All those kids were acting age/stage appropriate. Some people need to get over it.
dd tried to undress her friend... update
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Sorry, this is long
We are a group of parents that hang out at the park with kids every afternoon after school. We are part of this group since the end of august, but all other parents have known each other for a few years. All parents are good friends.
Today at the park (while dd was with dh), dd tried to pull her friends pants (and maybe panties, I don't know) down.
4 kids were playing: dd (5yo), her friend (a girls 3 1/2 yo) and 2 boys (7yo and 6yo). Usually, dd and the 7 yo don't play together because the 7yo always tries to bully her (he has behavior problems that will be taken care of because the school notified the parents that he needed to see a psychologist). A woman came by the group of parents and told them to watch the kids as they were palying taking off clothes.
The mom of the 7yo asked the 2 boys what was happening and they told her that dd had the idea to pull the pants of the little girl down.
The mom of the little girl gave s$%? to dd and told dh not to tell her dh, because he would take this very seriously. Dd cried for 2 hours after that because she was upset and ashamed of what she had done and for being yelled at in public.
Dd told me that it was true that she had the idea, but that the boys were showing their penises and that the little girl was pulling down her pants (not panties) alone. Nothing was said to the 2 boys.
Also, last week the 7yo pulled down the panties of a little girl at school and was severely punished for it, in part becasue the mom of this little girl was very upset about it and wanted the school to do something and the parents to take action. All the parents thought that the girl's mom was making a big fuss about nothing, and I was about the only one who thought that even though it was "common", something needed to be done (a good talk, something, because this kid always bullies others,...).
I know what dd did was wrong, but I'm not sure if she should be the only one to take the blame for this.
What would you do? Would you just let it go and not talk about it anymore? I already talked with dd (before and tonight) and told her how her body was sacred and that nobody had the right to touch it or see it if she didn't want to, so others deserved the same respect, should I add something? Should I tell the other mom that I'm sorry for what happened but that I think they were all kind of "playing".
Please help me, because I feel like they are putting a bad etiquette on dd, and she really is, most of the time, a well adjusted kid, does VERY well in school (in the behavior department), but I also don't want to look like I'm trying to put the blame on others (but maybe I am
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I am really upset and feel like
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We are a group of parents that hang out at the park with kids every afternoon after school. We are part of this group since the end of august, but all other parents have known each other for a few years. All parents are good friends.
Today at the park (while dd was with dh), dd tried to pull her friends pants (and maybe panties, I don't know) down.
4 kids were playing: dd (5yo), her friend (a girls 3 1/2 yo) and 2 boys (7yo and 6yo). Usually, dd and the 7 yo don't play together because the 7yo always tries to bully her (he has behavior problems that will be taken care of because the school notified the parents that he needed to see a psychologist). A woman came by the group of parents and told them to watch the kids as they were palying taking off clothes.
The mom of the 7yo asked the 2 boys what was happening and they told her that dd had the idea to pull the pants of the little girl down.
The mom of the little girl gave s$%? to dd and told dh not to tell her dh, because he would take this very seriously. Dd cried for 2 hours after that because she was upset and ashamed of what she had done and for being yelled at in public.
Dd told me that it was true that she had the idea, but that the boys were showing their penises and that the little girl was pulling down her pants (not panties) alone. Nothing was said to the 2 boys.
Also, last week the 7yo pulled down the panties of a little girl at school and was severely punished for it, in part becasue the mom of this little girl was very upset about it and wanted the school to do something and the parents to take action. All the parents thought that the girl's mom was making a big fuss about nothing, and I was about the only one who thought that even though it was "common", something needed to be done (a good talk, something, because this kid always bullies others,...).
I know what dd did was wrong, but I'm not sure if she should be the only one to take the blame for this.
What would you do? Would you just let it go and not talk about it anymore? I already talked with dd (before and tonight) and told her how her body was sacred and that nobody had the right to touch it or see it if she didn't want to, so others deserved the same respect, should I add something? Should I tell the other mom that I'm sorry for what happened but that I think they were all kind of "playing".
Please help me, because I feel like they are putting a bad etiquette on dd, and she really is, most of the time, a well adjusted kid, does VERY well in school (in the behavior department), but I also don't want to look like I'm trying to put the blame on others (but maybe I am
I am really upset and feel like
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Thanks.
I am kinda freakin about this because I don't know what really happened, and I don't know what the little girl was doing. Was she a willingful participant, or were her pants pulled down while she wanted to defend herself? was she unhappy about it? I don't know
Also, I feel like the mom doesn't like the way our kids (dd and her dd) play: dd is 2 years older than the little girl, so often, dd will "boss" her around ("come and play here", "no, that's not the game", do this, ...) and her dd tends to imitate mine (if dd says something silly, she will say it too). Her dd is normaly a quiet, shy kid, so the mom may not like the way my dd is influencing hers. Maybe that's the main issue here. I feel that she doesn't like what dd teaches her child and understand it, but at the same time, I know that this is how it goes (dd learned lots of "undesirable" behaviors in daycare and school). Her dd never went to daycare, and untill spring, she mostly sat on her mothers lap sucking her thumb when we were at the park, so she never got a lot of outside influence.
Thanks for reading.
I think I'll call the mom tomorrow and let her know how I feel. I haven't been able to eat supper (but ate a whole box of ice cream
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I am kinda freakin about this because I don't know what really happened, and I don't know what the little girl was doing. Was she a willingful participant, or were her pants pulled down while she wanted to defend herself? was she unhappy about it? I don't know
Also, I feel like the mom doesn't like the way our kids (dd and her dd) play: dd is 2 years older than the little girl, so often, dd will "boss" her around ("come and play here", "no, that's not the game", do this, ...) and her dd tends to imitate mine (if dd says something silly, she will say it too). Her dd is normaly a quiet, shy kid, so the mom may not like the way my dd is influencing hers. Maybe that's the main issue here. I feel that she doesn't like what dd teaches her child and understand it, but at the same time, I know that this is how it goes (dd learned lots of "undesirable" behaviors in daycare and school). Her dd never went to daycare, and untill spring, she mostly sat on her mothers lap sucking her thumb when we were at the park, so she never got a lot of outside influence.
Thanks for reading.
I think I'll call the mom tomorrow and let her know how I feel. I haven't been able to eat supper (but ate a whole box of ice cream
I agree with Ard.
Plus, I'd talk with your dd about the boys and their showing their penises. Was she witness to that? She needs to talk about that with you in a calm, inviting, conversation.
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to you mama
Plus, I'd talk with your dd about the boys and their showing their penises. Was she witness to that? She needs to talk about that with you in a calm, inviting, conversation.
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