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This is very hard to explain but my partner and I have been seperated for a year. We have a 4 yr DD together. I am now remarried and trying with husband,... Things are just starting to get descent with all adults...<br><br>
But my sister came for a visit at christmas and we had a good time, drinking and listening to music, But I live on a boat with dh and dd, and it was too much for her to handle so she called her boyfriend in the middle of the night and left in the morning. I was pretty insulted since I could have booked a hotel room for us to stay at, since I live out west and I see her once a year. Anyways she goes home.....<br><br>
Meanwhile ex is back east visiting with dd his parents and mine, and my sister has him over for dinner and descides to tell him, this is hard to write, but...<br>
We were all joking around that night and talking, and lets not forget drinking, so my husband slapped her on the ass, which she took as sexual harrasment and told my ex that shes worried about my dd well being. So now he went to see a lawyer and looked into a restaining order against husband for my dd!!<br>
What am i supposed to do now??<br>
I feel like this situation got totally blown out of proportion.<br>
I'm upset at my sister for not talking to me about any of this, and going directly to ex. (when she knows I left him because he was manipulative, controlling, and jealous..)<br>
I needed to vent, since I cant talk to anyone around me about this, and I dont trust my familly now!~
 

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Get your own lawyer to look into what, if any, rules were broken. Though this is scary, I don't think it is considered sexual harrassment to slap someone's bottom during a family party. Nor do I think most people, including a judge, would consider that a reason for keeping your DH from your DD. It was slightly inappropriate but I think sexual harrassment is something that happens in a workplace as a legal problem. You could make a case that your sister was flirting and inviting the attention if you think that is the truth. Most men I've met don't suddenly slap someone's bum out of the blue, even when drinking. I think it is inappropriate that your sister still hangs with your ex. I think you need to be very careful who you have at your house/boat next time during an adult get together. Your Dh might have to take parenting classes or sensitivity classes but this is not something that should make you lose your child.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I don't think any judge would take custody away based on those kinds of accusations. They are just accusations. Document the situation yourself in case you are ever questioned about it. A judge may order an evaluation - but they aren't so bad.
 

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I wouldn't worry about it. It's actually pretty very hard to get someone's parental rights taken from them -- just ask anyone on this board who's dealing with a troubled ex of some sort. I'd be beyond furious with the sister, though -- that's crazy! I would not take well to my family socializing with my ex in the first place, but then to do something so hurtful!
 
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