this is mainly MY issue, not hers. dd is 3.5 yo and is generally great. she is quite spirited however, and very enthusiastic about life in general and particularly her 2 mo brother. this drives me CRAZY. i think that mentally i want time with the baby and feel pulled in many directions with housework (which i don't do all of...dh is equal), working out of the home, and childcare. so, i'm looking for mental/emotional techniques for myself for coping with my frustration with my attention-seeking but loving 3 yo. basically, with two kids, how do you use self-talk to keep yourself sane and balanced, especially for your older child?