theretohere: I agree that most people hit "The Wall" eventually, too. When DD was in school and her teacher was advocating a grade skip, the teacher she said her brother was not challenged, coasted until college, then suddenly did know what to do when something wasn't easy . . .and dropped out. SO, that's the kind of thing we are worried about!
Lillian: I agree that learning should be natural- and I think your "carrot at the end of the stick" analogy is so true. The fact that she isn't interested in learning math in a systematic/structured way has made ANY isolated math (even with games) seem artificial (and she can see right through that). This is the only "academic" area that she doesn't seem to be enthralled with, so maybe that is why it seems more pressing to me. Oh, and of course, I project my OWN struggles with math onto my worries about her (though she does not seem to have my issues). I will read the articles and get that book-- looks very
interesting! And yes, she DEFINITELY likes to play and is always using her imagination. She is the only 7 yo I know who routinely continues to roleplay.
Bird Girl: How does your DD react to doing math regularly? Practicing piano is very different for DD than math . . .SHE chose the piano, she enjoys it, she knows she has to practice if she wants to have lessons, she is going to perform in a recital soon and is excited about that, etc. In other words, it has deep meaning for her, so the motivation is intrinsic.
LauraLoo: I keep wondering if we are still in the deschooling period or not. But, since I can remember, DD has always been like this-- always wanted to be in exact charge of her learning. I ordered a KG Singapore book for my 4 yo DD, and she loved it, begged for more workbook pages. (I wanted to stop before she did.) SO different. And yes, she is very creative. As I type, she is busy creating a family of mice out of paper. She regularly makes her own toys and wants to start a business. (Which I've encouraged-- and yes, there'd be the math needed-- but the stick-to-it factor isn't there yet.) I love the idea of a private studio for her. The only room right now available is our creepy basement, but maybe we could fix it up . . . I will check out that book!
TEAK's Mom: Hahahaha!!!! My DD LOVES those Geronimo Stilton books, too. When are you moving to the Midwest?
VEry interesing point, that because she directs her own learning, she doesn't hit the wall. My DD, too, hates to be pushed. But, like you said, there is so much she already knows, so-- why? I've looked at the standards for 1st grade (which she would be in in school) and she's met them all. She is probably done with the 2nd grade standards, and most for 3rd, too (I haven't checked the 4th) . . .so WHY should I push more? That's the part I am conflicted about.
kathymuggle; I've shown her the mathcats site before. She didn't like it. She does NOT like anything organized or structured. If I told her "how" to draw a face, she would push me away and question why her way is wrong. I enrolled her in an art class, and she did not like it AT ALL. We were at a museum today where there were stencils to use, and when offered her one, she said, "You know I don't like stencils!" No, I didn't but of course it makes sense . . . But anyway, I don't really know if she is coasting. What ways do you challenge your children and how do they respond? ETA: I just looked more at the mathcats site . . .I only showed her the online stuff, but now I see the craft section-- she may like that!
A few more things . . .
(1) She got involved with karate and is determined to get a black belt. This is only her 2nd session so she may run out of steam, but I think it's good to see that she DOES want to push herself, at least in that area . . .she has a goal.
(2) If we can scrounge for the $, I want to get her IQ tested. Then I will better know her specific areas of strengths and weaknesses-- and won't have to wonder if she resists because something is just too hard (she isn't the kind of person to admit it).
(3) DH and I have wondered about ADD/ADHD, but only because when WE want to show her something she tunes out, gets goofy, etc. When it's something she wants to do, like finish a book or learn from her piano teacher, she is very focused. I don't know enough about ADD/ADHD to know if we should be looking into this more.
Thanks so much, everyone!!!