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Depression and pregnancy

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Hello everyone,
I'm generally a lurker here, I think everyone here has such a wonderful view of pregnancy, it's inspiring, and I was hoping for a little advice. I'm not even sure what I can do in this situation but here goes. I am pregnant, due in October, and I have a friend who's due in December. I am very secure about my body (particularly during pg for some reason) and I really relish the entire experience. I know this isn't true for everyone, which brings me to my friend. She is extremely emotional, crying for days at a time, she is always comparing herself to other pg women, size, shape, emotionality. She called her OB for advice and all the OB did was prescribe Zoloft, not offer any emotional support, etc. Not wanting to take meds immediatly she asked what I would do, so I made the best suggestions I could, not having dealt with this issue myself, alter diet, get some exercise, yoga, rest, in general be gentle with herself. And sometimes I find when i feel emotional it's best to just get it out, cry, scream, yell and get it over with, but she can't seem to find peace. So my question is, is there anything I can do? Has anyone had a similar experience? Should I back off? I thank you in advance for any advice.
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This sounds simple, but the biggest thing that affects my moods is refined sugar and white bread products. I cannot believe what a difference there is in my moods when I cut down / eliminate sugar and white bread products, (and generally reduce carbohydrate intake and replace it with fruits, veg and proteins).

Seriously, when I include white sugar and white bread products in my daily diet, I feel very depressed. I live like there is a cloud over my head all day,
: and I feel miserable, (i.e. 1 tsp in my coffee and some chocolate or a sweet treat every day...guilty...). When I eliminated that, (which I did for about a month) I literally woke up happy, I felt happy all day, my mind was clear and I couldn't get over the difference in my outlook. Others even commented on the change. I fell back in to the world of sugar and refined bread products and currently am living under the
: , but know that I need to get back out. (Man, I just love chocolate though...).

I know everyone says having a healthy diet will help your moods and overall health, but if depression is her biggest concern right now, I would seriously recommend eliminating sugar and reducing refined carbs. Maybe challenge your friend to try it for 2 weeks, she should wean herself over 3-5 days and she'll probably get a "withdrawl" headache, but if she perseveres, I am sure it will make a difference.

(Some will balk at this suggestion, but here goes...) you can still eat what tastes good and feels indulgent (we all know we need a little of that in pregnancy) by putting butter on things, melting cheese on things, having full fat dressings, etc. I'm just saying that if depression is the key issue, try to reduce refined sugars and flours, don't worry about fats right now. It can't hurt to try, and is better than taking drugs, IMO.

I hope this helps. This really really makes a HUGE difference for me. I am like 2 different people on and off refined sugar/flour.
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I think that the biggest thing for me was not being alone so much. I had quit my job early in my first pregnancy b/c I was so sick. Later, I went and got a driven paper route just to have something to occupy my afternoons. It really did help but after my dd was born I was really an emotional mess for awhile.
I was the same way with comparing myself to other pg women and while it is easy to say don't do it, I think most of us do to some extent. Loneliness can definately make the problem worse. I never told anyone how bad I felt but I tried to just be around people or keep myself busy and my mind occupied with other things so I wouldn't feel so bad. Hope she feels better soon!
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I'd see a psychiatrist if I were (and I have been) depressed -- one with experience with perinatal psychiatry. It's not too natural, but it works for me.
I really appreciate your advice/opinions, etc. I do offer to just let her talk and I want her to know that I am here for her, but she is the type to just isolate herself and not want to "burden" anyone with her problems. So if I try to wait and let her come to me I might be in for a long wait. I try to make contact about 3 times a week just to check in. Luckily her DH is awesome and is ALWAYS there for her. I will certainly float the refined sugar/flour suggestion to her. Thanks again!!
I also have a history of severe depression during pregnancy. The thing that has worked the best for me, both during & post partum is meditation. I tell myself to release the negative energy. Also exercise helps a LOT.

I really feel for your friend. Many people are not really understanding, especially those women who loved being pregnant and can't fathom being depressed. For me, I know its hormonally caused, but I haven't found a solution even in meds.

Good luck to your friend.

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