I'm not sure how to handle this and would appreciate some input.
DD went to play a friend's house about a month ago. When I went to pick up DD, Amanda (also kindergarten) was very sad and started crying. Amanda's mom called her a crybaby and said, basically, to just buck up. DD comforted Amanda and said that they'd play together at school in the morning. After a few minutes, Amanda stopped crying but was still obviously upset when we left.
When the mom said, "crybaby", my DD was pretty surprised and looked at me for a clue as she walked over to comfort Amanda. DD could see that my jaw was about on the floor. At dinner that night, we talked about how Amanda must have felt and how much better she felt when DD gave her some loves (our code for hugs and pats and gentle talking). I tried not to criticize the other Mom, just focus on how Amanda was feeling.
That was the end of it until last night when Erin said that Amanda was also called "spoiled" by her mom. I dodged it by talking about having lots of nice things (as Amanda does) doesn't automatically make you spoiled as long as you appreciate and take care of your nice things.
DD is clearly wondering about the other mom's behavior, and I'm stumped on how to address that.
Can anybody out there give me a clue?
DD went to play a friend's house about a month ago. When I went to pick up DD, Amanda (also kindergarten) was very sad and started crying. Amanda's mom called her a crybaby and said, basically, to just buck up. DD comforted Amanda and said that they'd play together at school in the morning. After a few minutes, Amanda stopped crying but was still obviously upset when we left.
When the mom said, "crybaby", my DD was pretty surprised and looked at me for a clue as she walked over to comfort Amanda. DD could see that my jaw was about on the floor. At dinner that night, we talked about how Amanda must have felt and how much better she felt when DD gave her some loves (our code for hugs and pats and gentle talking). I tried not to criticize the other Mom, just focus on how Amanda was feeling.
That was the end of it until last night when Erin said that Amanda was also called "spoiled" by her mom. I dodged it by talking about having lots of nice things (as Amanda does) doesn't automatically make you spoiled as long as you appreciate and take care of your nice things.
DD is clearly wondering about the other mom's behavior, and I'm stumped on how to address that.
Can anybody out there give me a clue?