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Okay, so I love my husband...but he is very wasteful with my BM. I pump at work and cry if I spill a drop because it's like liquid gold to me and to our son. DH will warm up an entire bag of EBM in a bowl of water...then dump the whole bag into a bottle! Like, even if it's 6 oz or more and DS is only 2 months old! I came home from work today and had to DUMP OUT almost 4 OUNCES!!!! I was ready to cry!<br><br>
He also thinks it's fine to use the same bottle all day...I leave at 9:00 am, he'll give the baby some milk around 10:30 or so...and all day long just adds more milk to the same bottle...no washing, no rinsing...and Lord knows how long he waits to put the leftover milk back into the refrigerator.<br><br>
Someone help me please! Where can I go for proof of how bad this is for our DS?! DH doesn't believe me and won't listen to my pleading.<br><br>
Until then I'll start storing my milk in 2 oz. portions in the fridge...I know, I'm evil. But my DH is clueless.
 

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Mine is the same way as far as wasting bm. I think your idea to store in 2oz portions is great...As far as not washing or storing issues the thing in your (and your LO's) favour is that bm has great antibacterial properties so it can be stored at room temp for up to 10 hours (per the LLL).
 

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Men - bah!<br><br>
FWIW, I don't know how long you've been doing this, but I've been pumping for a bit and after a while I always have a bit of an excess. What seemed like very precious liquid at first became "oh, I have too much, I guess I should freeze some of this!" pretty quickly. NOT saying it's OK that your DH is wasteful, just that it may get better!<br><br>
And by the way, I recommend <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FMedela-80ml%2525282%25252e7-Breastmilk-Containers-12%25252dpk%25252e%2Fdp%2FB0009XBX4K%2Fref%3Dpd_bbs_sr_1%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbaby-products%26qid%3D1215317612%26sr%3D8-1" target="_blank">these bottles</a> for storage. From what I've read, it's better to use hard-sided bottles for fridge storage rather than bags since it preserves more nutrients and you get more of the hindmilk into the bottle that way.
 

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I think your idea of storing it in 2oz quantities is a great one. And if you did it directly in the bottles then he is even less likely to use the same bottle all day which is a concern of yours.
 

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Yup, definitely freeze in 2oz increments. Harder to waste that way!<br><br>
My DH isn't wasteful, thank goodness, but he did express to me that it was inconvenient to have to go back and add more milk to the bottle in the middle of a feeding. So maybe your DH isn't trying to be wasteful, he just finds it easier to warm the whole thing up than to keep going back for more, reheating again, etc, all while holding a crying baby.<br><br>
If this is the case, I'd see if your LO will take the milk cold. I was surprised, but my DS doesn't care what temperature the milk is. It's obviously warm when it comes straight from the tap, and DH usually does warm it enough to take the edge off, but DS will also take it cold. We discovered it by accident but knowing this has been very helpful for DH and my parents (who watch him while I'm at work), particularly when they're out and about and don't have to worry about warming it.<br><br>
My long drawn out point is that your DH can use this to his advantage. Now, instead of freezing all extra milk, keep some in the fridge as "spare" milk. Your DH can feed a regular 2oz bottle and if your LO is still hungry, he can add some of the spare milk to the bottle and keep feeding. Since it doesn't take more than a few seconds to pour the milk, there shouldn't be a long wait of crying. And maybe your DH won't mind feeding only a tiny bit since it will no longer be inconvenient to go get more milk.
 

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Put only 2 oz in each bag. I know its a waste of bags, but I would rather waste bags than waste milk. Why won't your dh wash the bottle between uses? You can leave the milk defrost in the fridge overnight (in 2 oz bags) and make up several small bottles before you leave. Then your dh would just have to grab a bottle when baby needed it, and wash all the bottles later. That really isn't fair to you, though, to have to do all that work.<br><br>
For my dd, I would leave fresh milk that was not previously frozen, so if it took her a few hours to finish a bottle it was ok. DH also was bad about putting leftovers in the fridge. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> If I gave him frozen milk it would always go bad, since it is only good for an hour un-refridgerated once defrosted. The bottle could not seem to make its way back to the fridge.
 

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this should help.<br><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/bf/pumping/milkstorage.html" target="_blank">http://www.kellymom.com/bf/pumping/milkstorage.html</a><br><br>
I personally would not reuse the milk for more than one feeding after the first attempt (aka, like 2hrs max)...but my BM is high in lipase and seems to sour quickly (I know I can scald it but I"m lazy and I have plenty of milk....still leaking at 13mos here!)
 
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