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I have a 14 month old son and my husband and I are seriously considering TTC #2. My son was a surprise so this is the first time we've gone through the TTC decision making process. One day I feel excited and ready, but every time I'm about to call and schedule my IUD removal I feel butterflies in my stomach chicken out.<br><br>
Part of me wonders if these jitters mean I'm not ready to TTC yet and part of me feels that these jitters will not fade (meaning I may never feel 100% ready.) I'm wishing I didn't pick such an effective method of BC right now because a surprise would certainly be welcome - I'm just having a hard time taking that deliberate step.<br><br>
What have your experiences been? Do you wait to feel 100% ready to TTC or do you go ahead with a bit of nervousness?
 

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I was not 100% to start ttc #2, and we went ahead. Little did I know, it would be a long hard road for us with two mc's. Two years later, we finally had our #2. I'm not saying or suggesting that would happen to you or anyone else and it did not happen to me because of my feelings on the issue. Just that, you never know what your future holds. I think that it is totally normal to have those feelings. I would and do advise people now (when asked - lol) to go ahead if they are even considering ttc and are ALMOST 100% sure. Because nothing in life is a sure thing. If you think years later, when you are past ttc age that you will regret not having more children, then there is no time like the present.
 

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I was not 100% either. DD was 21 months when #2 was conceived by accident (again!). She will be 2 1/2 when this one arrives and now I'm wishing we would have TTC sooner, maybe when dd was 16-18 months.<br><br>
I think it's normal to be nervous, but just look at how wonderful your ds has made your life and all the unexpected gifts he's brought. #2 will do the same. I really don't think there's a perfect time. Whenever it happens is the right time and you will make things work out. If you keep waiting for a perfect time, you'll be waiting a long time.<br><br>
I thin that if you're thinking about it seriously, then you're probably ready and you should go for it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
Good luck.
 

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Hi--my son is 31 months, and we have been debating for a year on whether or not we are ready! We've come to the conclusion that no, you won't ever feel 100% ready. If you know that you want another child, then go for it!<br><br>
I know that having kids closer together is difficult in the beginning, but I think once you get past that first year, it's great to have them close. I always anticipated having mine 2 years apart, but as my son approached that age, I realized I just wasn't ready.<br><br>
I don't think they ever get easier, just different! My son will grow out of one stage, and right into another. He's gotten much easier in some ways, and more difficult in others. That's why I've come to the conclusion that we should just go for it, otherwise, if we wait for things to get easier...we may end up with an only child!<br><br>
Good luck!<br>
Carrie & Boden (8-19-03)
 

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#1 and #2 have been planned for us, and I can tell you - both times I felt ready, actually very ready. But, as the pregnancy moved along, the fears I had started to wash over me.<br><br>
With #1, it was about my readiness to be a parent, to sacrifice everything for another human being. It quickly passed and I was elated the moment ds was born. And, I've never thought twice about him being my son, my constant companion, etc. Although, there were a few nights I swore he hated me when it hadn't slept AT all that night <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Now, being pregnant with #2, I still have feelings of worry. But, not really so much about myself. It's all about how my ds will adjust to a new babe (he'll be 3 when babe is born.) I wasn't ready any sooner than this. Oh, many times I thought I was, seeing a friends new baby. But, I'm so glad I waited. During this pregnancy, my fears are somewhat different. I worry about how ds will adjust, if I've taken his babyhood and forced him to grow up too quickly, will he still get the love and attention he needs, etc. And, what I've come to realize is that it will all work itself out. Sure, it will be an adjustment to all of us. But, dh and I know we wanted more than 1 child. And, we feel that we are now prepared to handle the adjustment and work constructively to make sure that ds isn't forced to "grow up" and we've talked about setting aside alone time with ds so he still knows he's our world too.<br><br>
GL making your decision mama! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I was not ready to start TTC #2 until after dd was 2, it was like, "no not ready, ok NOW I'm ready!"<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I'm glad I waited until I was ready and dd was older, TTC took longer then the first time around. DD will be 3y and 10m when # 2 is born and I'm very pleased how everything is turning out. People keep telling me that I seem so calm about it, and I am. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 
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