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We've been working on potty training for about two months now. DD has been doing awesome! She would go days without and accident, and only had pee accidents. Suddenly she has been struggling with pooing. I think she may have gotten constipated a little bit and when she went it hurt so now she is holding it in, which causes more constipation, which makes it hurt more, which makes her hold it more....... I've tried everything I can think of to try to break the cycle. Plenty of juice and fruit, graham crackers - it's difficult though because she is such a picky eater. I'm cutting down her dairy, pushing water more. Is this something that I'm just going to have to let play out?
 

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Try giving her a diaper to poo in if she wants one. I've had to do that with my dd at times. She gets constipated easily partly from diet, partly from holding back because I think that she thinks it's yucky and is embarassed or ashamed of it. I've been cheering her on lately and it's helping a lot. If she goes, even in a diaper, I tell her what a nice big poop it is and how happy I am. So she's relaxing now.<br><br>
Try giving her 4-8 T. of prune juice before bedtime for a couple of days to help get things moving again. I took dd to the ped's for her problem and they gave me a diet but sounds like you are doing that. I didn't know it but constipation can actually stretch out and weaken the intestinal muscles and cause them to work less effeciently. It takes about a month to get them in shape again, sometimes longer. So you don't want this to become a long-term problem.<br><br>
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I've tried to be real cheerful and praise the heck out of her when she does go. I've also tried the diaper - she doesn't want to go in her diaper, she has been running to the bathroom, takes her panties off, sits down, two seconds later stands up and runs from the bathroom. We do that alot! I've cut off her milk as much as possible thinking that may be the culprit, and it has been so hot here and I know she isn't drinking as much water as she should so that is probably what is causing it. I had similar problems with her though when she was a baby. She'd get so constipated that I had to use suppositories on her. I'm hoping we do better today, nothing so far, but it is still early.
 

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Yea, you’ll have to play it out…always will, I think. To ease the constipation there are some more foods you could try like apricots, prunes, apples, pears, corn and raisins (cut out all bananas!). I would also recommend playing very close to the place where she would go to poop. I think it helps to get there just when the “urge” hits, kwim? We dealt with this a while back and I know that it’s stressful. Does your child seem bothered by the constipation other than the first time? I would say that that’s the biggest issue.<br><br>
We have the opposite problem. My daughter threw a fit when I was leaving for a very important class. Luckily, I decided to stay home with her despite my other obligations because she had diarrhea like 5 times during the time I would have been gone. Poor thing. I can’t believe that poop is even more of an issue post-diaper. I look forward to the day where I no longer think about my kids poop, don’t you?<br><br>
I just read your last post and if I were you, I would limit the praise a little. Perhaps it's actually causing some pressure. Could that be possible? We don't do praise for the potty and that's what works best for us.
 

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My best friend is a nurse and her kids have many different elimination problems. She makes elimination very matter-of-fact, no punishment or praise. One thing she recommended is a long, warm, deep bath when my dd is constipated. This helps relex ALL muscles. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> Also, like Darhani said, if she seems really in pain about it, it does create a viscious cycle and I've read sometimes it causes diarhea (dang it, can never spell that word, LOL!) which is actually leaking around the backed-up part. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> If you've tried fruit and fruit juices I know this isn't going to be popular but suppositores will get things moving again and then you can try from there to get lots of fibre and water. It does take awhile for things to get back in shape. The occassional suppository will not make her dependent, and seeing that it's worked in the past it might be an option.<br><br>
I wonder if there are herbs and stuff we could give our kids for this. Hmm. I know that I've done herbal cleanses before and if you take too much, MAN, watch out so I'm sure there's something we could give them.<br><br>
Looking in my Prescription for Nutritional healing here's a couple things we haven't discussed: aloe vera gel, just drank straight or in juice; apples (NOT applesauce); prunes or figs; psyllium seed; and ground flaxseed. Since those aren't herbs I think they'd probably be safe for a toddler, but you might want to do a little more research.
 
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