I am new here. I am so beyond lost and looking for advice with my nine-year-old. He just started third grade. He has struggled in school for the past two years. We adopted him two years ago. He has made great improvements since we got him. He works very hard and has a genuine positive attitude towards learning and gets very excited when he does well. He ended second grade without getting through his addition, had not started subtraction. He also is approximately on a first grade reading level. We worked on reading every night at home. I also hired a tutor. I really wanted him to be held back in second grade but the school said because he made so much progress that had to be exposure due to the adoption and that he would probably struggle his whole life but they did not recommend holding him back. I went along with what they said figuring they are the experts. We are now into third grade and they are working on multiplication and division and word problems. He cannot read the word problems and he cannot keep up in class. Every night he's had homework to do because he can't get the work done in class. I've talked with his teacher and she wants me to take him to his pediatrician to look into ADD. And I work with him one-on-one he does a great job. Last Thursday during independent morning work he could not read a word problem for division got overwhelmed and latest head on his desk and did not work the rest of the day. He got a bad Mark sent home and a note. Understandably so however I know my son and I know he is not defiant I strongly believe he's just overwhelmed. I spoken with a local private school and they said if he tested for second grade they would not be opposed to him transfering into the second grade . I know that third grade is very vital as this is the year you read to learn instead of learned to read. If I have a way to get him some confidence and get a hold of us should I? I feel like time is of the essence instead of just letting her struggle his whole life. Please advise! I'm so worried.