[Enudely]

I tried to bring dd (age 4 months) to the gym daycare so I could take a 1 hour yoga class. Luckilly, the class shared a wall with the daycare, because dd was screaming bloody murder, so I rushed back to the daycare. I ended up trying to go back to yoga 3 times, but dd kept crying so I finally left. What really pissed me off, though, was the babysitter lady there trying to make me feel like I should just leave the baby with her and let her cry for me. She kept saying "oh, I know, it's hard with your first" as if I will let my next kid scream in the arms of a stranger. She kept saying "really, I don't mind the crying... I think it's harder for you than her.... " I was so annoyed. She was acting like I was being silly for wanting to support my dd in the midst of her emotional crisis! I finally said, "it doesn't feel right, so I'm not going to do it."
Why do people have no sympathy for babies?

 

[Cullens_Girl]

I hate the "just let them cry" mentality.

 

[JamieCatheryn]

As if a baby crying is only a problem for those around her! Babies are people too.

 

[M_of_M]

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Originally Posted by Enudely I tried to bring dd (age 4 months) to the gym daycare so I could take a 1 hour yoga class.

Not to criticize you...but maybe it is just not worth leaving your 4 months old with some stranger who does not give a damn about her...while you can enjoy something that's not a top top top priority.

 

[Enudely]

oh, I'm totally not going to do it again! Now I'm thinking about taking a kickboxing class instead since it's at 7 and I can leave her w/ dh. Quite a difference! I just need to have some adult interaction and some exercise! Never done kickboxing before thoughh!

 

[mamanurse]

Try the kickboxing. I work out on M/W mornings and leave dd with dh 'til 8.

 

[runes]

our gym has a gorgeous child care area, and everyone who goes there raves about their services.

the dealbreaker for me? they told me that they would only page me/call my cell if dd cried for more than 15 minutes. i asked if they could call me right away if she needed me and they said no.

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now i work out in the afternoons after dh gets home.

 

[Carley]

I practice kickboxing 5x/week & leave my daughter with my husband... it is such a great release, especially knowing she's in good hands!!! Go for it!!

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Originally Posted by M_of_M Not to criticize you...but maybe it is just not worth leaving your 4 months old with some stranger who does not give a damn about her...while you can enjoy something that's not a top top top priority.

IMO exercise & general things that keep Mommy healthy & happy are a top top top priority

Thank goodness for Daddies!

 

[millionmom]

4 months is pretty young for a caregiver to say that! i didn't think most gyms took children under 6 months...so that is unique! i can see for an older child, letting them cry a little bit only because I see this with my students who may be upset for abit, then calm down within a minute or two of their parent leaving and it's like they were never upset in the first place. But that is unacceptable for an infant!!

 

[midstreammama]

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Originally Posted by Cullens_Girl I hate the "just let them cry" mentality.

Ditto.

 

[millionmom]

I also wouldn't totally rule them out because of one worker. At my gym I wasn't happy with one of the girls that watched him (he was fine and everything, but didn't say hello to me or ask my sons name and wanted him to go right into the exresaucer.) I asked at the front desk if there was anyone else who worked there, and I found out that person's schedule./ Or you could call ahead of time to find out who is working. they are probably used to moms who have no problem with leaving babies to cry, and she probably thought she was helpping you out/giving you a break. Luckily at my gym it's small enough that I can hear him as soon as he cries, and I try to take a few peeks (hoping he won't see me!) during my workout.

 

[Nosebite]

When my DS wa that age we use to go to mommy and me yoga all the time. You and the baby do yoga together. Here's the link - although it's not in your area, it may give you some ideas.

www.goldenbridgeyoga.com

 

[krizty]

Do they have Yoga videos? Maybe you could just get a video and do it in front of your tv during naps. This way you can enjoy the routine that you want.

I do love the kick boxing and step aerobics but sometimes its nice just to do the activity that you want to do.

 

[ecoteat]

I've been doing a mommy and baby yoga class that I love. I agree with Nosebite--you should look into if they are available in your area. My class is pretty relaxed; the moms just stop to nurse or change diapers right there on their mat while class continues. Or if some of the babies want to be held, we'll do things that can be modified to holding a baby to your chest.

 

[Samii]

My little girl is now 8 1/2 months but i started going to the gym when she was 5 1/2 to 6 months old, the "Kids Zone" they have there is equiped with cameras that allows the moms or dads look in on there kids on a monitor that is set up in almost all the differnt work out rooms. Lucky my daughter is not one to cry when new people are around her, and the CareTakers will first do everything like try feeding, holding, and playing with them before they call you. But they dont change their diapers the page you for that. Plus they are so friendly and have their own kids therer too so you know they have the "Mom Mentality". Because the last thing i want is for a lady who doesnt understand babies to take care of my little one.

As for the "Let them cry it out" thing, at 4 months that is non-existant if you baby needs you and cries for you, pick them up and cuddle them reasure them everything is ok.

Well thats what i think i did that with my little one, and now she is perfectly fine in any place because she trusts that i will be there to pick her up if she cries.
The only time i think i will let her "cry it out" is when she is old enough to understand that crying wont get her everything she wants, which i guess will be when she is a toddler and wants to get candy instead of food for dinner

 

[Enudely]

the kickboxing class was so much fun!! I'm going to do it every week!!

 

[freestyler]

I tried leaving our baby at babysitting when she was 6 months, so I could have a swim, and she was just too young. The babysitter brought her to me and said she was unable to comfort her. Oh well.... I know she at least tried! But my point is, a lot of babies under a year are not able to go to short-term babysitting like that in a strange place, they just get so scared. At home with a babysitter, it's different. It's their turf.

Good luck getting a a workout! Maybe try water-walking with your baby, in the pool. Anything where she can be with you. I have four kids and for me, a real workout is basically non-existent until after age one. But also, I like to put Baby in the Ergo and hike a lot.

Anyway, it IS frustrating with trying to find babysitting that is appropriate. I hear ya!

 

[Enudely]

I feel so bad that I even left her there at all, or tried to comfort her and go back to class. She was obviously totally scared ( though she calmed down before each time I went to class).... I should have just left. I wore her an extra lot after that though, and gave her tons of kisses so hopefully she's ok!!
poor little thing!

 

[BathrobeGoddess]

I think the worker was trying to appease you...

I worked in a gym childcare for 5 years and 99% of moms get really pissy if you come get them if their child is crying, een if they are really, really small (we took them at 6 weeks). Sad but true. I think she was trying tell you what she thought you wanted to hear. You can tell the workers to page you if they can't get your child settled down withing three minutes and they will most likely do it.