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<div style="font-style:italic;">thats nowhere near the same thing as these men who are at home obsessing over playing video games for hours at a time. Nothing compared to that!<br><br>
I TOTALLY DISAGREE. How terribly immature can a grown man be that has to put video games before his family? He won't "grow out of it?" Give me a break. He's an adult. <b>If he absolutely has to play his little games he can do that after they are in bed or when they are out of the house</b>.</div>
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For starters it is incredibly judgemental to call someone immature because of their hobbies or pass times. There are many reasons grown men and women play video games, none of which I am going to defend to someone who seems so prejudice against the act of playing video games.<br><br>
However what I bolded is almost word for word what I said. Playing video games does not make you immature. Far from it. However I already stated that the DH should be able to play games when little eyes are around. I am 26 years old and I will never 'outgrow' video games. Not only will I never outgrow them I play video games with my child and will soon be children as bonding excersizes. Not saying that is 'all' we do, but it is something easy for all of the family to get into, including mother, that takes zero time to set up and can easily be put away for other activities.<br><br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">But if his family is home then he needs to pay them respect and give them attention. He is no longer a child and just because he works a FT job and does his part in the family doesn't give him some kind of right to play games all day when he is at home. That's bull. As a man he needs to work and make money if his wife doesn't agree to do that part. That's just common sense and it doesn't give him any rights to obsess over toys (video games are toys). I guarantee if the roles were reversed and his wife were the one with an obsession he would have issues with her.</div>
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I believe that everyone who works a full time job should have the down time they need. We live in a 2 income household and I get downtime from the time I get home till the time my SO gets home. When my SO gets home I 'try' to give her downtime by entertaining our child. Working Full Time DOES give you the right to request down time, and you deserve it. and if you are the kind of person that needs to go into your own world to unwind, then your partner should understand that and give you that time to get work off your shoulders to be more attentive to your family. If that time is constantly interrupted then you never feel rested. That being said my SO's down time is typically sitting on the couch with me and usually with our child just talking and venting. Which is almost a NIGHTLY ritual to help her ease the stress of her full time work schedule. She ALSO plays games and when she is gaming either Jake is interracting or I am entertaining Jake. It goes both ways.<br><br><br>
If a man or woman is obsessed with cars, and they are rebuilding a car and their first 2 hours home from work is unwinding in the garage. It is the same thing, a way to forget about your worries.<br><br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I thank God my husband does not have any use for video games. In fact, we have two sons and I go out of my way to limit their time with games. I don't buy them every game they want and they have very little to no time playing a game in any given week. I make sure its a special thing for them be "allowed" to play with a video game and I never let them play more than an hour. Plus, my boys would much rather play outdoors, read books, do something else because they've been raised this way. I think they are pretty balanced so far.</div>
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Part of parenting is regulating what entertainments your children have.... I would never dream of regulating what my partners entertainments are. She had her joys before I came into her life that she used to unwind, and I would never dream of hindering them. Luckily for me she understand that I am a gamer and she encourages me to play and spend money on games that I otherwise wouldn't have. For instance. Pokemon Diamond and Pearl just came out for Nintendo DS. I did not own a DS because none of the games on the DS were enough to make me spend 150$ on a hand held game system. Then this game came out. And I am large fan of the pokemon game series so I have been tossin and turnin about spending the money. We were at target and she told me to just 'do it' and I did. Have spent 5 hours in the game since saturday morning and Jake loves watching over my shoulder telling me what attacks to use. I see Pokemon as a bonding experiance between Jake and I, just as I see Ninja Turtles as a place to bond. Playing video games is not a detriment if you can moderate, and if there are issues about moderation both parties need to come together and talk about the issue, starting with why the gamer feels the need to play so much. If it is a stress relief then I'd personally have no issues with an hour or 2 a night to unwind so they could be a better parent. And I would also have no issues minding the little one(s) until they have unwound. I wouldn't want a parent coming home from 8-12 hours of work just to snap at my child because of something that happened at work.<br><br><br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I feel it's my job to raise my boys so they don't go in to a marriage one day and act like they're still 12 yrs old by obsessing over video games. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes"> I seriously could never be married to someone like that. Its my job as a parent not to raise a lazy adult. I want my sons future wives to appreciate me for the way they were raised.</div>
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So just by playing video games men are acting like 12 year old boys? Please. 12 year old boys play baseball. Just because someone can make millions of dollars that makes them mature for doing something in life they love? I started off playing video games. My mom encouraged it. Now I am an IT Support specialist and I attribute that 100% to my interest in video games and computers as a child. I would NEVER dream to stifle one of my childrens hobbies personally, because their HOBBY is something they love and if one day they can make money and support their family doing something they LOVE, it will be one of the proudest days of my life. I hope my children's future wives appreciate that my children are raised with understanding that joys in life are an awesomething and should be shared.<br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Its sad that your husband doesn't realize he is missing out on his childs life. I don't care if your child is only 3 yrs old, he is still missing out. And he's teaching her from a very young age to find something like a video game and to put that 'before' every thing or every one else in life. Thats not a good role model for a young child to grow up around. He's a parent now, not a child. If he has time to play a video game then great, but family comes before the extra stuff in life.</div>
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I agree, I don't know the dynamics of what is going on, but as for being a 'good role model' I would be more centered on your 2's (op's and husbands) communication and ability to properly communicate and understand eachothers needs. Being a parent does not mean that you give up on your joys, it means you share them with the next generation. But you should know what is age appropriate and what isn't. The 'extra' stuff in life to me, is life. The work and responsibilities are what we 'have' to do to be able to live life.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">eta: I'm sitting here laughing and thinking about how some men go home from a long hard day at work and run to the t.v. and jump on the couch to play video games. I invision a small boy doing this. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> But yet my sons come in the house after a long day at school and hang out with me and their siblings and play their musical instruments or read books or play outside. How comical that is when you really think about it! Some young boys are already more mature than most men.</div>
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Insulting. Highly.<br><br>
I play video games.<br>
I play the bass.<br>
I play guitar.<br>
I work on computers.<br>
I am a network consultant.<br>
I take Jake out to teach him how to ride a bike.<br>
I am a tentative spouse to my partner.<br>
I am an artist.<br>
I am a teacher.<br>
I am many things.<br>
But most importantly I enjoy life and share that joy with my family.<br><br><br>
And I generally speaking play video games the first hour or 2 after getting home from work.
