Wow! That is so interesting!
My pediatric childrens specialist believes the opposite! That parents are a great benefit and it helps the child tremendously! He prefers the parent be involved...BUT, he also asks that the parents do NOT talk to the dentist OR the child!!! They are simply there to hold the child and having the parents present is calming and reassuring, kwim?
My ds was about 18 months and he needed the top four teeth pulled and the back molar crowned! He was sedated with the twilight sleep medication (not enough pain medication though IMO) and it was VERY traumatic....just TERRIBLE...but, within a couple hours afterwards everything was fine!!! Parents DO faint and become upset!!! I do see the dentist point on that...but, with the right education and information beforehand, to prepare the parents...they can avoid that, kwim?
The dentist I went to only wanted ONE parent in the room with the child...but, had a huge window the other parent to "view" and for the child to see as well!
Why will they let you be their if you use novacaine and go for three visits..but, not if you have her sedated and in one visit!!!!!!!! They will be doing the same darn thing and IMO they are treating you the same way some OB's treat women!
"Sure, you can choose to try and have an VBAC but if you go over X amount of hours, or if I feel the baby is X amount of weight or if X,Y,or Z happens I will knock you out and you will have an emergency c-section without your partner present...HOWEVER, if you choose what is more convenient for me and pick a date, I will allow your partner to be involved, you can be awake and we will pick whatever date suits your fancy...preferable first thing in the morning on a Monday!!!"
What the heck kind of choice is that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?
They are going to strap your dd down and do it all quickly in one shot....no babying of any kind and get it all done and overwith...with you present they are going to want to be kinder and gentler and that is possibly why it takes them longer..the three days, kwim? The dentist was rough on my ds and I wanted to punch him and protect my ds...but, it was OVER completly in ten minutes..not even!!!!!!!!!!!!!
That is what they are doing to you it seems...they are forcing you to make the choice they want..even though that choice is not what is best!!!
My dentist did not like the idea of general anesthesia because the parents could not be present and he felt it was more traumatic having the child separated..whereas with the sedation the mother and child can stay together....there is no logical reason, IMO, why you can attend the session with the first option but not the second!
I wanted my ds put under...I was so angry that he was pushing the twilight sedation on me...but, in the end he was right (other than the fact I don't think he had enough pain medication)!
I think this lady is pulling your chain at how you are lucky they are letting you be involved at all....and even if is telling you the truth..it isn't right for them to do that, kwim?
Anyways...I can't offer any other advice but for you to go with your "heart"!!!!!!!!
Keep us updated!!!!!!!!!!!!!!