Wish I could help <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
I have a total social anxiety problem. DP and I almost have to live separate lives because of it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I know meds and/or therapy can be helpful, I haven't tried either.
Sorry I can't be of any help... but I can definitely relate. I force myself to go to playdates/LLL/groups because I have my son now, but I usually end up leaving places beating myself up for "something stupid" I said. Now before I go anywhere I try to tell myself "say very little, keep your mouth shut" because I get nervous and when I start talking I say dumb things <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
I have suffered social phobia for years now. For a long time the only way I could talk to people was through being high or drunk. At one point, I was unable to leave the house for over a year and then again for 6 months after DD1 was born.<br><br>
I keep forcing myself to go out, sometimes though, if its a bad day, it is much better to just sit in, I don't like rerinforcing my negative feelings, I have found that by only going out on good days, my bad days have lessened.<br><br>
Unfortunutely, DH also suffers from this and he is going through a really bad patch, he rarely goes out although he is now taking 2 evening guitar courses which is a relief, hopefully it will lead to further improvement.<br><br>
Anti depressants, hypnotherapy, CBT, counselling are all routes you could try, personally, the only way I managed was through anti deepressants, having a supportive DH and trying to battle it and develop coping problems on my own because I couldn't find a single counsellor who really understood.<br><br>
I have recently learned tthat phobias aree in fact linked to another illness I have which is Ehler Danlos Syndrome hypermobility type. Nobody seems to know why we suffer like this (its a connective tissue disorder) but for some reason, those with hypermobility issues are more likely to suffer from anxiety/phobias and those who anxiety/phobias are more likely to suffer frfom hypermobility...... Weird huh??? At least I know what the cause is, unfortunutely, it also means it may be something that I suffer from for life so learning to cope with it is so very important.<br><br>
If you want to ask me questions either here or by PM I am willing to answer or even if you just want to vent your frustrations, I totally understand........<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
Just to add, I have also found that it affects my life online too, although it has kinda improved but I used to be TERRIFIED of writing anything lol........ Looking back, I can laugh, but damn, its hard to live with and really, if I didn't see the funny side I wwould just cry!!!!!!