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We had an Arm's Reach co-sleeper, and it suited all three of us just fine. Ds slept part time in our bed, part time in his little bed, and was very happy. Not only that, but the little bassinet took up very little space, doubled as a changing table, and provided storage for his clothes.<br><br>
But now he is 7 months old, and very long, and sitting up, and threatening to develop all kinds of mobility :)LOL)<br><br>
and way too big for the co-sleeper bassinet. So my mom lobbied and then paid for a new crib. We still don't have another bedroom conveniently located, and anyway he's still night nursing, so we decided we'd put it in our bedroom and maybe sidecar it.<br><br>
Well, it's in our bedroom. The bassinet will be our changing table--it's exiled in the dining room. How appetizing! We also had to move one of our nighttables and all the junk on that. The guys who came to set up the crib just set it up any old way, so the drawer is on the same side of the crib as the moveable rail. We have not yet sidecar-ed the crib.<br><br>
Now guess what: the baby won't sleep in the crib. He took one nap in there, but if we put him in it asleep, he wakes up and realizes it's the crib and starts to cry. Also it's not so easy to bring the rail up and down without making noise. So he's been sleeping with us all night. It's been okay, but a bit cramped.<br><br>
If we are going to go over to full-time bed sharing, we need to buy a bigger bed. We can't really put the bed on the floor (a good suggestion, but I have asthma and need to be up, out of the dust.)<br><br>
1. Where are the crib side-car instructions? I can't find them on the Baby forum where I first saw them.<br>
2. Does anyone who family beds have a lot of different bedtimes? How do you deal with baby sleeping alone in the bed? Do you use those railings?<br>
3. Has anyone made a good transition from one kind of bed to another?<br>
4.What should I tell my mom if we decide to return the crib? Something nice and tactful please. I have to make sure she'd get a full refund.<br>
5. <b>Return crib and buy new bed? keep same bed and get used to it? sidecar crib? Your vote!</b>
 

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There's a site with instructions for turning a crib into a side-car here:<br><br><a href="http://pages.ivillage.com/gentlegoodnight/sidecar.html" target="_blank">http://pages.ivillage.com/gentlegoodnight/sidecar.html</a><br><br>
This is what we have done with our crib, as the Arm's Reach is not available in Europe. I've been very pleased with it and it's still working well with my 7-month-old dd.
 

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We were all over the map with sleeping arrangements with my youngest (2 1/2). She was in our bed (queen) until she got a little bigger (I'm guessing 5 months). The I put the crib up in our room, but I didn't put the side on it. I would tie it to our bed with my dh's ties when she was using it, otherwise it was just pushed over to the side of the room. That worked out fine for a while. The I was worried about her falling out of the bed. I couldn't push our bed against a wall because of the spacing of our room. We then just lowered our bed, not on the floor but where the box springs would be if we had them. We did that for a while and then I got her a twin mattress and I put it next to our bed with a guardrail. Then I moved her mattress in the corner. Now she's in her own room, but I lay down with her every night until she falls asleep.<br>
One time during all of this we did put the side up on the crib and she just screamed in terror and we got rid of it that week (We also knew we weren't going to have any more kids). Now on the other hand my ds slept in his crib with the side up next to our bed for two years and it worked out fine.<br>
I guess what I'm trying to say is that we changing our sleeping arrangements a bit and it worked fine with us.<br>
When I put dd to bed I would lay down and nurse her to sleep for about 45 minutes and then I would leave the room until I was ready to sleep. We had 2 bed rails, but I felt better when she was moving a little more, when the bed was closer to the floor.<br>
All of our transitions were fine.
 

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We're in the same boat here so I'll be watching this post for ideas. I never thought I'd be thinking of a crib but for napping and before we come to bed now I am. Our place is really small so I can see ds from where I sit after he's gone to bed if I stay in one room. He usually goes to sleep an hour or 2 before us. The co-sleeper sits unused except for holding dipes, ds was never that keen on it, he likes to snuggleup close. Sounds like your ds might like it tho if you took the rail down and side-carred it. Maybe if you put some familiar blankies and stuff in and you went to bed with him for the first few nights it may work. I'd tell your mom the truth. Anyway I feel like I'm nattering on and not being too helpful so I'll just say I hope you find something that works for you.
 

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we sidecar with a crib. It was quite a feat to set it up. Dh had to build a platform for the mattress since none of the preset spots line up with OUR mattress. we also had to lash the legs together since we needed to remove one entire side of the crib, not just slide it down. Your model may be very different though. One thing you may need to do is pad the mattress. I don't know what kind of covering actual 'sidecar/co-sleepers have but after sleeping a year or so on our 'grown-up mattress' Bonnie did not care for the crinkly plastic waterproof baby mattress AT ALL. Now that we have padded it a great deal it is better.<br><br>
Something a friend of mine did: Instead of a crib or sidecar they simply bought a twin bed. Put side rails on each side. (In many bedrooms one side could be against a wall. Her bedroom was HUGE!) This decision eliminated issues of height.. his bed lined right up with theirs. Also, they have a bed that will last him years and years rather than $$ for crib, $$ for Jr bed and then $$ for 'big boy bed'. If you can't make the crib work and have the space, consider it.
 

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we got a king sized bed after ds2 was born and never looked back. we put it on the floor so if they fell out it was only a short distance, and this only happened maybe twice with each kid <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> usually onto a very soft carpet. ok flame away, but none of them were hurt.<br><br>
shoving the bed up against the wall was another solution (stuffing the gap with blankets) as was putting up the toddler side rail and stuffing the gap with blankets or a small pillow. You can tuck the edge of the covers btwn the mattress and box spring to prevent them from falling out, as well. We also would put pillows around the child when they reached 6mo, to prevent them from rolling to the other side of the bed. This worked with two of my kids and not with the other two.<br><br>
my oldest slept in a tofddler bed, but not until he was 3yo. and it was at the foot of our bed. Then when ds2 was 2yo and ds1 was 5 1/2, they shared a twin (on the floor) next to our king. A year later they shared a room together, and ds3 was in with us then I got pg with dd. 3 mo before dd was born, we moved ds3 into the room with his brothers, he had jus turned 2yo. he adjusted better than I expected, occasionally coming in with us, but not all the time, kwim? My boys also like sleeping with eachother, and swap beds a lot.<br><br>
does that help?
 

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We put Jackson to sleep hours before we go to bed. Right now we line the edge of the bed with pillows and keep the baby monitor on loud. I don't think he would be able to scootch his way to the edge without making a peep, but I still get nervous. We can't decide if we want to get rails or put the bed on the floor as our next step.<br><br>
A hint for the crib: we were trying to do crib napping and it wasn't working at all. We tried familiar blankets, blankets that we had slept on, etc. and nothing. I realized that the crib mattress is substantially firmer than our bed mattress, so I laid two towels down in the mattress and covered them with a familiar flannel blanket. Success!! I think ds just prefers the softness of our mattress, so he was fine once I was able to recreate that in his crib. HTH!
 

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As far as I know, the drawer is supposed to be on the movable rail side. That's how ours is, and how all the others are set up, and unless you are doing a side car its really how it should go.<br>
We've got this set up - ;her crib is pushed against the wall in the corner. Our bed is pushed up beside it. Its not actually hooked together at all, we just check to make sure there are no gaps, and push the bed up again every couple days just in case. The only problem is that to get the mattresses to touch, it leaves a gap between the baby mattress and the back of the crib. So we've got a bumper tripled over and put in there. She's 17 months plus she usually sleeps right on the edge of her bed and ours, so there isn't a big risk of suffocation. When she takes naps or just goes to bed before us, she sleeps in her crib, just like at night. No rails needed, its a long ways to the side of the bed, plus she knows how to get up and down from the bed anyway. We just recently transitioned her from fully sleeping with us in our bed and this has been great.
 

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We had the exact same thing happen and this is what we did- we took the mattress out of the Arms Reach and put it on the floor next to our bed. I'd lay with him until he was sound asleep and then leave. When I went to bed I'd either bring him in with me or go to sleep and wait for him to wake up and then bring him in with us.<br><br>
When he got even bigger, I did take the crib mattress (mil had bought us one that we never used) and put it on the floor by our bed.<br><br>
Actually, tonight is the first night that ds2 is in his own room! He is 15months and we set up his room and put his mattress on the floor and he's sleeping in there right now! When he wakes in the late night/early am I'll bring him in bed with us <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I decided to put him in his own room for naps and before I go to bed so I can have my room back, lol! And have some fun with dh without worrying about waking our light sleeper.<br><br>
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