I have been completely anti-CIO from before LO was even born. He ended up being a very high need kiddo meeting all 12 of dr sears criteria and then some lol. He is now almost 8 months old. I found out around 4 months that my parenting style is mostly AP. DH always just told me i spoiled him and to let him cry etc. I found article upon article to email to him for him to read about high need babies, effects of CIO, etc.<br><br>
DS has been a horrible sleeper his whole life and has just started a new thing where he actually seems to need to cry before he can sleep. Maybe to get excess energy out, maybe to process, I don't know. He will toss and turn while I try to nurse him, and I lay there and try to hold him or rub his back and he fights me. Eventually he ends up crying, doesn't want anything to do with me, and 5 minutes later comes back for the boob (hes on a full size mattress and rolls around) and goes right to sleep. My patience with him is getting less and less, as 8 months of severe sleep deprivation is finally catching up with me. He is getting marginably better, but I am still exhausted, and no one can help except dh who works 80 hour weeks. (he still wants to do CIO)<br><br>
He seems to need this cry and fuss and roll around period before he falls asleep, but it has me VERY frustrated, and he usually pulls my hair, pinches my nipples and kicks my still sore c-section scar.<br><br>
I want alternatives to "letting" him cry, or ways to deal with it or make it less frusterating for me. (Swaddling never worked).<br><br>
Thoughts?
DS has been a horrible sleeper his whole life and has just started a new thing where he actually seems to need to cry before he can sleep. Maybe to get excess energy out, maybe to process, I don't know. He will toss and turn while I try to nurse him, and I lay there and try to hold him or rub his back and he fights me. Eventually he ends up crying, doesn't want anything to do with me, and 5 minutes later comes back for the boob (hes on a full size mattress and rolls around) and goes right to sleep. My patience with him is getting less and less, as 8 months of severe sleep deprivation is finally catching up with me. He is getting marginably better, but I am still exhausted, and no one can help except dh who works 80 hour weeks. (he still wants to do CIO)<br><br>
He seems to need this cry and fuss and roll around period before he falls asleep, but it has me VERY frustrated, and he usually pulls my hair, pinches my nipples and kicks my still sore c-section scar.<br><br>
I want alternatives to "letting" him cry, or ways to deal with it or make it less frusterating for me. (Swaddling never worked).<br><br>
Thoughts?