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I am due in December with our first. A few months after dd is born, I plan to work about 10-15 hours a week. I'm fortunate that I can work from home, but realistic enough to know I probably would not be able to get much work done while watching dd. We are currently evaluating our options for childcare while I work and are really torn between taking her to daycare versus getting someone to come to our home to watch her.<br><br>
What are the pros and cons of the two? How did you decide? There are wait lists for daycare around here, so I know I need to finalize the decision soon.
 

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i've been both a nanny (to 2 families), a daycare worker, and a date-by-date babysitter.<br><br>
if u are working from home and could get someone to come to your house to watch the baby while you work then that would be ideal. that way u could nurse. the nanny could help with some light housework (whatever you agree upon, while u nurse and while the baby sleeps. also, your baby would be close by if you just wanted to hug it. the baby would get much more attention w/ a personal nanny. it is soooo hard to give the kids adequate attention when there are so many of them.<br><br>
although it may seem a nanny would cost more than daycare, you may find that they would even out...here is how i figure. w/ daycare, you'd have to pay for gas to get there, send formula and food (unless u pump, but then you'd still have to have bottles and the pump), you'd need more "outfits, as most people feel like their kid has to be in outfits at daycare, where as at home it would be mpre likely that they wouldn't have to be in a matched outfit, you would probably have to use disposable diapers.<br><br>
plus, since the baby will be so young right during the "sickness season," it would be a hard time to start them in daycare.<br><br>
hope this helps.
 

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In my opinion, it wouldn't even be a question--if you can afford it, NANNY, 100%.<br><br>
I went back to work out of the home when DS was 3 months old. He attended an on-site daycare subsidized by my company. I lasted 4 months back at work and then I resigned when he was 7 months old...I couldn't stand it. We can't afford for me to not work but I am currently in the process of switching to a new career so that I can work from home. ANYWAY...I had to quit because I couldn't stand having him in daycare. He was literally sick for 4 months straight. He always, always, always had a horribly runny nose, was sneezing, coughing, he had pinkeye twice, and 2 ear infections, all in only 4 months. As well as the diaper rash from having to wear disposable diapers there and not being changed quickly when he pooped. And just...the lack of one-on-one care and love. I knew that there were times that he was just left to cry in his crib...and it broke my heart to think of it. I nursed him there at lunch every day so I saw it happen to the other babes and I knew it would happen to him when I wasn't there. Plus they are big on moving babes along on a sort of "schedule" to be eating solids by a certain time, eating table foods by a certain time, drinking from sippys by a certain time, so they could move them up to the toddler room, etc., and I didn't want him to be pressured like that. Last but certainly not least were the injuries from the other babes...he was scratched and bonked with toys, and although my DS never was, many of the other babes were bitten by others. I know that will happen eventually but a baby that can't even crawl or defend himself is too young to have to deal with that!
 

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As a former nanny, preschool teacher, daycare worker, and after-school care provider....nanny 110% if you can afford it...and go through a nanny agency that screens people well.<br>
The attention that a nanny will give to your baby will be so much better IMO. And you can have the nanny do a few chores around the house to help out too. You can schedule flexible hours instead of having to adhere to a rigid daycare opening/closing schedule. You can make the time at the end of each day to TALK about your child's day, whereas it's very hard to get that attention from a daycare provider each day because obviously they are taking care of multiple children.<br>
IF you decide to use daycare, I would personally look into a licensed family day care instead of a center. Usually they have fewer children, and nice age mix, and will get more attention and a more home-like environment.<br>
Oh, and congratulations! Hope the rest of your pregnancy flies by!
 

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ITA with a nanny. There is no comparing the one on one care and love your baby will recieve from a nanny. Having worked at a daycare, mom's day out, preschool, as a nanny and a babysitter, I can tell you all my nanny clients, I am still connected to. I am the guardian of one and the Godmother for another. Our children play and I am great friends with their moms. I cooked for their children, took them out to fun places (park, zoo, library, farm, pool, ect) I treated them like they were my own. When one of my 'kids' was going through a rough time and mama started co-sleeping, I was able to lay down with her and help her nap too. It's totally different. And being that you will be home is even better. Keep baby home with you! You wont regret it!
 

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I'm a WAHM and I would give anything if I could afford to have a nanny. GET ONE! You will get a great deal started, but not much finished if you are trying to work at home with a baby beside you. It will be totally possible for the first 5 or 6 months, but after that you will need some hired help, preferably IN the home.<br><br>
Good luck and best wishes for a beautiful and blissful birth.
 

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We never even considered daycare, but when it became obvious that we couldn't survive on one income, we had to do something.<br><br>
We got a babysitter (once MIL couldn't babysit anymore - moved out of state) for about 15 hours a week. She came to the house, and charge $5/hr. She was young, and didn't quite get the whole ap thing.<br><br>
But then we worked out a sweet deal with my sister. She just graduated high school and needed a place to live. I had a vacant third floor. So, instead of taking rent from her to pay a babysitter (we'd just break even) we now have her nanny from 8 - 12 while I work, in exchange for room & partial board. DS loves her, and it's awesome!<br><br>
Something no one else mentioned, a lot of daycares won't even take your kids for half days, or two days a week - or they will but you have to pay the whole week rate! No thank you! I would look into finding a nice college student or older gma type that could come to your house. If you have extra room, maybe you could work out an arrangement like mine - it is absolutely wonderful! If I have to run to the store to get milk, she can watch him and I don't have to put him in the car seat, drive, take him out, get the milk, put him back in, etc. We even wrote a "nanny lease" that has the rules and exchange rate, etc.<br><br>
Good luck! December babies rock!
 

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Just add me to the list of another former child care worker that thinks you should go for the nanny. Babies really need a lot of one on one, which is much harder for them to get in group childcare settings.
 

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I would choose the nanny option if I could afford it. I know a good friend has a nanny watch her son while she teaches her students in her home (she teaches violin). I think it's absolutely the best choice because the child is in the familiar home environment, you have a better opportunity to supervise and ensure that the methods you approve of are being used, and you can get up and help for a few minutes if you feel you need to. You can also go visit your babe if you need it. And of course the baby gets one-one-one attention.<br><br>
Also, I'd still be breastfeeding, so it would be easiest to just have the babe brought to me when hungry for breastfeeding. No need to pump (bigger interruption IMO than BFing, since you can work while BF in a sling or whatever). No need to introduce babe to bottles. I see lots of pluses and the only downside to the nanny is if you got up every five minutes to check because you were paranoid, but that would probably only last a few days. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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I've never had a nanny, but I just have to put in my vote for a daycare center. Not all daycare centers are alike though, so if you look into this option you'd really want to spend some time there observing how things are run (although I'd want to do that at any place my kids went to). What I like most about our daycare center is that they are 100% accountable - you always know what is going on. There are protocols that they have to follow; the workers are trained in CPR; there are always enough people working there that if my dc needs to be walked around for 40 minutes to go to sleep, they can do that; supervisors walk around the center on a regular basis; daycare is never sick or on vacation, or having a bad day. I really feel like I have total control over what goes on with my dc while at daycare, which I really value.<br><br>
When my dcs got older and out of the 'little baby room,' they also got to do some things at daycare that they would not get to do at home. For instance, body painting and other really messy things!<br><br>
Anyhow, you can tell I love my daycare and have had very good experiences there with my two dcs (my third will be going in a few months). Nannies I'm sure are great too, but not all daycare centers are created equally! Just keep an open mind!
 
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