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I'm freaking out. DD has to have a cavity filled. The dentist assures me that it's nothing I've done, she just has very deep grooves in her teeth. I'm beating myself up anyway.<br><br>
Talk me through this please. What do I need to know? I've never had a cavity or any dental work done, so I have no idea what to expect. He doesn't think he'll need to numb her, but wants to give her laughing gas. How safe is that? Also what about materials used for fillings. He said it is a white substance. What are the possible ingredients and effects of those?<br><br>
One more thing. The dentist mentioned that I could probably "be there for most of it." I informed him that unless I sense that I'm stressing her out in some way (highly unlikely) I'll be staying for the whole thing. We exchanged a few words. Am I nuts for wanting to be there for what he promises me is a quick and simple procedure for a child who is not yet 3? Have I turned into a crazy mom?<br><br>
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im having the same issue. funny. I have to have a ton of work done to my teeth, they say since my mother never took me to a dentist. My problem isnt me its my son who turned 2 in feb. he has a cavity. My dentist says he could give him laughing gas. I said no way no way to any of it. Im just concerned that having a drill put in his mouth is traumatic. So he will be laying in my lap for it. If your dentist wont allow it I suggest you find a new dentist to go to!!! Its your right as a momma to be there.....unless your crying and nervous, your child will need you. My son told me he wants to be on my lap....so thats where he will be. I honestly dont know how safe the white filling is.....I do know that it cost more, and its not really needed on baby teeth. Sorry cant be of more help....im in the same boat...also want to know about floride varnish? heard of it?<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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No advice, but in the same boat. Most of the dentists here say to wait until 3 for the first checkup. Well, DD's 2.9 and I can see two cavities in the top front of her mouth. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
So we're trying to get an appointment and I'm trying not to freak out. She has a healthy diet, still nurses, brushes and flosses every day. We don't do fluoride, but I have started using a xylitol toothpaste for her. I've never had a cavity, so this is new and scary territory for me. DH has softer teeth; it seems like she's taking after him. She physically looks a lot like him and shares a lot of his personality, so I supposed I shouldn't be too surprised. . . . *sigh*
 

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we saw a dentist who said i had to be out of the room. she said "it's when parents are in the room that the kids put on an act, when you are out of the room they do excellently well"<br><br>
so it was already clear that we had different views as to how children express and how we listen...<br><br>
Also, her alternative in case my child did not do well with me out of the room was GA<br><br>
so we found another dentist. i asked if i could be there to tell a story while they worked and they said, yes, we encourage you to do that. Of course we havent gone yet and I am just praying that dd will do ok when we do.<br><br>
And this is just a mainstream, large & busy dental practice. I imagine ifyou ask around you can find one too.
 

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Our pediatric dentist allows parents to be in the room for the entire procedure, no questions asked. In fact, when we tried to get fillings for DD, 2.5, last Monday, both DH and I were in the room with her, trying to keep her calm.<br><br>
If they're giving you problems and want you out of the room, find someplace else. I've heard that nonsense about children acting better when their parents aren't around, but I think it's an excuse--both for the dentists to threaten and frighten a child into submission, or a situation where the child is scared out of his/her wits and complies because they're afraid and no one is around to protect them.<br><br>
Our dentist offered laughing gas and we wanted her to have it. DD is anxious and also scared of strangers, so I welcomed anything that would help relax her (she was also holding my hand or DH's hand and there was a video screen in the ceiling and she was watching a show she likes). I really wanted to get through the procedure, and the dentist and assistants are so gentle and nice and don't force kids to do anything and don't shame them for crying--but DD is still scared of them (and all cashiers, people at church who we see weekly, our neighbors, anyone who stops to talk to her...). Unfortunately, she wouldn't keep the mask on because it scared her. I think she would have been much more relaxed if she had. We're now headed for GA, but we feel like we tried under the best possible conditions and if we don't do something, they'll end up pulling these teeth instead.
 

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Find another dentist!!<br><br>
My ds had one filling when he was 2.5. He didn't have any gas or anything because it was a small filling (maybe that's an option for your lo?). The dentist was a woman who specializes in working with kids and is a mom herself. She was awesome. She explained every single tool to my ds, let him touch it and get comfortable with it, took as long as needed, etc. If you find someone who really knows how to work with kids it's NOT a big deal at all. That was our experience, anyway.
 
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