Oh, B I remember you! Remember, I'm in the next county over & we emailed a couple of times? This board is my home now too, so you are not alone in this.
It's not easy, the whole separation thing. It doesn't sound like you're having a mellow time of it, my X got completely insane over it too. I think there's a post from a while back called "my X is a crazy man" or something like that. We are in the murky mire big time.
This board is a total blessing, and you never know what will happen when you get strong. PM me if you want!