[aimcar]

Well, I went ahead and opted to have the D&C, and it's scheduled for tomorrow at 12:30. Emotionally I feel it's the best thing to do. I know I couldn't handle walking around still feeling/looking pregnant until it happens naturally. However, I am having a hard time letting myself feel ok about my decision. I still think miscarrying naturally would be the best thing for my body, and I'm feeling VERY guilty for taking the easy way out. I am also terrified about having surgery. I've never had any surgery, and I am freaking out.

 

[momto l&a]

Have never had a D&C but have had a mc at 12 weeks.

Are they going to do another US before doing the D&C just to be sure?

take good care of yourself

 

[iris0110]

I was also very scared before my D&C in April. I had never had any real surgery before, and I read alot of information about all the things that could go wrong. But when I got there it really wasn't so bad. Afterwards my throat hurt a little from the breathing tube and I was a little crampy and uncomfortable. They gave me a pain killer through my IV and I was better almost imediately. I really didn't have any trouble after that, I got some cramps, but no worse than normal menstrual cramps. You might be a little tired for a few days after from the anethesia, and you definately don't want your son to jump on your belly for a while.

You made the decision that was best for you and you shouldn't feel badly about it. Believe me, surgery isn't the easy way out. I will be sending you healing thoughts.

 

[coleslaw]

Best of luck tomorrow. I'll be thinking of you.

 

[gonnabeamom]

I've had 3 D&Cs. The first 2 were in a hospital-which made it more of an event, but the drugs were better. The only advice I have from that is to make sure you have an order for more pain killers if you need them during recovery. The first time I didn't and it took a few minutes to reach my doctor to authorize more.

The most recent was in office by my OB. It was more uncomfortable than the hospital, but over quicker. But uncomfortable I mean that there are brief periods of intense crampiness, and they pass quickly. The hospital means registration, pre-op, recovery, etc before you get to go home. At the OBs it was over in less than an hour (from car door to car door, the procedure took maybe 15-20 minutes). As soon as I could stand up and felt okay they let me go home.

If you can bring some portable music player with some relaxing music I would do that. I won't tell you that surgery is without risk, but it is true that our perception of those risks is out of proportion. Getting in your car is one of the most dangerous things you can do, but we all do it all the time. Unfortunately they have to do this all the time and the complication rate is very low.

I also feel like their is a lot of weirdness around D&Cs because of the anti-abortion folks. If you watch TV you'd think everyone who has a D&C winds up infertile later, or has horrible problems, and it's not true.

Be prepared for some period like discomfort afterward, and you'll want to drink more liquids, and eat more protein both before and afterward. If you have a place that sells homeopathic remedies, you can get arnica tablets and take them before and after. This will help your body deal with the inflamation and help you heal faster.

It's the most natural thing in the world to be nervous about surgery, but the actual event is not as bad as the nervousness.

I also think that you are being very responsible by weighing your own needs and responsibilities and making the best choice for you. It's different for all of us, and different for each of us at different times. Please PM if you have questions I didn't answer or anything I said is unclear.

 

[shannon0218]

Please don't beat yourself up over your choice. I've had to make the choice twice and opted for the d&c immediately with my last miscarriage. As for infertility after, I'm pregnant right now and my d&c was just in Feb (we only tried again for 2 months) Having the d&c is not the easy way out, but it is the way that makes the most sense for you and your family. The only one getting the easy way is perhaps your little one at home.
Also feel free to PM me with any questions. We're all here for you.

 

[coleslaw]

Just wondering how it all went for you and how you are feeling today - physically and emotionally. Still thinking of you!

 

[babycarrier]

Thinking of you today. I hope you are able to get some rest.
Jessie

 

[JessicaS]

I hope it goes well for you and you will be feeling a little better soon.

 

[mommabear]

First of all, I am so sorry for your loss. Please do not think you are taking "the easy way out". D&C's can be very emotionally difficult. I had one in 2003 and found it to be one of the hardest parts of my miscarriage to deal with (the baby had died at nine weeks, and I didn't find out until 19 weeks, so a D&C was necessary). I understand your feelings of fear -- I had never had major surgery before either, and it is a very powerless feeling. I will be thinking of you today.

 

[aimcar]

Thank you all so much for your support! I had the D&C yesterday, and it went as well as these things can go. The procedure itself was easier than I had anticipated, but today I woke up feeling like I have been run over by a truck. My whole body is so sore, I can barely move. According to my OB this is a side-effect of the anesthesia that some people experience. I am not cramping or bleeding much so that is good, but I can't even sit up by myself so that is definitely not good.

I have no idea how I'm doing emotionally as I've been so busy dealing with how crappy I feel physically. I have been drugged up with pain killers and sleeping a lot so haven't really had time to think about the reality of what has happened. I am so ready to feel better physcially so I can begin to heal emotionally as well. I'm so glad this forum is here because I know I will need it.

 

[HaveWool~Will Felt]

Sending you lots of love...