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how do you get over it when you lose your temper?? sometimes when I lose my temper with my kids 2 and 3 years I feel sick over it all day, and find myself in a worse mood dwelling on the bad times. I have really bad anxiety and when something bad happens my mind will lock onto it for hours or even days..<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> lately my girls have been constantly fighting over toys and sometimes hitting the other in the head with the toy ect... and that's when I find myself yelling... I seem to only yell when violence happens or when someone won't stop doing something dangerous.. any tips would be appreciated... thanks for listening
 

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I would apologize, explain to them why you lost your temper and tell them how yelling at them made you feel. Just be open and honest, I'd say. And talk to them about what they think might be a better solution that would prevent you from yelling next time.
 

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I found some really great advice about this in the book, "Liberated parents, Liberated children" by faber and mazlish. They have a whole chapter about parental guilt and how to deal with it. I think we all feel it sometimes(or lots of the time). I just try to remeber that when they see you lose it, then come back and deal with things in a better way, it is teaching them to do the same. Imo the most important thing is for your kids to see you grow and change and become the best person you can be, that way they learn to do the same. I don't think it is good for them to see you as perfect. Good luck.
 

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I tell htem I'm sorry and move on.
 
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