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Yes I'm ticked. My mother is selfish as they come, she lives 2 miles down the road and when I'm at my breaking point with the kids and need a break she refuses to take them. heck, she refuses to take them when ever most times. I've had to put off surgery on a infected tooth for MONTHS because it hasn't been convenient for her to babysitt for a couple hours so I can get it removed. She doesn't work, she stays at home submissive housewife who lives to serve her DH to the exclusion of even seeing her family who she hasn't seen in a few years and refused to drive a couple hours with us to see them when there was a family reunion because she "had to make him lunch". What ever, point is she's only interested in helping her DH and complains how much she has the kids (she has them ONCE a month while I'm in class) and acts like she has them every flippin day. She says "I do and do for you!" She does not! I don't know what the heck she think she does because she doesn't do much. Anyway today I brought her dinner and showed her the pictures we had taken and does she notice the happy baby in the pictures? Oh course not! She only see's what WRONG with the baby. Yes I know my baby has facial difference and she looks different. Yes I know her face looks a bit like its melting and her eye was really droopy that day but you know what? She's HAPPY and SHE'S YOUR GRANDCHILD!!!!! I know you have always said you could never love or raise a child who wasn't perfect but these are the only grandchildren your going to get and both have problems whether you like it or not and unless you want to die old and alone I suggest you GET OVER IT!!!!!!<br><br><br>
Satori <a href="http://i15.photobucket.com/albums/a355/boredtech/Lilly/lillyeye.jpg" target="_blank">PROUD mommy to Lilly</a><br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banghead.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banghead"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/censored.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="censored"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/splat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="splat"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hopmad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hopping mad">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I can't understand that. My son was born with clubbed feet. They looked very weird for a good long while. I didn't care at all. I played with his feet and touched on them and kissed them. He's my son, he's perfect to me no matter what the world's standards are. Luckily, our family felt the same. If anyone EVER said anything ugly about my son, they wouldn't be seeing him again.<br><br>
Your Lilly is a beautiful sweet angel! Who cares what your stupid mom says. She sounds very sad about herself and she feels the need to take it out on others, including her grandbaby. That's not a person I'd want in mine or my child's life. Personally, I'd cut ties for the most part. Her loss.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/censored.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="censored"> is right.<br><br>
Lilly is beautiful.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> to you.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Sorry you have such a crazy mom.<br>
Hugs to you, your daughter is super cute and looks really happy.<br>
Congratulations on having a happy baby...that's what counts.
 

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This got me.I am so sorry your mother feels this way. Thankfully your beautiful daughter has a wonderful mother to care for her and love her unconditionally.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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We must be related. My mother lives 20 minutes away and I stopped asking her for help over four years ago when I asked her to babysit and she replied with "I can't, I have to organize my basement." She also treats Maura differently, all but ignores her, then had the gall to tell me that "everyone who knows and loves Maura feel you should be doing more for her" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
If I could, I'd come watch your dd - she's absolutely adorable! Of course, my 6 yr old dd would have to come help play with the baby <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Hugs, Satori. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I have a crazy mom too - in a different way, but still - so I can relate. I agree with the PP who said you might think about cutting ties for a while. Her energy and the way she treats you isn't helping anything and isn't worth that one day a month. I guarantee you there are many people out there who would feel honored to care for your baby.
 

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Oh man, your mom sounds like a piece of work <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">. Your daughter is absolutely beautiful.
 

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i just i had to say i think you dd is beautiful! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> tell your mom to go ...... off! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Your daughter is indeed beautiful. I'm sorry your mom is treating you and her grandchildren this way. She's really going to miss out on a lot of love.
 

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Another member of the women whose moms who suck as grandmas club. The only way my mom is interested in her grandkids is if they are going to serve HER in some manner. As they are only 2 and 5 and I refuse to drop them at her doorstep, there is pretty much a limited superficial relationship.<br><br>
Did prior generations have such a hard time getting grandparents to have a genuine interest in their grandkids? I swear, the baby boomers, aka "only do it if it feels good" are going to have some pretty sh***y death bed realizations when they figure out life isn't only about self-pleasure and indulgence...
 

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FWIW, I think Lilly is absolutely drop dead gorgeous. So she has a droopy eye,so what, she's still totally cute!!!!I have to agree with PP's, as hard as it would be I would seriously consider cutting ties. Is there anyone you can get to babysit for you that is trustworthy? It doesn't sound like your mom is doing much for you or your DC's. I also have to wonder if she is being abused, sounds like her DH keeps an awfully tight reign on her. ((((((HUGS)))))<br><br>
Namaste,<br><br>
Michelle
 
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