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Nationally circulated newspapers warned that the anonymous drop-off, known as "Stork's Cradle," is open for abuse and could traumatize youngsters. They also condemned the father, saying his action could spur copycats.<br></td>
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Oh my gosh-how sad! I'll take him.....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I feel for the dad. I am glad he had a safe place to leave the boy.
 

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Yeah I feel for everyone involved but for the little boy most-isnt there a loved one or friend or someone he could have asked for help? A different organization other than just simply leaving? I have a hard time thinking that that was his ONLY option.
 

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That is so incredibly sad. I want him. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 

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I beleive that in the USA, infants have to be younger than 1 month (or something along those lines) or they WILL consider it to be child neglect. I'm not sure if they involve criminal investigations or just CPS involvement. In any case, it's not considered "neglect" or "abandonment" to leave a newborn, but it is considered such for an older child.<br><br>
I certainly hope this little boy gets the care and mental health services he needs- whether he is adopted by another family or reunited with somebody other than the "Daddy" who left him there.
 

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While I feel very sorry for the kid, part of me is remembering when mine were preschoolers and sympathising with the father<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> there were a few times I felt like "donating" mine....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:
 

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<div>Originally Posted by <strong>choli</strong> <a href="/community/forum/post/8136760"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">While I feel very sorry for the kid, part of me is remembering when mine were preschoolers and sympathising with the father<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> there were a few times I felt like "donating" mine....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:</div>
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Preschool and toddler age can be so rough. Plus we really don't know anything about the dad either. Was he able to feed and clothe the child? Maybe they were financially destitute and he thought this was the one way to give his son the things he needed??? I do feel bad for the kid, it's a tough situation all the way around.<br><br>
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Good grief...sorry, I DON'T feel all that bad for "dad." nope. Not one bit.
 

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I don't feel a thing for the dad - think of the permanent damage he did to his little one. Poor baby - I hope a wonderful set of parents who will love and cherish that child are found.
 

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<div>Originally Posted by <strong>wytchywoman</strong> <a href="/community/forum/post/8136952"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">Preschool and toddler age can be so rough. Plus we really don't know anything about the dad either. Was he able to feed and clothe the child? Maybe they were financially destitute and he thought this was the one way to give his son the things he needed??? I do feel bad for the kid, it's a tough situation all the way around.<br><br>
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What she said. I agree.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yeah I feel for everyone involved but for the little boy most-isnt there a loved one or friend or someone he could have asked for help? A different organization other than just simply leaving? I have a hard time thinking that that was his ONLY option.</div>
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I know some people can't imagine it because they haven't been there, but some people have NO resources and no knowledge about how to get them,either.
 

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Yeah, i have to say, while I feel horrible (really HORRIBLE) for the little boy, I also feel really incredibly awful for the father. I mean, what were the circumstances that led him to do this? How desperate must the poor father have been? I can imagine it was an incredibly horribly difficult thing for him to do.<br><br>
Or, he could just be a jerk. I really dunno.<br><br>
And then there are the days when I would be willing to donate my own kiddos....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> Some days are hard!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yeah, i have to say, while I feel horrible (really HORRIBLE) for the little boy, I also feel really incredibly awful for the father. I mean, what were the circumstances that led him to do this? How desperate must the poor father have been? I can imagine it was an incredibly horribly difficult thing for him to do.<br><br>
Or, he could just be a jerk. I really dunno.<br><br>
And then there are the days when I would be willing to donate my own kiddos....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> Some days are hard!</div>
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I agree with Terabith. It is horrid for the poor child, but I would like to hope there were extreme reasons for the dad to do this and thank god he did this rather than something even worse to the child.
 

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Yes I suppose there are those with NO resources and no knowledge of where to turn....and I DID think oh goodness thankfully the Dad dropped him there instead of any thing more horrific...BUT I still think there could have been an option other than that and while I TRULY feel for the man I believe there was a better way....how do we know he didnt really care? I mean we can assume that it was torture for the man to leave the boy but was it? I dont know....in the end its the boy I feel mostly for......
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I agree with Terabith. It is horrid for the poor child, but I would like to hope there were extreme reasons for the dad to do this and thank god he did this rather than something even worse to the child.</div>
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Yup. This took place in China. I have never visited or lived there and I know very little about it other than it is a communist run country. From what little I have seen is that the people that live in major cities seem to do OK, but that there are also large villages of "peasant" type lifestyles in the countryside. Who knows what kind of social support programs they have. I would be strongly surprised if they have things like welfare and food stamps. Once again, I could be wrong and if I am please tell me. Who knows, perhaps the guy is a jerk, but I think that it might be fair to give him the benefit of the doubt before we assume he just got sick and tired of dealing with his kid and abandoned him.
 

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If it spurs copy cats then they need to figure out why....I think this dad was desprate and might have issues mental, financial, child care, et that need to be met. I would also like to think there is extreme reasons for this parents actions. He could have done many other things to harm that child. Years of abuse could do more harm.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yup. This took place in China. I have never visited or lived there and I know very little about it other than it is a communist run country. From what little I have seen is that the people that live in major cities seem to do OK, but that there are also large villages of "peasant" type lifestyles in the countryside. Who knows what kind of social support programs they have. I would be strongly surprised if they have things like welfare and food stamps. Once again, I could be wrong and if I am please tell me. Who knows, perhaps the guy is a jerk, but I think that it might be fair to give him the benefit of the doubt before we assume he just got sick and tired of dealing with his kid and abandoned him.</div>
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Actually, it happened in JAPAN, which is not a communist country and is economically very different from China.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Actually, it happened in JAPAN, which is not a communist country and is economically very different from China.</div>
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Oops, I stand corrected. Do they have a social services system in Japan?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yup. This took place in China. I have never visited or lived there and I know very little about it other than it is a communist run country. From what little I have seen is that the people that live in major cities seem to do OK, but that there are also large villages of "peasant" type lifestyles in the countryside. Who knows what kind of social support programs they have. I would be strongly surprised if they have things like welfare and food stamps. Once again, I could be wrong and if I am please tell me. Who knows, perhaps the guy is a jerk, but I think that it might be fair to give him the benefit of the doubt before we assume he just got sick and tired of dealing with his kid and abandoned him.</div>
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<div style="font-style:italic;"><b>Actually, it happened in <span style="text-decoration:underline;">JAPAN</span>, which is not a communist country and is economically very different from China.</b></div>
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Thank you for stating this Boingo!<br><br>
Take Care,<br>
Erika <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/afro.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="afro"><span style="font-size:xx-small;">(I don't wear a fro, I'm just a sister who likes this smilie!)</span><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/homeschool.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="homeschool">:
 
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