[penstamon]

We have been having to deal with some IL family drama lately, and some very hurtful things have been said/done by my SIL who is in the drama phase of wedding planning. VERY HURTFUL. I am so angry too

that this has come out now months after the accusations occurred. I felt like I got the wind knocked out of me.

I dont want to care about anything other than the babe and dont want my unhappy feelings to be felt by him/her. I am scared to let myself go through these emotions, as they have been making me physically sick. I've been trying deep breathing, yoga, qigong, exercise, etc. but I think it may take time and more confrontation.

Any suggestions for a worried mama who just wants love in her body?

 

[BlessedEarthMother]

Have you heard of Emotional Freedom Technique(EFT)? It works so great!!! I used it during my first pregnancy to help deal with abuse issues from childhood. It helped so much. It is completely safe with no side effects and helps you to rid yourself of emotional baggage without reliving the emotions. My chiropractor offered it but there are all different types of people who practice EFT. I am sure you can find someone wherever you live. Give it a try, you won't be disappointed!

 

[eli's mama]

I'm so sorry that you are dealing with this now. I am also dealing with family drama some of which has been personally hurtful. I have been up late at night crying about it and find that, gee, that is not that helpful. lol. well I do find that yoga and meditation is helpful even though at first I just cry and cry, by the end I find that I feel much better and I can focus on the baby and the joy of my life. I know that you will get through this. When is the wedding?

 

[penstamon]

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Originally Posted by eli's mama I'm so sorry that you are dealing with this now. I am also dealing with family drama some of which has been personally hurtful. I have been up late at night crying about it and find that, gee, that is not that helpful. lol. well I do find that yoga and meditation is helpful even though at first I just cry and cry, by the end I find that I feel much better and I can focus on the baby and the joy of my life. I know that you will get through this. When is the wedding?

I'm sorry that someone else has to deal with this too, and I wish that it would just melt away for both of us. The wedding is in Jan ~6w away. The IL's dont know we are pg- we want to surprise them for Xmas and it would be inappropriate to blurt it out now. I wouldnt want it to be misconstrued as a weapon or something.

Just reading your post made me cry for you too. Family drama can hurt so much more because they are the only family we have and when you love people, they can hurt you that much more.