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Okay, I don't think there's any UA violations in this... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br><br>
I was telling DH about the RMH deal on offending "people of other cultures" and he commented:<br><br>
"You know, every time we're out, and you feed him, you get approached by a black, Mexican, asian, or whatever woman and they tell you how GREAT it is what you're doing, and how WONDERFUL it is for Jake, and on and on... and come to think of it, the only people that have ever said anything negative were white!"<br><br>
(not that I am saying anything bad about white folks... I am white... it just seems funny that RMH would say something so bass ackwards from the reality!)<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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Well, I don't know if it means anything, but the majority of my "way to go" breastfeeding comments were from hispanic mamas. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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This is true in my experience.<br><br>
In fact, the only negative BF comments I've ever gotten have been from white American women. (I am one, so maybe they think it's okay to be nasty??)
 

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It was also white, upper middle-class culture that was so against bf'ing in previous generations because formula was so much more "modernized." Bf'ing was considered to be for the poor only, hence the stigma. I do know that it's statistically less common for impoverished black women to breastfeed because it just isn't encouraged as much in their communities, but I don't think black culture is necessarily offended by others doing it.<br><br>
For the record, my IL's are from India and were bf'ed, and bf'ed their kids, etc. India has never been a formula-feeding society and is actually quite AP (families sharing rooms, you hardly ever see strollers and everyone is slinging/holding their kids, etc.). But at the same time they are super sexually conservative. So apparently the "bf'ing = sexual" idea never was a big influence there as it was in the US!
 

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I'd agree with you if it weren't for the fact that the only negative comments I've gotten (overheard or otherwise) were from a Latino family, a group of black women (both at restaurants), and one nasty message from a black girl on MySpace. I have gotten an equal number of positive comments from people of all colors, of course. The first laudatory comment was from a black woman, in fact. It's dangerous to draw racial lines in this, because our culture is American.
 

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The only negative comments I've gotten have been from white, middle class Americans, and they've all touted that tired "cultural sensitivity" line. That's just my experience.
 

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The strangest, shocked, offended looks are mostly from white yuppy women. (I am a White Yuppy Woman) The biggest shocked look was from my MIL's sister who saw me bf my two year old when I was pregnant. It was like a physical slap she was so shocked.<br><br>
The most uncomfortable are often from Islamic men - I think I'm not quite discreet enough for them.<br><br>
The only people who've actually said something laudatory have been white women and hispanic women. Immigrants sometimes will strike up a conversation about how they do it.<br><br>
But I've found a goodly number of immigrants in Canada don't breastfeed, and seeing me do so seems to really attract their attention. I'm not sure why....I've guess that perhaps they've swallowed the easier/wealth connection to formula and seeing me challenges that standard? I'm not sure....I can't put my finger quite on why I seem so odd to them.
 

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I'm white and I used to always attract attention from African (as in, FROM Africa) women while nursing DS in my maya sling. They would get up in my boob and ooh and ahh at my son. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I'm thinking the RMH admins were referring to their own "culture", not anyone else's.
 
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