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Wow. I'm so sorry.

As someone who had both a stepdad and a dad who, although otherwise loving, delivered some harsh words on occasion, let me just say that it needs to stop. It's enough to cause lifelong damage.

My ex grew up with a dad who used to say things like that to him. He's a great guy - intelligent, great sense of humor, so much to offer... and he'll never really see it because of what his dad's comments did to him. He has terribly low self-esteem. It has devastated him.

He started saying things to ds when he was younger - about being disappointed in him, etc. We had a number of very serious talks about it. Fortunately, he got it.. mostly, anyway. If he hadn't, I would have insisted that we go to counseling until he did and successfully changed his behavior. It's that important.
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