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Recently, we asked some friends (who are wealthy) if they wanted to attend a sporting event with us. They responded that they would love to go, but they wanted to order seats on the 50 yard line, so would it be okay if we don't sit together? I am still fuming; first they assume we can't afford those tickets (well, we can't, or at least, we wouldn't choose to do devote so much $$ to those seats when people are starving in the world!), then they have the bad manners to put best seats before sitting with friends. I don't feel like I can say anything. I just wondered if others would be as shocked as I am by their response.
 

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Then why even bother going together? I'd just say forget it and go separately. That is very poor manners.
 

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Ugh! I'm sorry. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I'd just find that plain inconsiderate, hands down. Why bother going together if you'll end up sitting at opposite corners of the arena? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: If they put "great seats" over the shared company of friends, why are they your friends? (not trying to sounds snarky, just couldn't think of another way to put it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> )
 

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Wow. That is incredibly rude. I'd probably just say something along the lines of, "Sure, if that's what you'd like to do. It might be easier if we just go separately, then meet up for a drink/something to eat after then game." Then, I probably would not be quick to invite them to something like this again. Are they close friends?
 

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Yeah, that's just plain inconsiderate. I wouldn't even call that a wealth issue. I don't know that I'd ever invite them to something like that again.
 

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That's rude. I'd let them do their own thing and go yourselves and have a great time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> With the money you save on the seat difference, you can have a few extra beers! LOL!!!!!
 

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How rude. I would go alone, and have a great time without them.
 

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Wow - since you won't be sitting near each other anyway, let them find their own way there and home. Then, some time in the future when you see them, say sweetly, "Wasn't it fun going to the game together?"<br><br>
They don't sound like great friends to me.
 

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More than anything, its just kind of bizarre... If the game was so important to them that they wanted to sit at the 50 yard line, then why didn't they already have tickets???
 

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A real friend might have offered to get tickets for you too.<br><br><br>
I would have, and have bought friends tickets before just so they could go!<br><br><br>
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Sounds like some friends I have... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
I would have said that we aren't getting tickets on the 50 yard line and they are welcome to get X seats with us if they want. If not, have fun, we'll see you another time.<br><br>
Then I'd hang up the phone, turn to DH and go off about how inconsiderate they are and how they'll probably just end up inviting another couple to go and sit on the 50 yard line with them like they probably wanted to do all along since that's what they ALWAYS do... (sorry, just made this about me...)<br><br>
Anyway, not worth ruining a friendship over if it's a good/long one, but yes, kind of rude.
 

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Most of our friends are at the same place financially, but we do have some dear friends who have done REALLY well. In this situation, if they really wanted to sit at the 50 yard line, I am almost sure they would buy us tickets and then when I insisted we pay lie about how much they cost <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> We had a situation like this a few years ago and when I disputed the price she gave me, she laughed and said she lost track of the real price when they bought the wrong tickets on accident <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> I just wrote her the check and sent her kids some cute stuff I found on sale.<br><br>
I think it is rude for them to be so upfront about wanting better seats, but it is not unusual to have friends that require you to swallow your words a bit.
 

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Yes, that is what I would say, too.<br><br>
Maybe it wasn't that they thought you couldn't afford the seats, though. Do they usually buy tickets there? Maybe that's what they always do, or they had some compelling reason to buy those specific seats.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br><br>
Sometimes people are just clueless, and don't intend to be rude, or else maybe they weren't taught manners! I know a few people like that! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I'd be bent out of shape too!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Completely rude. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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wow, that's so completely tactless, rude, insensitive and selfish <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
it's too bad money can't buy class
 

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This isn't about your friends being wealthy, this is about your "friends" being rude.<br><br>
Either you go together and sit together, or you go separately and get together at another time. They can either sit with you guys at the "cheap seats", pay for your "expensive seats" or not go with you to the game at all. The way they phrased it on the phone was rather rude.<br><br>
My biggest concern with "wealthier friends" was that they would invite me to things I couldn't afford to go to, or offer to "treat me" when we all knew I'd have to reciprocate sometime and couldn't really afford to do that either. What pissed me off the most was when the friends in question were as broke as I was, but insisted on going out for breakfast since it's "only a few dollars, not like going out for dinner." (This was when my girls were babies and I was still married to their dad)<br><br>
Fine, its' cheaper than going out for dinner but I still don't have $5 breakfasts in my budget right now! Those really add up when you're home with 2 babies and trying to stretch one income! And it just wasn't something I wanted to use as my "entertainment budget" either- not when I could have friends in my house almost for free and use that money to rent a video instead.<br><br>
Now my social life revolves around posting on MDC, seeing friends in person at shul (where no money is being spent whatsoever) and meeting up at HS events where we all bring our own lunches.
 
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