Hi All - I could use some advice about what to do with my husband who is convinced my ASD son isn't. I'm having a hard time moving to the acceptance stage myself as a result. My son is 3 and I'd suspected ASD since he was an infant, and he was in EI at 14 months. He's really a happy and great kid - just never developed language, pointing, pretend play, etc. He likes people a lot. I think because of this everyone had told us for the longest time that he wasn't ASD. Even our first SLP who had a spectrum daughter said that I "wanted" my son to be autistic. My in-laws are also convinced of the same, that he's just developing late because he's a boy (like he's behind his girl cousin a year and a half younger? really? aggh!) At any rate, if we had a dime for every time we were told he wasn't autistic we'd probably have enough money to pay for therapy!<br><br>
He also had an eval about a year ago (CARS and ADOS administered) that determined him to be just below the spectrum cutoff so she said no to ASD. But now that he's older it's become quite obvious that he is, and he's received a "provisional" ASD diagnosis by the developmental ped and the school dx'd him with high functioning autism. All of his therapists (two speech, OT, ABA therapist) accept the ASD diagnosis and no longer argue it as they once did. I've done a considerable amount of research myself about what types of behaviors could result from ASD vs. just speech delay vs. just SPD, etc. and I firmly believe he has ASD (albeit mild and high functioning).<br><br>
But, as I said - hubby doesn't because we've been told so many times that he doesn't. He won't talk to me about it and gets mad at me that I believe he does. I really need his support because I want to implement a combo ABA/Floortime program but he doesn't take the need to do therapy with him seriously (I work outside the home full time and my husband works full time at home - our nanny doesn't implement the programs because my husband is directing her not to). I also just feel like this is hindering my ability to get to the "acceptance" stage. I'm afraid to talk to mutual friends about it - I talked to a teacher friend of his about special education stuff and he got angry with me for bringing it up with him. I think if he read up on it a bit more to understand more of what autism is he'd agree too but he just thinks I obsess too much about it and that he won't do the same. AGGGH!!<br>
Thanks in advance letting me vent!
He also had an eval about a year ago (CARS and ADOS administered) that determined him to be just below the spectrum cutoff so she said no to ASD. But now that he's older it's become quite obvious that he is, and he's received a "provisional" ASD diagnosis by the developmental ped and the school dx'd him with high functioning autism. All of his therapists (two speech, OT, ABA therapist) accept the ASD diagnosis and no longer argue it as they once did. I've done a considerable amount of research myself about what types of behaviors could result from ASD vs. just speech delay vs. just SPD, etc. and I firmly believe he has ASD (albeit mild and high functioning).<br><br>
But, as I said - hubby doesn't because we've been told so many times that he doesn't. He won't talk to me about it and gets mad at me that I believe he does. I really need his support because I want to implement a combo ABA/Floortime program but he doesn't take the need to do therapy with him seriously (I work outside the home full time and my husband works full time at home - our nanny doesn't implement the programs because my husband is directing her not to). I also just feel like this is hindering my ability to get to the "acceptance" stage. I'm afraid to talk to mutual friends about it - I talked to a teacher friend of his about special education stuff and he got angry with me for bringing it up with him. I think if he read up on it a bit more to understand more of what autism is he'd agree too but he just thinks I obsess too much about it and that he won't do the same. AGGGH!!<br>
Thanks in advance letting me vent!
