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Am I a candidate for a homebirth? I really don't expect anyone to diagnos me over the internet but is there any good online resource for this. I am going to start calling a local midwife that someone referred me to on Monday but I am a bit excited as I never thought this was an option for me for the following reasons.

I am 31 years old. Married to an active duty soldier (so we have Tricare) and live on post. I am also already 31 weeks pregnant. This is my 14th pregnancy. I have had 7 early losses, 2 late losses (early in the 2nd trimester), and 4 live births. My first 3 children were delivered vaginally, with the first I bled out a bit necessitating a D&C very soon after birth. It was an induction because of Pre-E then later on during my labor I believe it progressed to full on E. The doctor fractured her skull pulling her out with a vaccuum extractor. My other births weren't nearly as traumatic save for my c/s. I was put under such stress by the staff there and ultimately I think that is why I ended up being sectioned. I just did not trust the staff.

Much of the reasdon for the stress was my anxiety because I had lost my second trimester baby with these people and they were absolutely AWEFUL. I mean aweful as in they wouldn't let me have my baby's body back after all was said and done (I put my foot down and had to be a real jerk for that to happen so we could have our baby cremated and have a funeral Mass).

I think my body was just not going to cooperate because of my level of distrust. I had been in prodromal labor for a few weeks and every bit of it that I had to deal with the l&d staff was a nightmare. My doctor had me in for twice weekly NSTs because of my blood pressure and history of pre-E which I think might have more do to with anxiety than actually getting pre-E again.

Between the c/s and now, I have had another loss and once again, they were terrible. My husband was deployed at the time, I was all alone and I made a command decision to just go to another hospital because baby would not pass on his own. It took a good bit of reporting to IG on my part to get any sort of bloodwork done to find out why I was having these supposedly rare losses. Add to that the fact that just before my husband deployed, I BEGGED then to send me to a specialist to try to make sure that I wouldn't loose that baby (they had told me we had exhausted their resources which I don't believe for a second) but they refused. 3 days after my husband got to Bagdhad, our baby was dead and they couldn't give a damn.

So, under these circumstances, do you think it is a possibility? I would really appreciate any input you could give. Thanks


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Wow, Celina, I'm so sorry for your rough experiences.


Straight risk factor wise I wouldn't consider your previous pregnancy losses. You're well past the window of your earlier losses *and* you obviously had a clear sense something was askew then, which you do not have now.

I've never heard of HB MWs risking out women for a *history* of pre-eclampsia. They tend to do much more to work with women who have creeping symptoms of pre-eclampsia than the OBs I know. Their only solution seems to be bed rest followed by cesarean.

The only "risk factor" I see your having is a previous cesarean and many HB MWs don't see that as a "risk out" factor and consider VBAC much easier with moms who've previously delivered vaginally.

I recommend your posting on the Finding Your Tribe forum for leads of local HB MWs. Some bases are easy for HB MWs to attend births and others need to have the mom birthing at another home or hotel off-base. Whatever the case I think you could really benefit from the one-on-one in depth care that's part and parcel of most HB midwifery practices.

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Lots of protein, at least 75 g a day, to reduce the risk of pre-e. Pit increases the risk of PPH so that could have contributed to the bleeding you had w/ your induction. I hope you are able to find a way to stay home and be treated with the respect you deserve. I'm sorry you have lost so much.
 

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I am not a midwife, but from what i do know, you should at least give it your best shot.
It sounds to me like you have already figured out what you need to know about you. from what info you gave us, i would agree that it doesnt sounds like your previous losses should be a factor.
Also the history of pre-e wouldnt be a risk out factor either. Midwives have much better ways of dealing with this than the medical community.

The previous c/s may be your only difficulty, but that all is going to depend on your area, and what the midwives in your area handle. find and interview as many as you can and do it NOW as there may be a few that would prefer to not take on a client so far along.

It sounds to me like you need homebirth. You have been dealing with an unbelievable amount of nightmares from the hospital scene. Homebirth may be the only way for you to come out of this with a good expereince at this point. I am not trying to sound negative, just reenforce the decision it sounds like you already made to try for homebirth.

You must be a very strong woman, best of luck to you and your family!
 

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Not a midwife...yet


I would say yep totally a candidate. Your early hemorrhaging was most likely due to the induction and I have never heard of a midwife risking someone out simply due to Pre-e in prior pregancy. I'm sure one of the midwives will better answer your questions.
 

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Thank you so much for your encouraging words!! I figured that any "civilians" so to speak I spoke with about this would kinda scoff so I am not really going to mention it to anyone I know who will automatically be negative about it (I learned my lesson with wanting to go VBAC this time. I wish I could say I am surprised at how many people were so negative on the concept and just took it as a given that to do anything other than another c/s was putting my child's and my life in danger.)

I am looking forward to calling some local midwives tomorrow


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I would say you are definitely a candidate for a homebirth...wow,sorry to hear about your losses, it sounds just horrible. I posted on another thread about birth counseling, which I think is a tremendous service. Good luck to you!
 

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Hi Celina,
I am so sorry for all of your losses. I'm curious if you have had a panel of blood tests to check for blood clotting disorders. I know you said you begged them to do some testing, but I'm not sure if you ever got it done. Repeated miscarriages and a postpartum hemorrhage sound like maybe there is something going on there. Good luck with your search.
 
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