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. . . so DH is an attorney, and he went to lunch yesterday with the partner who manages his practice group and another associate. The associate has a 3.5 mo, and he and his wife have just started CIO-training. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br><br>
The partner encouraged the associate that this was absolutely the way to go, there was no other way to parent, you have to teach them not to manipulate you, he'd be so glad he did it, blah, blah, blah.<br><br>
The associate agrees there's no other way.<br><br>
DH quietly says "Actually, there is," and goes on to explain our AP practices. To his BOSS, I mean, that rocks!<br><br>
They didn't see the light, or anything, but DH standing up for these decision that, honestly, have been mostly mine to make gave me the heart to deal with all the insane night-waking last night.<br><br>
So, I wanted to post a positive "HOORAY FOR DH'S WHO GET IT!" I guess if you beat them over the head with something often enough, it actually does sink in sometimes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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YAY to your DH!!<br><br>
I was thrilled to hear about DH defending co-sleeping and arguing against CIO with his co-workers too. One new father was questioning our practice, and DH's response was along the lines of how "independence" (the usual line of defense for those who CIO, in my experience) before teeth even come in is ridiculous, that most cultures don't even put their infants in separate beds, let alone separate rooms, and (my favorite) babies don't know that there aren't predators out to get them, so they probably cry out of fear of being alone and vulnerable.<br><br>
DH also put out a snide comment to another co-worker who was complaining about the cost of formula. We had met the colleague's wife who refused to breastfeed, commenting that it was gross (I kid you not). So the co-worker was lamenting about how this formula was over however-much dollars, and finally DH just said, "Never had the problem, breastfeeding was free." Yea, kinda snarky, but he wouldn't have said it if the guy's wife hadn't specifically told both of us (with her husband in the room) that she wasn't even going to try.<br><br>
Look forward to hearing other "Yay to our DH's" stories.
 

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Hooray for my DH too--he's great!<br><br>
We weren't planning on co-sleeping (never even occured to us!) until the first night we were home with DD. She was in her bassinette next to our bed. DH looked over at me, wide awake and staring at the sleeping baby, and said, "Put her in here. What's she doing over there?" He even got out of bed to search "safe co-sleeping" on the internet to make sure we were being safe.<br><br>
Last weekend his friend announced (privately to DH) that his wife's body was back to normal after having the baby--baby is 8 mo, and she chose to FF. DH said that mine was too, except for my gigantic nursing boobs. Friend said, "Oh I couldn't share with the baby like that." DH said, "I'm the father. Not a sibling. I don't SHARE them with the baby; DW has GIVEN them to her and I support that." My hero...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">. The associate has a 3.5 mo, and he and his wife have just started CIO-training. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br><br>
The partner encouraged the associate that this was absolutely the way to go, there was no other way to parent, you have to teach them not to manipulate you, he'd be so glad he did it, blah, blah, blah.<br><br>
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Yea, for your DH!!!<br><br>
I would really like to know how a 3.5 month old can manipulate you. I am sorry but that requires cognative abilities way beyond what a child that age is capable of having!<br>
OMG your child is crying and you ignore it crying... how sad for the child. All they are going to learn is that mom and dad don't meet their needs when they have them.<br><br>
Molly
 

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my DH's defense is somewhat more pragmatic. he says that even though the baby wakes up several times in the night, he's sleeping through a lot of it (since i am the one nursing; mind you, i sleep through a lot of it too since i can fall right back to sleep now after latching her on). if she cried all night long, he wouldn't sleep through that!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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