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Dh has said some doozies. Whew. He's convinced that all ff are heartless, selfish morons who demand the shots to make their milk dry up. I've tried convincing him that most hospitals and doctors don't even offer those anymore, but he won't listen. He's giving lactivism a bad name! I feel like Dr. Frankenstein; I've created a monster that I can't control. Oops. Well, if anyone claims they heard something nasty from some man about ff, I'll put him forward for<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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My dh has become quite the lactivist. He'll tell anyone that will listen that formula is horrible. He even blogged about it after he found out what DHA and ARA in formula is derived from and that it causes diahrea in lab rats.<br><br>
Its hilarious because his mom is VERY against breastfeeding. My dh has done a complete 180!
 

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In my experience, men care A LOT less about hurting feelings when it comes to activism. My husband doesn't tone it down for his friends/aquaintances when it comes to circumcision. He's not really into lavtivism, but I could see him being the same way with that.<br><br>
I remember when his cousin was going to circumcise their baby, he flat out told them "you cut this poor child and I know that I won't personally be able to stand the sight of you." Me? I feel that way sometimes but I could never say it to their faces. (at least not taht way)
 

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yeah...DH is a little less sensitive about the whole BF/FF thing. i guess women tend to be a little more...considerate of others' feelings. for all the horrible bickering that goes on over this between women, i'm sure there would be world wars over it if men were the ones lactating.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">yeah...DH is a little less sensitive about the whole BF/FF thing. i guess women tend to be a little more...considerate of others' feelings. for all the horrible bickering that goes on over this between women, i'm sure there would be world wars over it if men were the ones lactating.</div>
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I doubt it because, on the flip side, men don't seem to let it under their skin as much as women do. On a gaming board I belong to, we had both a circ and boob/breastfeeding convo in the off topic area...they were all throwing out the usual things that would make some women angry ("man, that's child abuse!") but they just debated the subject and didn't get all emotional over that kinda thing. It's interesting to see.
 

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Interesting. My DH is a pretty judgmental lactivist, too. His boss recently went on maternity leave. Before she left, DH asked her if she was planning to nurse. She was like, "Heck, no. The minute that kid comes out, I'm handing him to his daddy with a bottle. It's his kid now." DH was <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dropjaw"> (and <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/disappointed.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="disappointed"> to me privately.) I was afraid he'd actually get on her bad side over it, if he didn't hide his opinion.<br><br>
On the good side, he's pretty much the only person in his office who supports pumping moms. The rest of his co-workers snipe about the time pumping moms spend away from their desks (I'm assuming this gossip happens while they, too, are away from their desks.) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
*ETA: DH just told me his boss is taking the final week of her maternity leave for a drinking/gambling trip to Las Vegas, without the baby. Now *I'm* getting judgmental of her, too. *
 

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Sounds like my husband <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My dh has become quite the lactivist. He'll tell anyone that will listen that formula is horrible. He even blogged about it after he found out what DHA and ARA in formula is derived from and that it causes diahrea in lab rats.<br><br>
Its hilarious because his mom is VERY against breastfeeding. My dh has done a complete 180!</div>
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What's DHA and ARA derived from?
 

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My DH is like that too, lol!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Dh has said some doozies. Whew. He's convinced that all ff are heartless, selfish morons who demand the shots to make their milk dry up. I've tried convincing him that most hospitals and doctors don't even offer those anymore, but he won't listen. He's giving lactivism a bad name! I feel like Dr. Frankenstein; I've created a monster that I can't control. Oops. Well, if anyone claims they heard something nasty from some man about ff, I'll put him forward for<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"></div>
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<br><b>ALL???</b> No ifs, ands or buts, huh?<br><br>
That is definitely not the way to promote BF.<br><br>
I admire his zeal and support. However, I would probably have some choice words for someone who would call someone else a moron, selfish or other disparaging names for not BF.<br><br>
There are better ways to get a message across. I am glad you try to get him to understand.
 

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My DH has said some pretty harsh stuff too. I think guys are a little less worried that they'll be called judgemental. Maybe. I don't know. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Dh has said some doozies. Whew. He's convinced that all ff are heartless, selfish morons who demand the shots to make their milk dry up.</div>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Dh has said some doozies. Whew. He's convinced that all ff are heartless, selfish morons who demand the shots to make their milk dry up. I've tried convincing him that most hospitals and doctors don't even offer those anymore, but he won't listen. He's giving lactivism a bad name! I feel like Dr. Frankenstein; I've created a monster that I can't control. Oops. Well, if anyone claims they heard something nasty from some man about ff, I'll put him forward for<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"></div>
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That's awful! Seriously, what he's doing really sucks. I dont find it funny at all.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Dh has said some doozies. Whew. He's convinced that all ff are heartless, selfish morons who demand the shots to make their milk dry up.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/huh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="huh"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hopmad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hopping mad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/disappointed.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="disappointed"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hammer.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hammer"><br><br>
Honestly, that only begins to cover the array of feelings and thoughts about the what your husband is convinced of.
 

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I think your DH ROCKS! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> to him! My DH is just like that, how refreshing to hear. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My dh just thinks all FF are crazy spendthrifts. It's crazy to him to spend money when you don't have to. Crazy cheap Scots-man! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I'm glad your dh is so devoted to the cause of breastfeeding.<br><br>
Please educate as you're able about low supply, legitimate medical reasons for formula feeding/supplementing (both mom AND baby reasons), breast reduction issues, etc. He's a good proponent, but he may end up really hurting someone if he doesn't learn to temper his judgement a teeny tiny bit.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think your DH ROCKS! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> to him! My DH is just like that, how refreshing to hear. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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Niiiiice.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm glad your dh is so devoted to the cause of breastfeeding.<br><br>
Please educate as you're able about low supply, legitimate medical reasons for formula feeding/supplementing (both mom AND baby reasons), breast reduction issues, etc. He's a good proponent, but he may end up really hurting someone if he doesn't learn to temper his judgement a teeny tiny bit.</div>
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To quote an admirable mdc'er, "Judgment is not always wrong".
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">That's awful! Seriously, what he's doing really sucks. I dont find it funny at all.</div>
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