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DD will be 3 in May...still nursing to sleep, still night nursing. We're co-sleeping (couldn't manage this any other way).<br><br>
I've glanced around at posts about trying to estimate when 'older' kids will wean in general and I'm heartened to hear responses like 'thought child would never wean but it happens!' etc. but I'm wondering more about the night nursing.<br><br>
For others who have been in this situation (child who doesn't look to be giving up mommy milk anytime soon who are also night nursing)...did your child(ren) wean from night nursing concurrent with or before general weaning? Was it some kind of magical revelation...night nursing one night and suddenly stopped or more gradual? I know they're all different...but I have no comparison.<br><br>
I've long long long ago stopped keeping tabs on the frequency of our night nursing...some nights it's a lot, some minimal. DD has to nurse to sleep and has rarely fallen asleep any other way (almost never in car, etc.) so this is one of those things that I just can't ever see happening without gazing into some kind of crystal ball and reassuring myself that she won't be night nursing when she's 16 (right??) I've pretty much had to give up evening activities with other adults (boo hoo me) and I'm vaguely wondering when I'll be able to rejoin a book club or something <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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Wow! You sound exactly like my ds and me. I will be interested to hear what others have to say who have actually weaned. My son just turned three last month and our situation is just like you've described. We went for quite a long stretch where ds would night nurse maybe once, sometimes only just before he awoke in the morning...currently it is much more frequent. Last night I think I nursed him about five different times. I think he is getting one of his final molars currently, so that would definitely have an effect on frequency. Anyway, it's nice to see someone describe my situation and know that I'm not the only one. I, too have given up adult evening activities and<br>
wouldn't mind joining a book club again sometime in the next ten years <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">, but mostly I'm just enjoying this time, knowing that it will end eventually and I will be heartbroken and sad.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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DS will be 4 in June and still night nurses. Every kid is different, and for him the night nursing is his thing. He rarely asks to nurse during the day, but he still NEEDS to nurse to sleep and to wake and sometimes asks in the middle of the night too. Often I have noticed that when he asks at night he's just talking in his sleep and that's just what he's used to saying first. So I lay still for a minute or two and see if he really needs to nurse or if he's just talking in his sleep.<br>
And other times he'll nurse in the middle of the night for a minute and then say "may I have some water please" -- always makes me laugh, like, ummmm, no milkies isn't doing it, I need something else from the menu.<br><br>
Anyhow, I don't see DS giving up nursing in bed any time soon.
 

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Good for you guys for being there for your children. It happen so gradual around my house and glad I did keep with it. Last one to go was bedtime for both my boys. Cherish the times they are with you..It will end.
 

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My son is 5.5 and still night nurses.<br>
He has slowed down, he use to want to be attached all night now I can actually sleep half the night or 75% without him attached.<br>
Enjoy it while it last, they grow up sooo fast.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/happytears.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="happytears">:
 

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Dd (3) still night nurses, tho it's lessening. However, that has spelled an increase in day sessions, when nothing else is "going on" and she's wanting to relax on Mom.<br><br>
AND she makes her way from her own room, in the dark, and gets in bed and <i>sneaks</i> onto the boob!<br><br>
I'm very spoiled... <i>she</i> comes to <i>me</i>, and doesn't even wake me, usually! Lol!<br><br>
I know it won't last much longer..... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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My guy will be 3 this summer and I see no end in sight! He still nurses about 3 times during the night and about 4 times during the day...<br><br>
My oldest didn't nurse this long, so I'm trying to enjoy it (this will be my last babe) but man, would I love a little more sleep!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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With my first, the going to sleep nursing was the last to go. Same with my current nurser. He will be 4 in a few months, and he nurses to go to sleep at night and at naptime. He occassionally nurses at upsets/boredom during the day. He usually sleeps through a big chunk at night, (unless he is sick or some other reason, like an overstimulated day), but when he wakes, he definitely needs to nurse to go back to sleep. I'm fine with it, too, maybe because I also think this may be my last time nursing.<br><br>
I have found, though, that he can go to sleep with daddy, just not when I am here. So, I can go to book group, and as long as he is pretty tired, he can lay down with dad and big brother and fall asleep with them reading stories. However, it is usually pretty late, and he needs to be pretty tired, and I can't be in the house. If I am in the house, even if he has read stories with them, he comes and finds me to nurse to fall asleep.<br><br>
It's working. I can go out at night, but I can't be gone when he wakes up, because he would be very fussy and need to nurse to go back to sleep. So I'm not doing any overnights away yet, but that's not my wish yet anyway.<br><br>
Good luck! It does happen, and I'll bet you won't even notice it! That's what happened with my first. Just sometime between the age of 3 and 4, he started nursing less and less, only to go to sleep at night. And then one day, I just realized, wow, we haven't nursed in a few weeks! And I didn't even remember when the last time was! It made my heart sigh!<br><br>
So, yes, you are right, you can be sure she will not be night nursing at 16!
 

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DD1 stopped waking up at night right after she turned 3. It was not gradual, she went from waking up *very* frequently to not at all literally overnight. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I remember being there thinking she would NEVER stop nursing at night.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">DD1 stopped waking up at night right after she turned 3. It was not gradual, she went from waking up *very* frequently to not at all literally overnight. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I remember being there thinking she would NEVER stop nursing at night.</div>
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that's very reassuring to me -- thanks!<br><br>
my dd2 (almost 3) nurses at least 4-5 times a night -- and as much during the day, and the night nursings are beginning to get to me. although i believe strongly in child-led weaning, we are hoping to conceive #3 & i really could use a little more sleep at this point.<br><br>
i've been contemplating trying to night wean, but i'm actually too tired these days to try to do anything other than nurse her back to sleep each time she wakes up.<br><br>
i can't help wondering whether she'll <i>ever</i> night-wean on her own if i don't push her (even though i wouldn't mind if she kept day-nursing for years <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">)
 

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My dd turned 3 in February and still night nurses. She has to nurse to sleep and nap and bedtime if I'm home. She can fall asleep without when I'm at work. I honestly don't know how much she nurses at night since she cosleeps with me. I'd say she nurses around 5ish am. She also nurses as she's rowsing before she wakes up. Then when she finally wakes up she has no recollection of nursing and asks for boobie again.<br><br>
She also nurses several times a day.
 

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This is why I love MDC. On other boards, all you get are the moms of 3 month olds crying about how their babies won't sleep through the night...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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I was just about to post this exact same question...I'm glad I took the time to scroll a bit.<br>
DD will be 3 in May and is still nursing like a 6 month old it seems!! I would love for her to decide that sleeping through the night sounds like a good idea, and like a PP said, I'm just too tired to think about going through the process of NWing. We still cosleep, even though she has a toddler bed that she loves, but only during waking hours! The nursing to sleep is ok, but the 4+ nursings at night get to me sometimes.<br><br>
I loved reading all these responses, and it seems like there are lots of variations!
 

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"DD has to nurse to sleep and has rarely fallen asleep any other way (almost never in car, etc.) so this is one of those things that I just can't ever see happening"..... LOL<br><br>
My boy will be 4 in May.<br><br>
Last May, nursing like a newborn at night, nursing all day, even asking while out in public (I support NIP 100% but I don't like doing it, never have, and he knows that).<br><br>
Tonight? DS fell asleep with his papa after telling stories and playing pirates, and they are currently snoring away in the bedroom while I play on the computer. I fully expect that, barring bathroom needs in the middle of the night, that the next time DS will wake is about 8 am. This has all come about very suddenly and unexpectedly, and is hard for me to even believe! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
If you'd asked me last May at his b'day party, I would have said that he was definitely going to be 16 nursing to sleep. But tonight is now our new normal, and has been for a couple months now!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">If you'd asked me last May at his b'day party, I would have said that he was definitely going to be 16 nursing to sleep. But tonight is now our new normal, and has been for a couple months now!</div>
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this gives me hope!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 
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