[kozmickreations05]

DH and I were watching TV the other day and this baby on the simple life would not take this bottle out of his mouth. I said a comment about it and my dh (who is usually supportive) was like "DS sucks on his tumb all the time" Then he goes on to tell me how I embarass him when I go up to preggys and tell them the benifits of bf'ing and how hes over hearing about me feeling bad for bottle fed children. Maybe he was just grumpy but i said I can not help but feel bad. They are being denied their birth right! I pretty much just had to ignore him, that was the only thing I could do without starting an argument. What should I say to him to get him off my back.

 

[RolliePollie]

I saw the episode. THe kid was almost 2 and CONSTANTLY had a bottle in his mouth. To bed, in the bath...everywhere. How annoying. That kid is going to have horrible teeth.

 

[MelMel]

your dh is incredibly hot, i dont care what he says. he can tell me formula is nectar of the gods and i would just nod my head and smile.

(i clicked on your link in your siggy)

 

[rozzie'sma]

Wow, that is a tuffy. I guess I would have to explore his issues with bf'ing. If he feels that way he cannot really feel totally comfortable with it. I would be worried he is harboring resentment toward me

 

[sapphire_chan]

I think MelMel's onto something, everytime he starts whining about you promoting breastfeeding you should give him a big passionate kiss so that he forgets what he was saying.

 

[bri276]

my DH is a bf'ing snob

he notices formula even when I don't

but my dd is bottlefed breastmilk, and it's likely she'll still have a bottle when she's two. I am careful with her teeth and never let her take the bottle to bed with her but it doesn't annoy me to see toddlers with bottles. Sometimes they like the comfort the same way bf'ed toddlers need to bf for comfort.

 

[lillake]

Ugh! My DH is one of those who thinks it's a "personal choice". I haven't decided if I just need to preach it more or start whopping him with can of formula.

He sighs and rolls his eyes every time I go on about it, I just tell him when he gets pregnant and carries the next child then he can have an opinion.

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[Love_My_Bubba]

My DH is totally supportive of BF and my lactivism but he thinks I've gotten too judgmental about people who ff. So I guess we're kind of in the same boat!

 

[User101]

I think this might be a classic example of how our own attitude can turn people off. Frankly had someone come to me and said "I can not help but feel bad. They are being denied their birth right!" it would have been a real turn off to me as well. Maybe he worries that judgemental tone or actions are getting in the way of the real message?

 

[hawkfeather]

Maybe you should outright ask him if he would be happier if you compromised your morals like most women?

 

[frontierpsych]

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Originally Posted by hawkfeather Maybe you should outright ask him if he would be happier if you compromised your morals like most women?

OOOOOH!!! BUUUUUURN!!!!

 

[muckemom]

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Originally Posted by hawkfeather Maybe you should outright ask him if he would be happier if you compromised your morals like most women?

Sorry, I am kinda slow today, what did you mean by women compromising their morals???

 

[hawkfeather]

Compromise thier morals by not speaking thier minds.

 

[ndunn]

My DH swears that its not pregnant women that are crazy its us moms of babies who think we are "superior" is how he puts it.

I ask people about breastfeeding too, but not in a rude way, I just talk about how much I love nursing my dd. Anyway, my husband thinks I'm nuts. Oh well. He's a big supporter too he's just way more subtle and doesn't really care waht other people do.

 

[LydiaJW]

I'm with Mel Mel. What a hottie!!

And Noah is a doll. I love the sleeping photo!

 

[Shaunam]

I'm a bf'ing snob and I admit it. It irks DH sometimes like the other night when I saw a formula commercial come on and DH could see me glaring at it. He said, "You get to say *one thing* about it and then I don't want to hear anymore!" I said, "It should be called *Good enough start*".

He actually laughed. He hates it when I start in about it though. That and circ. I try to tone it down for him, but if I have something to say, I'm gonna say it darn it!

I saw that episode. Funny because I *never* watch that show. We don't even get the channel. Where the heck did I see it then???

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Anyways, that did bug me too. I have no problem with a 2 year old with a bottle. I DO have a problem when a 2 year old obviously gets more comfort from his bottle than he does his parents.

Ok, so I rambled. Yes, the show irked me. Yes, I'm a snob. Yes, it irritates my DH too. And I don't care.

I'm still going to promote bf'ing and I'm still going to get pissed at formula advertisements.

 

[muckemom]

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Originally Posted by hawkfeather Compromise thier morals by not speaking thier minds.

OK... sorry mommy-brain is in full force today

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[ExuberantDaffodil]

My dp thinks I'm a breastfeeding snob, too.

DP? heck, my whole family thinks I'm a breastfeeding snob -- ... ok.... I AM a breastfeeding snob! But not to people I don't know, just to the people who will listen to me and love me anyway (i.e. DP, family). OK, there was this one incedent in Target yesterday when I saw a "Formula One" baby onsie, and I said (very loudly so that all the people in the infant section could hear me) to DP, "WHERE'S THE BREASTFEEDING ADVOCACY WEAR?!"
My sister used to tease me for it a lot, but as her nursling gets older and older, I've heard a couple of comments slip out of her, too. My BIL, who used to say "Why are you so concerned with how people feed their babies?" now gets into conversations with me about how wet nursing should make a come back.
I'm slowly turning my whole family into lactivists.... mwa-ha-ha-ha!!

 

[rozzie'sma]

When I see a preggo I always give her a card with our LLL info on it and invite her to a meeting. I play up how fun it is to meet other new mamas etc. Then when she is isolated from the herd the lactating mamas surround her and integrate her into the club.

 

[zen_monster]

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Originally Posted by MelMel your dh is incredibly hot, i dont care what he says. he can tell me formula is nectar of the gods and i would just nod my head and smile. (i clicked on your link in your siggy)