DD 8 wants limited too?

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My Dd knows what brand is but couldn't care less. It's never ever been a concern around here. In fact she has some limited too stuff but didn't realize it until I mentioned it lol. So yea, I agree that for some kids it just must never come up. Perhaps this is a peer influence type of thing?

Thankfully, at this point in time, my children do not have a preferance for particular brands They do prefer jeans and t shirts, but otherwise they are open.

However, if I were taking on a child who was not my own, who had felt deprivation or rejection in the past, I would try to accomodate his/her needs. There are plenty of ways to meet fashion wishes in cheap ways. If you have a Savers (or any goodwill/thrift/consignment) near you , you will find all the 'brands' for pennies on the dollar. If a bit of a uniform helps her to feel less singled out, I would go ahead and buy those items that make her feel less insecure in her new life.

It's hard enough being a child--- sometimes a uniform can ease the transition. I would not make wanting certain items a moral issue. You can let her know there will be other crazy demands, and that you understand many children are also insecure, and some are shallow. If giving her a few certain name t shirts helps ease her into her new life, so what? The lessons can come later, when it's not so painful to be an outcast. I can't see why she should be denied this. You can still amke sure her belly is covered. Limited Too, as far as I can see, is just a bunch of shirts with Limited Too printed on them.

As she becomes more acclimated to your family, you can give her more insight. Perhaps you might choose to homeschool so she doesn't hace to face this crazyness on a daily basis. I would not choose the clothing argument at this time. I know so many adults who wouldn't be caught dead driving a mini van or not wearing tie dye .(Pick whatever group look with which you identify). Nearly every one of us is affected by those markers which define the segment we wish to be a part.

We really should not expect more from our most vulnerable.

If you can afford it I say go for it. I believe that in the long run there will be bigger struggles to contend with if you don't give a little. Saying that, however, I also think that there should be some clear guidelines. My kids know what I will and will not allow them to wear. They also know that I believe that kids should be allowed to make their own decisions about their appearance. So, while they know they have the freedom to choose their own clothes, they also know what lines they cannot cross and I think because of it they've made very good decisions and wouldn't think of wearing outfits that are entirely too mature for them. Even my 14yo, who is at 'that age' wouldn't think of wearing anything revealing. She doesn't get why girls feel the need to dress innappropriately.

Personally, if you can get past the miniskirts, I think that Limited Too has some VERY cute, trendy clothes. And, while I don't believe that kids should be terribly focused on how they look, I know that I feel good when I think that I look good and I'm sure many kids feel the same way. At this time when she's working on an adjustment period, I say do whatever you can, within reason, to allow her to feel special and beautiful. Sometimes a couple of new outfits that she wouldn't normally be able to get can make a world of difference.

My dd (age 10 almost 11) loves to shop there and for the most part gets most of her stuff there, but our schools dress code (thankfully) doesn't allow any kind of halter top, short shorts/skirts, tank tops, etc. Basically the winter stuff is ok, but the spring/summer stuff isn't! I too, love the clearance rack there and with three girls I have to shop that way but I think if you are upfront with her about the stuff she allowed to buy there, it might be a nice treat and a bonding experience for both of you!

My DD (10) gets a clothing allowance of sorts. Which means, if we are going to buy shirts and she says she wants Limited Too, I let her know she can have 4 shirts from Sears or one-two from Limited Too. A lot of her friends wear clothes from there, so she likes the store a lot, but plenty of her friends wear cheaper stuff so she usually goes for quantity over trendy-ness She doesn't even try to get midriff baring tops or halter tops, and if she did she knows I'd veto it. If we didn't have limited funds, I'd let her get clothes from wherever she wanted as long as they were within my modesty guidelines. Limited Too has plenty of cute clothes that cover what I want covered--it isn't just skimpy halter tops.