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Please do not bring narcotic medication in a zip loc sandwich bag when you come for a visit. Ask you mom to let you bring it in the child proof bottle you were given at the pharmacy.<br><br>
Today your baby sister handed the babysitter the bag of pills you left out. Lucky for you, I taught her what medicine is and if she finds it to give it to an adult. But she is only two and I can only expect so much from her.<br><br>
So I ask you to please be more responsible with your medication. I realize you are only 15 years old but you are old enough to know better. If I had known you left your medication out this morning before you left, I would have put it in a safe place.<br><br>
Please be more responsible. Especially with the important stuff (like this).<br><br>
Your Stepmom,<br><br>
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That sounds like something you might want to bring up with his mother, how his medication is sent to your house.
 

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yeah, I certainly wouldnt think baby proofing would be on the forefront of a 15 yr old boy's mind. There brains just dont work that way .
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">yeah, I certainly wouldnt think baby proofing would be on the forefront of a 15 yr old boy's mind. There brains just dont work that way .</div>
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I guess the problem is that his brother (17 years old) is WAY WAY WAY more responsible. When he was 15, he totally would have been aware of the consequences of his actions. So my only comparison is his brother (my other step son).<br><br>
Sometimes it kills me how oblivious he can be. Not just this but other things too. Completely unaware is how I would put it. Normally I wouldn't be so bugged by it. But this could have killed my two year old. There were 20 Viocodans in the bag (he just had a root canal but I didn't know he had the meds).
 

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Sounds to me like you need to supervise dss with his medications: assign a cabinet for them, and check once in a while to make sure they're where they're supposed to be. You don't have to do it in a hand-holding kind of way, I'm sure a 15yo would chafe at that. But tell him that you and he need to develop a system for controlling that medication because of it's danger to the baby. So you're designating a location that is safe and easy to remember - it's his responsibility to remember to put it there. Then you can quietly check up on it frequently. If you find he's failing to put it there, then you have two choices: hunt it down and put it away when you find it missing (path of least resistance); or put the smack down and start controlling his meds yourself, doling out his pills (sure he'll dislike that, but this is a serious danger situation. He needs to be reminded of it's importance.)
 

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I have a 2 yo DD and a 15 yo DSS, who hasn't brought RX medication over, but has left things out that could have really hurt my 2 yo. I think you are remaining rather calm, as I would have totally freaked out.<br><br>
I love my DSS, but he can also be so oblivious at times. He was the baby of the family until my DD came along so I guess he has never had to worry about leaving things out. I do have to constantly remind him to be VERY careful because if DD got a hold of xyz, it could really hurt her.<br><br>
Personally, I think DSS's mom should have given you or your DH the Vicodon to give to DSS. I don't think it is appropriate to send a child to your house with narcotics and not even tell you about it. I wouldn't be comfortable with my DSS having those in his possesion and also wouldn't be comfortable with my DSS dosing himself with narcotics. He would likely forget when he took the last one and could potentially overdose.<br><br>
I don't know how your relationship is with DSS's mom, but I would talk to her or have DH talk to her about this, as this could have been fatal to your DD.
 

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Didn't your dh know that he had the meds?
 

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If this is a one-off thing, I would gently remind his mother that you have a 2yo in the house (the "I had a shock the other day when DD brought me a big bag of vicodans" conversation) but if he's regularly taking medication then he needs appropriate storage for it. Most of my kids have been able to bust a childproof bottle top by 3 or so- it's a challenge.
 

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On a counter top. But as he left, he must have knocked them off (accidentally) because DD found them on the floor. Either way she could have gotten to them. She has a little stool she likes to carry around and can reach every inch of the counter.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Didn't your dh know that he had the meds?</div>
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Yes but neglected to tell me nor supervise DSS with them.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">On a counter top. But as he left, he must have knocked them off (accidentally) because DD found them on the floor. Either way she could have gotten to them. She has a little stool she likes to carry around and can reach every inch of the counter.</div>
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A counter top in a family area, or in a room he'd have a certain expectation of privacy?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">A counter top in a family area, or in a room he'd have a certain expectation of privacy?</div>
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I don't think that matters. While he could expect certain privacy from his father and stepmother, ain't no such thing as privacy when there's a two year old around. It's entirely unrealistic to expect a two year old not to walk through any door she can open, or which is standing open. Unless the OPs dh and dss decide to put a lock on his door, and he remembers to lock it, I don't think could be a valid point.
 

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I disagree, and that's okay. But if the 2yo can be taught to give her caregiver things she finds that she shouldn't have (i.e. the bag of pills), she can be taught not to walk into a room she shouldn't be in. SS should still be careful, but little girl should be taught to stay out of his space.<br><br>
If he left in in a "public" place, that's a different story.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">A counter top in a family area, or in a room he'd have a certain expectation of privacy?</div>
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He put it there before he left that morning. I left shortly after and didn't see it.
 

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He put it there before he left that morning. I left shortly after and didn't see it.</div>
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Yeah, he needs to be more careful.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I disagree, and that's okay. But if the 2yo can be taught to give her caregiver things she finds that she shouldn't have (i.e. the bag of pills), she can be taught not to walk into a room she shouldn't be in. SS should still be careful, <b>but little girl should be taught to stay out of his space.</b><br><br>
If he left in in a "public" place, that's a different story.</div>
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She does not go into his room without knocking and only when he is home. She is a pretty smart cookie <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> And we try to teach her to respect other peoples things and spaces.<br><br>
But the counter was the one that is between the kitchen and the living room (we call it the bar because it is set up like a bar - less the alcohol <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">). It is a higher than normal counter (chest high for me and I am 5ft 5in). Somehow it was knocked onto the floor.<br><br>
DD picked it up from the floor. But she still could have picked it up from the bar because she loves her stool and carries it all around the house. That counter (bar) is where we keep her crayons and coloring books.
 
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