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DD is a little over 2 years old. So far, she's only been away from me for no longer than 2 hours, and thats very rare. I generally leave her with my mom, since she lives with us, and is the only person (other than dh) that I'd trust with dd. I know that they have a wonderful time. DD says bye to me and never cries or is in any way upset. Dh has been working out of town for a few months, coming home every month for a weekend. Prior to him being away, dd would VERY rarely go with him (like on the playground or playing at home, or at a store) SHe much prefered mama.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> Of course, she still does, but I've noticed that when he comes home, she is very happy and eager to be with him. Like falling asleep with him (a first, she's never done that) or willingly going with him on the playground or wherever. He is coming home for good in a few weeks and I think that it would be really great for them to do "daddy time" on a regular basis. She is still nursing, but if she's distracted wont ask much. I am thinking that a morning out together would be great for them-say 3-4 hours?<br>
So how often are you away from your 2yo's? At what point did you feel it was ok for them to be away from you? Does your family do daddy time? I know she'll be fine, since she'll be with dh. It just seems so wierd for me, with no little person around! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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i'd base it on how your DD reacts to being away for a long time.<br>
Say, they go out to do something... park, zoo, walk, breakfast whatever... and if she wants mama, come home earlier. If she's having a blast, stay out for the few hours that were/are planned on.
 

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I agree.<br><br>
Ds is only 10mo, but he is really a daddy's boy. Dh does see him alot more than your dh, but not nearly as much as most because dh works two jobs, so there are days where they don't see each other at all. But I BEG dh to take ds places without me, the longer the better! I'm saying that, but dh would never be gone with him on his own for more than 3-4 hours at the most, usually more like 2. Dh doesn't take him anywhere often, but when he does, ds does fine. Today he took him to my stepsons ballgame and he did fine. I think he likes time with daddy.
 

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Pretty often -- DH usually takes DS on any errands he does in the evenings, and I go out alone for a few hours regularly (probably once a week).<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Immediately. I think it's important for babies to spend one-on-one time with each parent right from the start. Of course, in the beginning the outings were short because DS needed to nurse frequently, but I had no problem with DH and DS spending time alone together or going out alone together right from the beginnging.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Yep, all the time! I even go away for the weekend every once in a while now that DS is weaned, and I love it. I cherish my alone-time and time with friends, and I feel so content knowing that DS and DH are having a blast together and getting to bond one-on-one.
 

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My dd (23 months) is totally in love with her daddy. A few weeks ago I left her for the whole day (8 hours) to shop and lunch with a friend. That's the longest so far and they had a great day. Other than that I spend Saturday morning for 2-3 hours by myself doing errands while dh stays home with dd and ds. She still nurses constantly if I'm around and throughout the night so I wouldn't leave her overnight. It helps that she also wants to be exactly like her brother so if he's with dad I'm on my own <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Starting around two is when dd actively sought out daddy time . . . now she generally hangs out with him in the evenings and when he's working around the house, and she goes with him on errands and such whenever she wants to . . . that started around 2 or 2.5. We do most of our fun stuff as a family (and even most errands and things whenever we can) but dd is a total daddy's girl. Two was the age when he really started enjoying her as well.
 

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It really does depend on your kid. My 27 month old has spent the entire day from me with her daddy and is still nursing. She just ate food, drank water...lol. She has actually spent 3 days and 2 nights away from me when I was in the hospital unexpectedly in Feb ( see siggy) and did wonderfully. These kids never cease to amaze me!<br><br>
I think 2 years old is plenty old enough to go away with daddy for 3-6 hours. If she is comfortable with it, go for it. It'll be great for daddy to get some undivided attention from his little girl and it will be good for YOU also to recharge for a few hours after being a single parent and being "ON" for so long. Don't clean the house while they are gone...go get a pedicure or massage, or go to the bookstore with a coffee and just read and relax! Have fun...all three of you!
 

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By 2 DD was regularly spending 4-6 hours with DH every weekend while I took the baby to work with me. I'd be comfortable leaving her with DH for 24 hours -- I know they would have a great time, but I would miss her, so I haven't done that yet (aside from ds's and my unplanned hospitalization when he was born). She's still nursing, but generally only asks (ok, asks a lot) if I'm around. When it's just her and her dadoo, she's quite comfortable with not nursing.
 

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DS goes with DH on errands once a week or so.<br>
When DS was around 1yr, DH asked me if I were willing to get a Very parttime job (2shifts or so a week) at a local bike shop that I loveeee, it was a seasonal thing.<br><br>
DH and DS had a blast. I was barely gone more than 4 hours at a time, but they really bonded.<br><br>
Its funny - dh tells me when they go to the grocery store (or anywhere, really) ds is great, happy, entertained. And yet, when I'm there - <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">.
 
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