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Am I a candidate for a homebirth? I really don't expect anyone to diagnos me over the internet but is there any good online resource for this. I am going to start calling a local midwife that someone referred me to on Monday but I am a bit excited as I never thought this was an option for me for the following reasons.
I am 31 years old. Married to an active duty soldier (so we have Tricare) and live on post. I am also already 31 weeks pregnant. This is my 14th pregnancy. I have had 7 early losses, 2 late losses (early in the 2nd trimester), and 4 live births. My first 3 children were delivered vaginally, with the first I bled out a bit necessitating a D&C very soon after birth. It was an induction because of Pre-E then later on during my labor I believe it progressed to full on E. The doctor fractured her skull pulling her out with a vaccuum extractor. My other births weren't nearly as traumatic save for my c/s. I was put under such stress by the staff there and ultimately I think that is why I ended up being sectioned. I just did not trust the staff.
Much of the reasdon for the stress was my anxiety because I had lost my second trimester baby with these people and they were absolutely AWEFUL. I mean aweful as in they wouldn't let me have my baby's body back after all was said and done (I put my foot down and had to be a real jerk for that to happen so we could have our baby cremated and have a funeral Mass).
I think my body was just not going to cooperate because of my level of distrust. I had been in prodromal labor for a few weeks and every bit of it that I had to deal with the l&d staff was a nightmare. My doctor had me in for twice weekly NSTs because of my blood pressure and history of pre-E which I think might have more do to with anxiety than actually getting pre-E again.
Between the c/s and now, I have had another loss and once again, they were terrible. My husband was deployed at the time, I was all alone and I made a command decision to just go to another hospital because baby would not pass on his own. It took a good bit of reporting to IG on my part to get any sort of bloodwork done to find out why I was having these supposedly rare losses. Add to that the fact that just before my husband deployed, I BEGGED then to send me to a specialist to try to make sure that I wouldn't loose that baby (they had told me we had exhausted their resources which I don't believe for a second) but they refused. 3 days after my husband got to Bagdhad, our baby was dead and they couldn't give a damn.
So, under these circumstances, do you think it is a possibility? I would really appreciate any input you could give. Thanks
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Celina
I am 31 years old. Married to an active duty soldier (so we have Tricare) and live on post. I am also already 31 weeks pregnant. This is my 14th pregnancy. I have had 7 early losses, 2 late losses (early in the 2nd trimester), and 4 live births. My first 3 children were delivered vaginally, with the first I bled out a bit necessitating a D&C very soon after birth. It was an induction because of Pre-E then later on during my labor I believe it progressed to full on E. The doctor fractured her skull pulling her out with a vaccuum extractor. My other births weren't nearly as traumatic save for my c/s. I was put under such stress by the staff there and ultimately I think that is why I ended up being sectioned. I just did not trust the staff.
Much of the reasdon for the stress was my anxiety because I had lost my second trimester baby with these people and they were absolutely AWEFUL. I mean aweful as in they wouldn't let me have my baby's body back after all was said and done (I put my foot down and had to be a real jerk for that to happen so we could have our baby cremated and have a funeral Mass).
I think my body was just not going to cooperate because of my level of distrust. I had been in prodromal labor for a few weeks and every bit of it that I had to deal with the l&d staff was a nightmare. My doctor had me in for twice weekly NSTs because of my blood pressure and history of pre-E which I think might have more do to with anxiety than actually getting pre-E again.
Between the c/s and now, I have had another loss and once again, they were terrible. My husband was deployed at the time, I was all alone and I made a command decision to just go to another hospital because baby would not pass on his own. It took a good bit of reporting to IG on my part to get any sort of bloodwork done to find out why I was having these supposedly rare losses. Add to that the fact that just before my husband deployed, I BEGGED then to send me to a specialist to try to make sure that I wouldn't loose that baby (they had told me we had exhausted their resources which I don't believe for a second) but they refused. 3 days after my husband got to Bagdhad, our baby was dead and they couldn't give a damn.
So, under these circumstances, do you think it is a possibility? I would really appreciate any input you could give. Thanks
Celina
