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I was just thinking about how different in some respects I am in raising my dd, compared to how I was brought up. My mom only BF my youngest brother-me and my older brother were FF. We did not cosleep. She did use cloth but only because dispos were not available. However, we were spanked and punished occasionally. I know things in general are different today BUT I am curious to see if anyone here was raised in a gentle AP environment. Or are there any women out there who raised their children AP and now have grandkids-are they being raised the same?<br>
I was thinking about my parenting style and hoping that one day my dd will choose to raise her children the same. Im curious to hear if anyone has any firsthand experience?<br>
I didnt even know what AP was until after I had my dd and happened upon a book by Dr. Sears, then I realized there were other people doing the same. My choices were always based on a deep feeling I had in my soul on how to parent her-even though I was getting sooo much "other" kind of advice in parenting. Sooooo....I wonder if you ladies were raised in a nonAP atmosphere and just "felt" AP was right for you(even though you may not have known what it was) or were you raised AP?<br>
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I was raised AP--didnt cosleep but extended bf, cd, gd, etc. The gentle discipline was the most important in terms of shaping who I am, and I definitely plan on raising my children the way I was raised. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
ETA--My brother and I were also born at home, with a mw.
 

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I plan to raise my future kids AP with most of the tenets (hehe) although I don't think co-sleeping is going to work for us (i.e. the babe next to the bed in an "arm's reach" sort of thing but not IN the bed) and I'm a bit "stricter" than some people on the GD board.<br><br>
I was EBF and cloth diapered. I had a crib and a stroller but also was worn in what we called a "snuggly". I was spanked three times- my dad did it once and could never do it again, it made him so upset.(serves him right!) My mom was a WAHM until I was in early elementary school so I got to spend a lot of time with her and not with nannies. I was born with a midwife instead of a doctor.<br><br>
That's my story and I'm stickin' to it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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yeah, mostly.<br><br>
my mom breastfeed me until 2yrs 9months, co-slept, wore me, was generally very attentive to my needs and encouraging of me expressing my feelings, but she spanked. We had sort of an AP brickwall thing goin on.
 

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We were raised mostly AP. EBF, cosleeping, and all that. My parents did spank some but it was pretty rare and reserved for potentially dangerous disobedience (don't touch the stove, don't touch the stove, DON'T TOUCH THE -*reach*- *swat* - *explain*).<br><br>
DH was raised fully AP, although his parents were overprotective (I don't think I need to go into it, but they really were, it isn't just a matter of perspective).
 

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I was raised in Santa Cruz, CA in the late 70's so AP was pretty much the only way! I was CDed, exclusivley BF (for 18 months) and co-slept until I was 2. I am not sure about BWing, I will have to check with my mom on that one. My mom had an all natural birth with me though in a Catholic hospital. I was never spaked or hit.<br><br>
The funny thing is that all of this was our lifestyle yet my family is VERY conservative, on my fathers side, well just snobby (old money <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> ) but it was just the way things were done!<br><br>
I decided while pregnant that we would CD, definitly BF & BW and after the baby was born Co-sleeping just sort of happened. I never really thought about any of it -- just knew that is the way it would be!
 

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well, only if "ap" stood for awefully pathetic... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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G*d, no! We were raised in a speak-only-when spoken-to, kids-should-be-seen-and-not-heard, never-correct-your-elders, shut-up-and-obey household! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Trying to do better with my ds. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Maxi's Mami, DC was born in SC! (I felt the top of her head on 26th and East Cliff) before I transfered...boohoo.<br><br>
I was raised AP for the most part. My mom had an Unmedicated birth (HB was ruled out because they lived far away from a hospital) and she breastfed 5 children. I CS, CD, ate total homegrown organic diet! and GD - surprisingly little punitive discipline - more than I think I'll accomplish!<br><br>
My parents both raised 4 more children after me. Their style changed on and off through the years (which is why I'm such a flexible person in terms of the nitty-gritty of parenting) but they were always dedicated to their children.<br><br>
I have so much love and respect for my parents -- it borders on embarrassing! I’m sorry, did I mention that I LOVE my parents?
 

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My brother and I were cloth diapered and I was birthed naturally (only b/c I came too fast, she said she was screaming for a spinal block <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> ).<br><br>
That's it though. She CIO (she *says* we only cried the first 2 nights or so and thats it) and we were formulafed. (She attempted to BF my older brother but had no support/resources, etc. and never bothered to try with me 4 years later).
 

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i was not left to CIO.<br>
i did cosleep until around age 11 or 12.<br>
i was cloth diapered because i was allergic to sposies.<br>
my parents did not do babywearing, but i know i was carried a lot.<br>
i was not breastfed for very long, my mother now wishes she had done it for longer.<br>
(actually, this is kind of funny, my mom worries that my hair is crazy - it's seriously frizzy - because she didn't bf me long enough. perhaps my allergies can be attributed to that, but my hair, no. that would be genetics. my dad had insane hair too.)<br><br>
in many ways i was an EXTREMELY attached child. i was also very independent.<br>
i am very close with my mom still and feel lucky to have been parented as i was.
 

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My mom breastfed, co-slept, cloth-diapered, and was a SAHM. She was so very NOT attached, though. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I dont think i was necessarily raised ap but my mom did alot of AP stuff...<br><br>
She only breastfed my oldest brother for 6 wks due to lack of support and he was her first but since there really wasnt formula she did evap milk and water or something..., my other older brother and i were breastfed til almost 4 yrs old, she cloth diapered, no cosleeping but i would go in and crawl anytime i wanted to til i was about 8.. then it stopped... , but when my parents split up my mom and i coslept til i was 17... not all the time.., i was hit with a belt and spanked.. not by my mom though...
 

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Well not *exactly*...<br><br>
My mom has become more AP since I have had children and have become AP myself! She advocates it too when ppl give me grief about b/feeding, co-sleeping,etc <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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I wasn't so much. My mom breastfed my brothers, she didn't know any better when she had me, and we weren't spanked, but I wouldn't say my parents were exactly attached.<br><br>
I have a close friend whose mother is my idol. She nursed all three of her boys for years and years, cloth diapered them, they are being worn in some way or another in all of the pictures of them as babies, and I'm pretty sure she co-slept in some way or another for most of their infant/toddlerhood. Her husband, their father, is a yeller and wasn't quite as attached to them, but she was just a wonderful mother. Very real, though, she got frustrated and talks just as freely about how hard it was as she does how much she enjoyed it.
 

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My mom had nine kids between 1967 (me) and 1985. They were all natural births by choice, and her 6th was born at home. I was there - one of the most profoundly formative experiences in my early life. She nursed all of us. She nursed me only a few months, but I think thats pretty great considering how little support was available then. She was by nature a very attached, loving, intuitive mom. We didn't co-sleep, but my parents did take a rather flexible approach to sleep arrangements. My parents spanked the first two of us occasionally when we were young, but gave that up very early on. I appreciate that they were loving but didn't seem to need to micro-manage every aspect of our lives. I feel like they really trusted us. We certainly had our share of conflicts and problems, but all my siblings (all adults now) are pretty close and we all have a strong relationship with our parents. Their 4 daughters with kids have all had natural and/or homebirths, have nursed for extended periods of time, etc. etc.<br><br>
And my mom was no hippy, btw. My parents were fairly affluent Mormons living in suburban Los Angeles, working in the entertainment industry.<br><br>
Oh, and my mom was a Mothering subscriber starting with issue #3 in the mid 70's.
 

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My parents were semi-AP with me. Breastfed 9 months, co-slept the first 6, cloth diapered, wore me in a rebozo until I could crawl, but at the time my dad was still in university and all of thier high brow friends kept pushng Dr. Spock at them. Five years later they owned an experimental art studio, embraced thier inner hippie and had my brother. He was breastfed for 3.5 years, co-slept for 6+ years, didn't circ, didn't vax, cloth diapered, wore him til he was 3......<br><br>
Are you ready for the kicker? He doesn't remember any of it AND he is a totally main stream parent. I don't think I would have known to be AP if my mom hadn't raised him that way though, or at least I know I am so AP because I always thought that was the only way to parent <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I LOVE my mom...she is such a loving and respectable person. I was raised by a SAHM (my Dad worked three jobs at one point so she could continue to stay home with us) who birthed all 4 of us girls naturally with no pain meds. She BF, cloth diapered, gently disciplined, and wore all 4 of us and had back surgery a year ago to prove it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"><br>
I was blessed with an extremely awesome family life.
 

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I wasn't....I was bottlefed (my mom said I refused to breastfeed), slept in a crib, and was spanked. DH was more APed...at least he was breastfed and CDed...
 

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My mother breastfed me until I was three. She cloth diapered us and washed the diapers by hand in the tub. She did not let us CIO and she NEVER once spanked us, in fact she was one of the activists who got corporal punishment banned in New York State schools. She was a SAHM until she divorced my father when I was 3.<br><br>
She didn't co-sleep, but that was probably because of my father. She did vaccinate us. My brother got circ'd because my father consented, and my mother has felt guilty ever since, even though it was literally minutes after a hard birth that it was done. We were both born in hospitals, but both were unmedicated births. The way she was treated in the hospital made her very anti-hospital. To this day, if you say the words "maternity ward" to her, she starts to shake.<br><br>
(A few tidbits about my birth: the nurses strapped her to a table, with her bottom right at the end of the table, when she was 10 cm dilated and having pushing contractions, then they went to the other end of the room and turned their backs on her, after telling her that she was't ready yet (because the doctor wasn't there yet), even though she told them the baby was coming out. If she hadn't made herself hyperventilate to stop the pushing contractions, I would have landed on my head on the floor. After the birth, they took me to a nursery and wouln't bring me to her when I cried - they wanted to bring me to her on a four-hour feeding schedule, even though she said she wanted to feed on demand. She went herself to the nursery to get me -- she could see and hear me crying -- she was crying herself -- and a big nurse stood in her way and wouldn't let her through the door to get me. The nurse said to her, "I'll bring you your baby when I'm God damn good and ready." When they finally brought me to her, they wouldn't let her breastfeed in front of her room-mate (a bottle-feeding mother). They sent her to another room, where she breastfed me on the bed, and then they came in and yelled at her for "messing up" the bed.)<br><br>
Sorry, I didn't mean to go on about that for so long! The way she was treated when my brother was born (in a different hospital) was almost as bad.<br><br>
Sorry to go so far off-topic!
 
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