DH and I have a 3 year old dd together, we've been married for 4.5 years, it took us almost a year to TTC # 2, and nothing has been right since I got finally got pg. I'm only 9 weeks along, and DH feels like our relationship is completely falling apart. I really thought he was going to leave last night after an argument we had. We usually don't fight that much, our personalities work very well together, DH is what I could call high-strung, a very highly stressed person all the time, I am pretty mellow and help to calm him down. That is where our issues are right now. I've been so exhausted, it's all I can do to care for dd during the day, I just don't have it in me to even talk to DH when he gets home, I'm heading off to bed. I'll be the first to admit that I have been very cranky since becoming pg, I have severe food adversions, I'm not able to eat much even though I am starving, I never have tolerated hunger very well, I get very grouchy, I've basicially been grouchy for the last month and a half. To top it off, I got very sick last week, I was thisclose to getting pneumonia, I'm still recovering from that. I know I haven't been pleasant to live with.
DH doesn't understand how hard this pg has been on me already. I had no issues with dd, didn't even feel pg until 5 months or so, he doesn't understand this time is different and that I can't not think about it, and it will go away. I've asked for some understanding in my behavior with the knowledge that this won't last forever. He feels that I don't want him anymore, that all I want is for him to provide money and friendship. DH has never understood ups and downs in relationships, we've discussed this many times, he feels it should be great all the time or else it's not working. I feel the opposite, nothing can be great all the time. He was seriously talking about divorce last night, we've only talked once today and I can tell that he still is thinking that. DH won't go to talk to someone, it's not that he won't agree to it, he would, but that he could never actually get away from his job to go. He is never able to make appointments, something always comes up, probably 95% of appointments I make for him, he doesn't go to. I don't even bother anymore.
I've tried not to make this a vent on DH, that is not my intention, DH really is a caring person, he just doesn't understand me right now, heck, I barely undertand myself right now.
I just don't know how to support him right now , DH really needs alot of support all the time. I joke around that I was the one birthing dd while supporting HIM through it, but it's the truth, it's the way it is in our relationship.