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I have been looking through here and don't even know if this is something you talk about on here, but anyone dealing with an extreme case of colic? I feel like running away and never coming back. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/guilty.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="guilty"> My son was born a month premature and he screams constantly, not just "I'm tired" but "someone ripped off my little finger" hysterical crying. I can't take it anymore. I really don't know what to do. Its been five nights in a row where every night he screams for about two hours, sometimes three, on average. We take him for car rides for an hour or so, which calms him for the time being, but now he screams when we get him home and take him out of the seat. Solutions would be great, but I think right now what I need most is success stories? Will he really grow out of it? Is that just a lie?<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bawling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bawl"> I am on antidepressants (lowest possible dose) and suffering from PPD, but on top of that we have the screaming. I think if it was just one thing I could cope, but all at once is overwhelming and I just wish it would get better. He has been like this for almost three months now, with no end in sight. I feel so tense I think I could throw up, and I just want it to get better! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/rant.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rant">: Does it get better? We have tried swaddling (he outgrew it, now he cries harder) we have an amby hammock (he loves it but still wakes up screaming 3-4 times a night) tried co-sleeping (he screams, and he is a loud sleeper, so Mommy and Daddy don't sleep anyway, and then we are a clan of zombies.) I love my baby so much, and couldn't imagine the world without him, but I can only take so much! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bawling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bawl"> I just don't know what to do anymore... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/rant.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rant">:
 

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IMO, colic is a very overused term. Babies that scream and can't be consoled are hurting, and we just have to figure out why. Has he been evaluated for reflux? My DS's main reflux symptom was prolonged screaming episodes (his were all day, though, not just at night).<br><br>
Hugs to you, mama. I hope you get some answers. Mine has been sick for nearly 2 months now and screaming all. the. time. So I feel your pain.
 

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Sounds like something else is going on. Are you breast feeding or formula feeding?<br><br>
You can try grip water sometimes this works. Swings or vibrating bouncers sometimes work. Change in scenery sometimes works.<br><br>
My little man gets upset sometimes and cries unconsolably for an hour or two. If I am about to cry, I let my husband try to calm him down. If my husband was not here I will place him in the crib, close the bedroom door and take a breather so I can get it together. (I have not had to do this.) Babies can feel your stress so if you need a 5-minute breather, put your child in a safe place close the door and try to regain composure.
 

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My son had a similar thing. Every hour he'd wake up...SCREAMING in pain...it was horrible. The reflux meds didn't help nearly as much as the doctor said it would.<br><br>
It got a lot better once we realized he had a problem with dairy causing him intense pain. Stopped the dairy and he got better. Still not a great sleeper or anything, but by comparison...it was heavenly. Not listening to him cry in pain was the biggest relief I have ever felt, he still cried occasionally...but it didn't leave me as unable to cope with life as the other cries did. Those cries pierced my heart in ways I can't explain, and don't try to.<br><br>
I know what it's like to hold a baby screaming in pain and all you can do is hold them and promise that somehow you'll figure it out and make it better...even when the doctor doesn't believe you and keeps saying it's JUST colic! 7 weeks I was told colic, it wasn't another month or so before they said reflux...and it was a kind soul on the internet a month after that who said...have you tried dairy?<br><br>
The change in him as a baby was amazing, the change in his sleep not so great, but by comparison, I wasn't complaining!<br><br>
After we started him on solid foods the issues started again. Uhm, dumb me totally didn't think to avoid dairy again...so uhm...yeah...and then guess what? It took me a while to figure out the problem <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
Anyway, if you are nursing, try two things, get your son tested for reflux and remove ALL dairy from your diet. It will take about 2 weeks I think for it to totally disappear. Watch though, dairy hides in the craziest of places...bread, hot dogs, enhanced orange juice...medicines.<br><br>
If you decide to try the dairy route, send me a PM, I've done the dairy elimination thing and know the ropes. In fact, my son still can't have much dairy without being sick, and my daughter can have NONE or she's sick before she even leaves the table. Trying to learn how to cook without butter or milk or cream or anything that I was used to using was rough. Much better for us health wise, but rough <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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There are some studies that show giving the baby Lactobacillus reuteri (a probiotic) helps with 95% cases of colic. I don't have actual studies, but you can Google it and find the info. It also might be reflux. When I brought my son home his reflux got worse because he was moved around much more (he was still on breast milk at the time), but he was too old to really have classic colic. You can buy the probiotics on line and they are relatively inexpensive (around $20), but if you are still breast feeding I don't know how you get them into him unless you gave him a bottle once a day. I understand about running away, the nonstop crying can be a drain, but if he's crying that loud and that long he's in pain. If you have to, bug the crap out of your pedi.
 

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I am pumping b/c he doesn't latch on for long enough to get a good meal. I am afraid it may be the dairy and am going to try that again this two week period and see. I am considering just giving him soy formula b/c the pumping is exhausting. I don't know what to do. I will figure it out in time. Thanks for the tips, I will give it a try.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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My twins were colicky, no reflux, true colic. They screamed from 7pm-3am every single day, both of them! It drove us <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: I was pumping at the time and supplementing with formula b/c I wasnt able to produce enough milk.<br><br>
About a month later or so, I started to dry up probably b/c of NO sleep, stress, etc. We changed formula to Nestle Good Start (after trying everything including soy, etc). That seemed to help a little but not enough. So we then changed to Dr Brown bottles, 24 hours later, colic was GONE FOR GOOD!! Never heard another peep out of them.<br><br>
Thats my successful colic story...
 

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Good idea about eliminating the dairy, it might help.<br><br>
My little one had severe colic, and although we took him in time and time again, all everyone ever said was, "yep, colic!".<br><br>
On the bright side, it DID eventually go away, and now DS is pretty good at night. I failed to notice when exactly it went away, becuase by the time the coilc resolved, DS was crying at night becuase he was tired, not colicky. So then we introduced the bedtime routine, and voila! our nighttime woes were over.<br><br>
But how did we handle the colic? We left him in a basket on the neighbor's front porch, rang the doorbell, and ran! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Seriously, it was a combination of things that helped. Dairy elimination did not help us, nor did eliminating most other foods. We gave him gripe water nightly, but stayed away from the stuff with baking soda, because I read that sodium bicarb. inhibited iron absorbtion and DS was anemic to begin with. If you want the specific brand, PM me and I'll dig through our stuff to find it. We had to buy it via mail order. We also bought a Moby wrap and used it every single night. DH and I would take turns walking him in the Moby, and that seemed to help. Many nights, we put him in the shower with us, and just let the water gently run over his tummy. We also turned off all of the lights and sat in a dark room with white noise (such as beach waves, TV static, etc.) playing in the background. We established a nighttime colic ritual, and used all of these "remedies" consistently, and the consistency helped a lot. Even if he would cry at first while in the Moby, we would stick to it, and after a while, we could feel him start to relax.<br><br>
We borrowed a lot of the ideas (wrapping, consistency, etc.) from Happiest Baby on the Block.<br><br>
I hope this helps a bit. I agree with the other poster who said colic is overused. I KNOW there was something wrong with DS, but no one knew what. Whatever it was, we labeled it as colic and he grew out of it after about two and a half months.<br><br>
Good luck to you!
 

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My DD had terrible colic. No matter how many times I went to doctors and health clinics with her, they could never find anything wrong with her. So I had to endure her screaming pretty much all day every day. There would be breaks around 10am and then if I went out and about with her, she would sleep for a long time.<br><br>
I had a stretchy wrap which really helped. She would fall asleep instantly when in it. The upright tummy 2 tummy position really helped. Could you sleep with her in that position? I did that a few nights and it really helped. (Then I got scared about co-sleeping due to a public health nurse putting the fear of goddot in me about it. Wish I had stood up to her at the time).<br><br>
But what I found really really helped was tummy massage. I would apply a baby oil or olive oil to my hands and, applying a littl pressure, rub her tummy in clockwise circular motion. Then I would take one hand flat and firmly (but not too firmly) and rub it downwards over her tummy. I would alternate hands while doing this. Lastly I would take her knees and, while keeping her bum on the ground/mat, would bring them gently up to her tummy. Obviously if your baby is fighting you, don't persist. But this in particular helped release lots of trapped wind and did reduce her pain. Cycling the legs can also help, especially if you think there is a lot of wind.<br><br>
Definately try the elimination diet, if you think your baby could have an intolerance or allergy. I found that broccoli, onions, chocolate, in fact any sugary things, very doughy and gluteny foods, eggs (especially) and juice made her especially colicky and caused a lot of pain, diarhea and wind for her. (thankfully that didn't last longer than about 6-8 months and I can now eat those foods with very little problems, mostly).<br><br>
Good luck and hugs to you!
 

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That sounds so hard--big hugs to you.<br><br>
I would try:<br><br>
- CHIROPRACTIC ADJUSTMENT and/or cranio-sacral therapy. Can make an incredible difference, esp if your babe is in fact in pain. I've heard lots of miracle stories--definitely give this a try with a practitioner who has experience with infants<br><br>
- elimination diet<br><br>
- probiotics for babe (put some powder on your finger and let him suck it)<br><br>
- slinging and other ideas from Happiest Baby on the Block<br><br>
- different bottles (I've also heard Dr Brown's are the best for colic)<br><br>
- if all else fails, try reflux meds: they really can help a lot if that's what's causing the pain, and reflux is pretty common in premies/early babes.
 

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I could have written your post about two and a half years ago. I really feel for you. Let me tell you, it does get better. It gets so much better.<br><br>
For me, it got better when we discovered that the cause for my son's colic was a corn allergy. I thought that I was just a terrible mother. We discovered the corn allergy after multiple failed attempts at elimination dieting (turned out that the salt I was using on my rice was iodized salt which is corn derived, and the pears likely had a glycerin based wax on them, also corn derived).<br><br>
When I got to my absolute wits end and was literally going to check into the psychiatric clinic, I sent my colicky baby to his grandma's for the weekend and had her put him on Alimentum ready-to-feed formula. I was a breastfeeding crusader, so this was no easy thing for me to do, but I didn't feel up to pumping enough milk for him for the weekend. My mom called me later that day and said my son took a five hour nap. I was stunned. Five hours?! He would usually only sleep for 45 minutes tops!<br><br>
Anyway, I wish I had time to say more. If you want, you can read through my oldest posts and get the details on what we went through with the corn allergy. I just want to let you know that there are answers and it does get better. I never dreamed I could have the relationship with my son that I have today. He seemed like such a little bundle of fury back then. Don't forget to take care of yourself, too. Maybe hand baby off to your DH or someone you trust and take a warm bath and get some sleep for yourself. He'll probably cry, but at least you'll be able to comfort him better when you've given yourself a chance to relax a bit.
 

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I'm where you are, but a little ahead. I had a 34-weeker, and he was just like your guy.<br><br>
My babe had pyloric stenosis. Does your baby spit up a lot also?<br><br>
Unfortunately, baby has been screaming ever since as well. We have started Prevacid and it's helped, but he's still cranky. He has days that he'll cry for hours and hours. I'm trying elimination diets now. We already tried craniosacral therapy and she had to stop after 7 tries (even at our house) because he wouldn't stop crying for her to do anything. We're also seeing a chiropractor.<br><br>
I would suggest trying reflux meds as a quick potential fix.<br><br>
Nothing more to add except HUGS mama. I know how hard it is. Sometimes I can't help but just cry along with him.
 
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