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<p>my DH is adverse to getting help of any kind. he had a medical problem he waited 8 years to deal with and ended up needing surgery to deal with it. invasive, painful, 8 weeks to recover from surgery. but conversely he wants to to deal with everything for him. he wants to do it all. </p>
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<p>i am sick of being his mommy. he resents me when i don't baby him. it's infuriating. he's a smart, capable 40 year old man. </p>
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<p>anyway, he is really depressed, refuses any help and won't do anything to get better. i have no idea what to do with him. </p>
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<p>anyone have any suggestions? i tried talking to him yesterday and it was like banging my head against a wall. he's so invested in it being everyone else's fault that he won't accept ANY responsibility for dealing with it. he won't even talk to his T about it. (who he sees for anxiety)</p>
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<p>i just don't know how much more i can take. </p>
 

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<p>my opinion is that you share with him your concerns and let him know how you feel, then let it go. It's his choice if he chooses to do anything or not. It's not your responsability.</p>
 
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