Hi There, I am an almost 36 year old single mom to an 11 year old boy and I have been dating a gentleman who is 31 for quite some time now. A part of me wonders some days if I am just dragging my feet. I love him dearly, but it's been a few years and things haven't progressed how I imagined. My son does care for him and they get along for the most part but I find myself alone weekly while he has nights out with his friends, camping trips with his friends, birthday parties with his friends. My single mom friends who are my age feel as though he should be more committed to my son and I and building the life he says he wants with us. Honestly though a part of me just thinks he is biding his time and doesn't really see my son as a "responsibility" to him. So therefore he feels he shouldn't have to sacrifice anything in order to be with me and my son. I could really use some heartfelt insight on this. I'm starting to feel a little alone and sad about it. :frown:
I think, first of all, you need to decide for yourself what kind of relationship you want to have.
If you feel good together, maybe this is happiness. Or if you want to change everything and transfer to a more serious level of relationship, you need to talk to him and say everything that you think and want without any omissions.
Anyway, I understand you very well, understand your feelings and want to say thank you for sharing your story.
I'm also a single mother, I'm 29 years old, and my son is almost three years old, my last relationship was four years ago, and honestly, I don’t know when I will have a new one.
For all this time I used to be alone, without a relationship, that even communicating with men causes discomfort and fear. I very rarely go out without a child and, accordingly, a chance to get acquainted with someone is minimal.
I already wanted to try online dating and even downloaded Tinder, and this platform
https://hookupmasters.com/adult-dating-sites/onlinecrush-review/ but I'm not sure it's a right way to find someone for a serious relationship. It seems to me that this is more for fun and it is unlikely that I can meet a serious man there, and how can I say that I have a little son? How do you think I should try?