[turtlewomyn]

When I picked DD up today the lady who takes care of her in the afternoons told me that she fed her pizza. We did not provide this food, the older kids were having it, she brought some into the baby room, DD reached for it, so she gave it to her(after cutting it into small bits). I am very irritated. We have had to talk to the director about this lady giving our daughter food that we have not provided before. When she told me I sad "You gave her pizza?" "You don't want her having pizza?" "Well, she hasn't had it before." "Mama, she is almost one year old." So here I have this woman telling me how to feed MY CHILD.
I do give her more solids than most moms on MDC, but she shouldn't be ready for pizza before a year. What about egg whites and tomato in the pizza?
I am really irritated.
Also, this woman complains to us if DD isn't interested in foods that day. I send chicken and brown rice and beans and she complains that she didn't eat it saying "She likes sweet." As if we are only supposed to bring our daughter junk food to daycare, so she will happily eat it.
DH is going to talk to the director on Monday about this.
Are there any references about when it is safe to introduce pizza? I was looking but couldn't find any.

 

[bri276]

You are lucky they actually told you. Perhaps it is time for a new daycare situation. Or at the very least, bring a note from the doctor (you can forge it if need be) that says "DD is at high risk for food allergies. Please feed only food mother brings to daycare, thanks!"

the problem with pizza would be wheat, tomatoes, and cheese. Not huge risks if food allergies don't run in your family but most likely this wasn't organic, whole wheat pizza either, right? If they don't respect your wishes on diet, it's likely they don't, or won't respect your wishes in other categories. I'm a former nanny and daycare worker and I've never done anything like that- it's uncouth, and irresponsible to go against parent's specific instructions.

 

[flapjack]

Erm, my nearly 9mo eats very small pieces of pizza (wholewheat, organic). We have food allergies in the family, but so far she appears to be clear. I don't think the issue lies with the food that she was fed, I think the issue lies with you needing to know what she is eating, and when, and how much. The comment about "she likes sweet" scares me deep down: what exactly is she feeding your daughter that she knows that?
I would withdraw your daughter from that daycare and start rereading your contract: I would also, in every contract you sign with a daycare, add a note that your daughter is only to be offered food from home.

BTW, pizza doesn't contain egg.

 

[cellarstella]

just reading the title of this thread made me go

I had a nightmare that I left DD with my stepsister and she fed her cheetos, and then I physically attacked her for it! Of course, my babe is was barely 2 mos at the time... 10 mos is a little better, but I'd still be friggin' PO! If you can find another daycare, do it.

 

[turtlewomyn]

Unfortunately, we are going to be moving in a few months, so I would rather not yank DD out of one daycare, then put her in another, then yank her out of that one when we move.
And yeah, the pizza was not organic, whole wheat that is for sure.
It is mostly this particular person, she repeatedly gives dd food that we did not provide, even though the director has told her not to. We were very happy with this daycare until this woman started working there (I think she is just temporarly replacing someone on extended medical leave for back surgery)

 

[sapphire_chan]

Tell the director that you do not want this woman near your dd without supervision. As she obviously cannot be trusted.

 

[wombat]

Eeek! I would have been horrified. I don't feed my 9mo wheat, tomato, cheese yet. Also most manufactured pizza crusts have all sorts of yucky additives in them, including trans fats. I don't even feed my 3 1/2 yo some of those manufactured pizza crusts - it's very hard to buy one without partially hydrogenated fats added. Also how does this woman even know what the ingredients in the pizza are??

I bet the older kids are eating lots of stuff a 9mo can't eat. That's the most pathetic excuse I've ever heard. This woman needs to respect parents more. It's not just the pizza but her attitude, what else is she going to do? How can parents trust her with their child? That must be an issue for the daycare business.

I can't understand how the director lets this woman repeatedly do this?? I'd suggest to the director it could cause legal issues for her if an infant has an allergic reaction or worse because of it. Maybe then the director will take it seriously enough to prevent it happening. I also wonder if the local gov't or State dept that register the daycare have any rules about this. Doesn't registration require that daycares provide a "safe" place. Staff feeding infants foods that aren't approved by the parents or aren't age appropriate sounds unsafe to me.

 

[babygrant]

I would be very angry. Make sure your DH speaks with the director again because that is not acceptable.

 

[Incubator]

Damn straight... Legal action.... grr... so T'd I can't even think of anything to say...

 

[nighten]

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Originally Posted by sapphire_chan Tell the director that you do not want this woman near your dd without supervision. As she obviously cannot be trusted.

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[runes]

sorry, mama...but this would be an absolute deal breaker for me.

i can't believe they treated you like that. to me, following these kinds of instructions are utterly non-negotiable. the fact that the director tried to argue with you and question you about your food choices for your child is totally disrespectful and unprofessional.

isn't there some type of board or licensing committee to which you can lodge a complaint. this can be a serious health/safety issues due to allergies and sensitivities.

mama.

 

[grumpyshoegirl]

Wow....just.....wow.

I worked in a daycare all through high school and college. Babies under two got ONLY what came from home, never anything else. Toddlers and preschoolers got, at most, apple or grape juice and graham crackers at snack time if they didn't have a snack of their own and their parents had okayed it.

I think it's completely unprofessional for them to be offering things like that to infants.

 

[ashleyhaugh]

as a caregiver, i would say talk to the director and ask that she be moved out of that room since this has been a continued problem

 

[lovingmommyhood]

I would be irate. I don't even like my 21 month old eating pizza.

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[lunasmommy]

I'm in S Fla too and I was wondering if you could disclose which day care it is? Just curious. If not thats fine too. I agree with a pp that said it scared me more to hear that DD "likes sweets" How should she know? What sweets are they feeding her.

 

[angelpie545]

That is very irresponsible and unprofessional behavior from a that teacher. With the incidences of food allergies so high, no child should ever be feed any food that a parent has not had the chance to approve. I worked in daycares for years, and for infants and toddlers we were esepcially careful. Menus of the month's food were always posted and upon enrollment parents were given a sheet of paper asking about known food allergies and family history of allergies, as well as an oppurtunity tell us if there were any foods that they did not want their child to have. We were generally not ever allowed to feed a child under one year old food that they parent had not specifically approved or brought in.

Your daycare center needs to respect the choices of food that you have given your child. I would sit down, with your dh and the director of you center, and have a long talk about food allergies and introducing solids; what is the parents role, and what is the of the caregiver. The lack of respect some caregivers have for parents is absolutely amazing to me sometimes.

 

[Ammaarah]

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Originally Posted by sapphire_chan Tell the director that you do not want this woman near your dd without supervision. As she obviously cannot be trusted.

I agree with this.

My little one eats pizza, but it's my homemade healthy pizza, and she's never had any reaction to any of the ingredients. But I would have been really

: if someone else just gave it to her without permission! Yuck.

ETA: Ok, sorta-healthy pizza.

 

[thefragile7393]

Bleh, this is like a friend of my husbands who said that my son should teethe on a pizza crust! And was horrified when I didn't do it (we were at a pizza parlor at the time!) "Oh poor baby you are so deprived!" she says to my son.

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: Needless to say I pretty much want nothing to do with her anymore. And to OP, I really agree with the other posts, especially Angelpie.

 

[Shaunam]

I gave my DS pizza *crust* to gnaw on when he was about 10-11 months, but we waited until well after a year for the rest of it. I was under the impression that tomatoes were up there on the high allergen list. I'd be pissed. Even if she was older, it would piss me off. I consider pizza "junk food" (most is anyways) an they don't need to be feeding her junk. If you send her with healthy, nutritious food every day, that is what they need to feed her. Period. If she refuses it, they can give her more milk or something and try aain later. Not offer her whatever the older kids might be eating, which could include things like lunchables or mcdonalds.

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And the "mama, she's almost one" comment was totally uncalled for. Sounds like SHE needs a lesson in infant nutrition. "Almost one" isn't a ticket to feed your child whatever she [email protected] well pleases without asking you.

I know people thought I was crazy for being strict about solids, but in this society, where people were encouraging me to give hm bbq sauce at 2 months old, I hardly think I was going overboard on protecting him.

 

[turtlewomyn]

Lunasmommy - I will PM you with the daycare name and location (it is part of a chain)

We will definately go talk to the director. She seems to be understanding of our concerns, I just think this one teacher is the problem, she is the one who told me "mama, she is almost one" not the director. She obviously can't follow instructions though, as she has been told before not to give our child food we haven't brought in.