For those who feel her response was inappropriate, what are your concerns with it and what do you think she should have said?
Exactly. Encouraging therapy for trauma recovery is a good thing, but I read it as Abby invalidating and gaslighting him.This is the problem for me: " I urge you to talk to a licensed mental health professional to help you work through your anger because it may be misdirected and a result of the sexual assault you experienced in grade school"
That is the way I took it also...but that is understandable, I suppose. The "original" Dear Abby (and her twin sister, Ann Launders) were born to Russian Jewish immigrants in 1918 in Souix City, Iowa. Circumcision is an important part of their culture, so her perspective on circumcision will likely be much different...I think that a bit of sympathy and a line condemning the practice would have been appropriate. Even though her response comprised of "practical" advice, I was left with the feeling that she felt his issues were somewhat trivial - just how I interpreted it.
His screwed up circumcision wasn't the result of an accident - it was intentionally perpetrated by those that should have protected him. Having said that, if he was born before his parents had access to the internet, then his anger is misdirected, as they would not have had access to any accurate information and his anger should be directed at the unethical medical system that actually did it.
"Get some psychiatric help." It's not the worst advice in the world. But if she doesn't know to recommend foreskin restoration, she could have at least said: "Learn all you can about how intact genitals function during normal sex, so you will best be able to compensate for the missing parts."