Mothering Forum banner

1 - 20 of 33 Posts

·
Registered
Joined
·
417 Posts
Discussion Starter #1
my birthday present! Just because it has to be paid every year is that an okay thing to do...to say it's my b-day present? It is alot of money like 70. bucks but how would you feel?<br>
He said oh i'll get you a cake too.<br>
should i be happy?
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
8,706 Posts
Ouch. Yeah, um, no. If he can't afford to pay the registration and get you a present he should say so, with much regret and "Next year things will be looking up". Pretending it's meaningful? Nope. And a cake should come standard. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
11,487 Posts
I guess it's better than nothing...
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
4,404 Posts
<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s! If you are unhappy about it, then I encourage you to talk to him. What level of gift would make you feel better? Think about it. Talk to him.<br><br>
Happy Birthday! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
4,748 Posts
Hmm... I'd say no. Vehicle registrations seem like the kind of thing that are "necessities."<br><br>
I'd rather a "I couldn't think of anything cool enough to be worth the money, so go take a bath and then I'll give you a massage," honestly. Unless you say, at his birthday, "Hey sweetie, for your birthday, I'm going to write a check for the electric bill." In which case, it's your couple thing and it's cool.
 

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
971 Posts
LMAO my dh got a catalytic converter and sparkplugs/wires/o2 sensors for his birthday today!!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
we also did stop by his job and give him a funny card and balloon. and his birthday pie is in the oven <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent">
 

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
14,677 Posts
Yeah... I'd probably be tempted to dump a glass of tea on my DH's head if he tried to pass that off as my present. But then I've always been very clear to him that birthdays are very important days in my world view. Even when we were dead broke and both unemployed, he did his best to make the day special for me without spending much money.<br><br>
That would never fly here.
 

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
15,078 Posts
I would have to plan a very special dinner for his birthday. Something like mac and cheese or tuna sandwiches. And then tell him that is his birthday gift.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
439 Posts
OK, I'm sorry for you, but you just made ME feel better!<br><br>
I got snowshoes for my birthday this week, so "we can do more things together". Subtext: so you do more of what I want to do. Now, if it had been tickets to some new fabulous play so we could 'do stuff together' (him doing something I like?!), it would have been sweet.<br><br>
But, you know, he put some thought into that! Thanks for making me see it in a better light....I do hope your DH pulls through with something that is meaningful for you.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
6,792 Posts
Yeah, not so much. If my dh tried to pull that stunt, when his birthday rolled around, I'd make a big deal about sticking a stamp on an envelope and putting a credit card payment in the mail, then tell him that's his birthday present. I can sort of see the guy logic your dh is using, but it's lame guy logic. I wouldn't let that one fly because then he'd figure it's ok and do it every year forever, and what's mildly forgiveable one time isn't something I'd want to put up with for the rest of my life.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,003 Posts
I am not averse to something "practical" as a gift, since my DH is a "practical" kinda guy, but a vehicle registration would not even come close to fitting into that category. Soemthing can be both useful and thoughtful. I will leave it to you to determine whether your DH is clueless or thoughtless. If the former, I would cut him some slack and let him know, jokingly (perhaps in a few months), how bad he is at gift giving (though letting him know you appreciate the effort) and have a good laugh together. If, on the other hand, he is thoughtless, then I would have to go with a PP and give him the electric bill for his next birthday.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,606 Posts
I like practical gifts....but that to me is a necessity. Our money comes from one account I pay for it out of that account....not a gift at all. Practical-Blender or Car accessories, gardening stuff etc....registration...not so much. Hubby bought me new glasses for a gift one time....I was very happy as I still had functional glasses but I had been really wanting new ones.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
2,149 Posts
The only way I can sort of see it as ok is this scenario: the truck is not a necessity for you, but a fun thing that you own. Money is now tight, and registration is behind, so you haven't been able to pay it and thus can't play with your truck that is really a big fun toy. And so he works extra to make the money to pay for the registration so that you can go back to enjoying said truck after such a long time without being able to enjoy and use it.<br><br>
Otherwise, no dice and he gets an electric bill for his birthday<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
9,039 Posts
<div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
<div class="smallfont" style="margin-bottom:2px;">Quote:</div>
<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">
<div>Originally Posted by <strong>amma_mama</strong> <a href="/community/forum/post/15377469"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">I am not averse to something "practical" as a gift, since my DH is a "practical" kinda guy, but a vehicle registration would not even come close to fitting into that category. Soemthing can be both useful and thoughtful. I will leave it to you to determine whether your DH is clueless or thoughtless. If the former, I would cut him some slack and let him know, jokingly (perhaps in a few months), how bad he is at gift giving (though letting him know you appreciate the effort) and have a good laugh together. If, on the other hand, he is thoughtless, then I would have to go with a PP and give him the electric bill for his next birthday.</div>
</td>
</tr></table></div>
This!<br><br>
I can have practical gifts if they are what I want. I want a set of wrenches, new microwave, stove, et and that is what is bought I am more than fine with that. But paying a bill isn't, in most cases.
 

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
34,292 Posts
I think I would be tempted to fold his laundry or something for his birthday. I'm sorry. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
7,115 Posts
Oy. I actually don't even LIKE gifts, and DH and I do not exchange them, EVER. I could totally see my DH joking that the registration was my gift, but it would be a JOKE.<br><br>
If I had to have a gift, it would need to be practical, but THAT is not even a practical gift. A practical gift is like, I noticed your underwear was getting threadbare and I got you some new ones. Or like, I know you feel overwhelmed by all the clutter on the counter so I spent a couple hours and got it all cleaned off and put away for you. Or like, your plastic measuring cup's measurement marks have worn away so I got you a new glass one. Those are all gifts. Good ones, in my opinion, maybe not yours if you're not a practical girl. But they are gifts.<br><br>
Paying the registration is not a gift, not unless it's like a vehicle you never got around to registering but wanted to.<br><br>
I'd find the registration very amusing myself, but I wouldn't count it as a gift, just a joke (a funny one in my opinion, for what it's worth!). And that's the word from the mama who doesn't even like gifts.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
9,431 Posts
<div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
<div class="smallfont" style="margin-bottom:2px;">Quote:</div>
<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">
<div>Originally Posted by <strong>Drummer's Wife</strong> <a href="/community/forum/post/15376998"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">I guess it's better than nothing...</div>
</td>
</tr></table></div>
I think it's actually worse than nothing. Sorry that happened OP!
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
2,485 Posts
It would depend on if you guys usually do gifts. We don't unless there is something the other wants. If not we just do a meal, cake something simple but not the ordinary.<br><br>
If this is abnormal for your situation I would be upset about it. If it was me and I didn't have anything I wanted (I could always get it for myself anyways lol) I wouldn't care.
 
1 - 20 of 33 Posts
Top