefly try a snuggle next between us but returned it. It didn't work well for us. So cosleeping it was.<br><br>
With my 2nd child, we sold the crib while I was still pg. We never even bothered with the idea of setting it up. We knew we'd just end up cosleeping.<br><br>
Baby #3 is on the way and we no longer own a crib. We'll just cosleep. Sleeping/nursing in sidelying was so helpful. DS was better at that in the early weeks as compared to DD (I had to sit up more in bed with her w/ the My Breast Friend pillow).
 

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Never, but it made an awesome safe place to put her and some toys so I could poop, vacuum or other few minute tasks that I like to do alone. We did figure out that when she was in our room/bed we were waking her up and not the other way around. She started sleeping in there around 8 months old, if I remember correctly. My how soon we forget.
 

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We had a co-sleeper for our daughter & also coslept with her. It was very convenient, especially in those first few weeks when she was waking up all.the.time & I was still recouperating from giving birth. She was also one of those babes who I "couldn't put down." I'm still conflicted in hindsight how much of that was her & how much of that was me as a first time mom.<br><br>
This time around we're buying a convertable crib that we'll probably sidecar for the first few weeks & then attempt to get the baby sleeping in there on her own. I want a crib, opposed to a co-sleeper or packnplay for a few reasons - 1) Cosleepers & packnplays are all cloth & we have a vindictive cat 2) A crib will be more versitile for us in terms of the girls sharing a room 3) A crib seems like a safer place for baby to be amidst a 95lb puppy who is still growing & a 3yo who is REALLY excited about her baby sister<br><br>
Like a few of the others, besides those first few weeks - sleeping with a baby in the bed (though "convenient") prevented us from sound sleep for over a year.<br><br>
Sometimes I wonder how "convenient" it actually was. Yes - she nursed ALL night long... but would she have been so interested in nursing if giant boobies full of milk weren't in her face all night? Who knows. This time, though, I'm going to experiment.<br><br>
ANYTHING that will get me more sleep I'll do - whether that's cosleeping or babe sleeping in her crib. Ultimately our goal is to get her sleeping on her own & sharing a room with DD as soon as appropriate.<br><br>
I also don't think buying a crib (or swing or whatever) is a "waste of money" if you end up not using it much. You can consign it, and especially if it's unused you can get a nice credit (or cash) for it. I JUST ran out of credits at my local consignment shop after buying all of Syd's clothes for the last 3 years & maternity clothes for me. The maternity clothes took up a bunch of credits - otherwise I came out even for 3 years! Every time I consigned I could buy a whole new season of clothes for Syd + some toys.<br><br>
Good luck! Don't be afraid to try what you want to - what works for someone else might not work for you & vice versa... just do what makes you happy now! You can always change <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Like harmie0515, we were unable to co-sleep and actually get any sleep so we used a bedside mini cosleeper for 3-4 months and then switched her to the crib (though the transition was rocky and she seemed to spend every night in like three different places as we tried to get her to sleep. This time I'm going to try and put the baby to nap in the crib from the beginning so it is more used to it and maybe the transition will be easier. The mini cosleeper wouldn't have worked much longer - she was getting too big for it.
 

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DD slept in hers exactly once. She would wake up every time we tried to put her in there. I really don't know why. I agree that if you want one, you should get one. We bought ours brand new on ebay and sold it for nearly as much as we paid for it. I don't feel it was a waste, because I did try it at least. If I'd never purchased one, I'd never have known that she hated it. lol (I also believe that if you don't want one, you shouldn't feel like you have to get one. I'm a big believer in doing whatever sounds good and knowing you can always change your mind if it doesn't work out. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">)
 

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My oldest co-slept with us unti he was 2yo and wanted his big boy bed.<br>
My dd did not like co-sleeping <span style="text-decoration:underline;">until</span> she was 2yo. I tried to co-sleep with her and she would fuss until I put her in the pack n play and then drift off to sleep.<br>
For her the pack n play with bassinet worked next to our bed and then she moved into the crib in her brothers room. I never used the pack n play for anything else so we don't have one this time.<br>
For this one we have a crib set up in our room just in case. We also have a different bed now. We bought king size so the kids could sleep with us when they wanted, but it has a pillow top that has developed a big hill in the middle of us. The kids have a hard time sleeping on it because they roll off of it at night, so we will have to see if it is safe for baby. This bed was the worst purchase ever but I am too cheap (and broke) to buy another one especially after spending $1500 on it<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">.
 

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Non of my babies ever slept in the crib. Two of them might of taken one or two naps total each in it. I am not even going to bother setting it up this time. Mine also never slept in the moses basket I had. It was always my arms, the sling, the swing, the glider, or my bed.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Dd refused to be in the crib or bassinet. I have one picture of her sleeping in her crib when she was about 6 months old and I think she was only in there for like 15 minutes, but I have photographic evidence! Ds loved sleeping in the bassinet and crib and he would also play in the crib for a good 20 minutes while I took a shower. We stopped using the bassinet at 3 months because he could freakin crawl (NOT NORMAL) and the crib at 10 months because he was climbing out. At that point he went to his own big boy bed and loves it!</div>
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LOL, I too have a picture of the one time dd slept long enough in a crib for me to photograph it!<br><br>
We planned to start her in one of those snuggle nests that are like a tiny bed you put in bed with you, adn then transition her to the crib. I actually never thought I would cosleep. Well, she hated both of them, and by the end of the first night, she was just in our bed. We occasionally tried her in a pack and play next to the bed for the first half of the night. When she turned one, we finally gave up on the crib and just put her mattress on the floor and she would start the night there. Now, at 2.5, she decided she only wants to sleep in her toddler bed (I am both happy and sad about this!)<br><br>
Luckily, our crib was borrowed, so it wasn't a big waste of money. We are not putting up a crib for this one, but are going to try the Arm's reach cosleeper-although I have a feeling we will end up cosleeping again, it is just so much easier!
 
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